Yijian Cheng, born in Hong Kong, China, is a Chinese actor and singer. Representative works include "Wind and Cloud 2", "Ancient Puzzle Boy" series, "I want to become famous", "Apprentice Black Rose", "Priceless Treasure" and so on. In 1988, he participated in the Rookie Singing Contest and joined TVB, entering the industry for filming the "Sunshine Lemon Tea" advertisement, and worshiping Saint Rowan as a teacher. He joined BMG Records in 1991. In 1995, he starred in the "Ancient Puzzle Boy" series
Do you want to have children? What do you think the purpose of having children is?
Hearing these two questions, the previous generation may have answered: "Why not give birth, having children is a proper thing, so what is the purpose?" ”
In the eyes of the fathers, marriage, having children, and raising children are the necessary processes in life, so they never think about the meaning behind these things, but complete these things according to the established life track, as if this is complete.
But in modern society, this concept has been refreshed, and it can even be said that it has been largely overthrown.
When we see the experience of fathers who have worked hard for their children for their lives, they will unconsciously reflect: raising children is so hard, do we really have children? Do we really have the ability to raise a child as an adult?
When the pressure of society ensues, and the car loan and mortgage are overwhelmed, we are even more immersed in deep thinking: life is so difficult, do we really want our children to experience all this?
I have to say that the development of society has opened people's horizons, but also let us dare to question some established things, which makes many people see the responsibility of parents, see the meaning behind childbirth, and think of the life and future of children.
Therefore, many people are more and more unsure whether they should have children, and they are less and less afraid to have children. It is precisely because of this that there have been groups of Dinks in life, who have challenged the traditional concept of fertility and are changing our view of fertility. Although they are highly questioned, the hidden real problems behind this cannot be ignored.
Why don't young people want to have children anymore? Probably because they think it's too difficult to have children.
First of all, from the economic level, the pressure to have a child is too great, two office workers can not even afford their own lives, how to take care of a child?
Secondly, from its own point of view, although having children will bring a lot of happiness, it will also be attached to countless troubles, such as accelerating female aging, affecting the quality of life of two people, etc., so many people would rather not have children than change the current state of life.
Finally, from the child's point of view, we take into account the problems that children face.
Many fathers will say that having children is an inevitable choice, and that they can have children naturally if they want to, but in our opinion, this practice is very selfish. Because children have no choice but to arrange them, if we only give birth according to our mood and do not consider the consequences they may suffer, then it is tantamount to putting them in danger, which is too unfair.
In real life, similar situations are not uncommon. For example, some parents have not considered the consequences of having children, nor have they measured their abilities, but have children on a whim.
After giving birth, they cannot give their children enough economic conditions, cannot educate them, and do not even know how to help them avoid suffering, but can only let their children suffer setbacks, which is too cruel for children.
Children cannot choose to be born, they can only passively bear the path we choose for them, if the road is full of flowers, it is understandable, but if the road is full of thorns, what should they do?
Instead of blindly giving birth and letting the child bear the consequences, it is better not to have children first, at least, such a choice will not hurt anyone.
This is the reason why many people do not have children, not that they do not like children, but that they know that the responsibility of raising children is too great, and they are unwilling to let their children come into this world when their own ability is not enough.
In a way, this idea of not having children is really responsible.
As we all know, singer Zheng Yijian has been married for many years, born in 1967, he is already 53 years old, generally speaking, people of this age should have become fathers long ago.
But people familiar with Zheng Yijian know that he has never had children and does not seem to have any plans to have children.
In this regard, many people are very puzzled, obviously Zheng Yijian has a stable job, a rich life, and a good relationship with his wife, which meets all the conditions for childbearing, why do you not want to have children?
In a show, Zheng Yijian made an explanation, he confessed that there are too many sufferings in this world, he has no way to make his children happy in such a world, so he chooses not to give birth.
Zheng Yijian's answer has resonated with many Dink people.
When it comes to the meaning of procreation, parents may say that it can perpetuate incense or make our lives more complete.
But in modern society, the continuation of incense is no longer the goal of young people, and we do not agree with the statement that "children can make our lives more complete", because children are not appendages of our lives, and it sounds selfish to use his birth to make our lives more complete.
At this point, we are not thinking about what benefits fertility brings us, but what it brings to our children.
As Zheng Yijian said, modern society is full of pressure and suffering, adults still can't make themselves happy, how can children avoid all this?
Imagine seeing that after the birth of a child, you must withstand the pressure of schoolwork, you must live in the eyes of the people around you, and you have to walk the same hard road as us in adulthood.
Some people may feel that this is the only way for everyone, and there is nothing to complain about. But there are many people who will find this cruel, because as long as they are not born, all this can be avoided, it is our forced birth, sending them to such a hard society, and we are not able to protect him, and this is a heart-wrenching result.
Seeing Zheng Yijian's answer, I suddenly understood the reason why many adults choose to be Dink.
They just don't want their children to suffer, and if they have the ability to change all this, they may choose to have children, but at this stage they don't have the ability, so they can only dink.
Of course, this is not to say that procreation is all selfish, but rather that procreation cannot be treated as a casual thing. Know that one decision on your part is enough to affect your child's entire life.
If you have the ability to make your child happy, you can choose to have children, but if you don't, it is best not to blindly give birth.
This ability is not only manifested in money and family, but also depends on the person's mind and spirit. The meaning of procreation can only be realized by ensuring that you can provide them with a relatively happy environment, that you have the ability to educate them into sound personalities, and that you can help them reduce suffering as much as possible.
Otherwise, childbearing is a selfish thing, and the child will face the risk of being abandoned, treated badly, brought badly, and beaten at any time. At that time, it will only be them who will suffer, but they are powerless to change, how helpless.
It is often said that not having children is selfish because some people only think of themselves. But in this day and age, it is more selfish to have children casually than not to have children, because you do not have the ability to bring warmth to children, but you want him to take responsibility for the integrity of your life, to ask him to provide for you, and to let them fall into pain.
So, don't underestimate the matter of procreation. To be born or not to be born is a normal choice, there is no distinction between high and low, but no matter which way you choose, you must be responsible for your child.
Children are not raised, raised but not taught, incapable but forced to give birth, suffering is two generations, we must be cautious.
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Topic: Why do you think young people are reluctant to have children? What do you think should be in place to have a baby?