As soon as he mentioned AA to his wife, the man repented: she asked Dink and did not want to have a child

Speaking of the AA system, most people are not unfamiliar, this payment method originating abroad has been recognized by many people, especially young people.

After all, in interpersonal communication, many people are active together, which creates an expense, and how to deal with this expense directly affects each other's relationship. After all, no one wants to suffer losses, and when they encounter people who want to take advantage, it is inevitable that there will be disputes.

AA, a few people involved, the cost is divided into several parts, each out of a portion, this is indeed a fairer way of payment.

However, classmates can take AA, relatives and friends can also take AA for dinner, and colleagues can do things together, so can marriage be?

On this issue, I asked the opinions of the people around me, most of whom did not approve of the marriage AA system.

"How AA? Money is good AA, but what about the rest? For example, doing housework? Filial piety to the elderly? What's more troublesome is, how to AA having children? If he can replace me for five months pregnant, share half of the pain of childbirth, and postpartum sequelae, etc., I can consider AA. ”

Marriage, the requirements for men and women are not the same, we need to pay different things, the return is naturally different.

As Xue Zhaofeng said in "Strange Story": marriage, is to run a family business, signed, is a lifetime wholesale futures contract, both sides together to pick up their own resources to run a business, this time the resource package given by both men and women is not the same, there is a body, fertility, appearance, family relationships, and their own future growth potential.

These resource packs cannot be measured in monetary terms, it is your responsibility to the family, and there is a reward for the effort. If you can only see your own efforts, but you can't see the other party's efforts, always feel that you have paid too much, unfair, but think that the other party should do everything is the right thing, is the obligation, then, the other party will also feel cold, there will be differences between you, and the marriage will also have rifts.

There are also support for AA, Liu Shuang is very much in favor of marriage AA, the reason is that it is not necessary to quarrel over a few dollars of things, but also to promote the other half to work hard to make money and better improve the quality of life.

"To be honest, I have long planned to implement the AA system with my wife, and I have never found the opportunity to speak."

01.

All along, Liu Shuang has been dissatisfied with the income of his wife Yuan Juan, believing that Yuan Juan's income is too low, her contribution to the family is too small, and it is unfair to him.

"The two of us met through blind dates, and since we were blind dates, we must have gone for the purpose of marriage, so naturally we must pay attention to appropriateness."

When he was on a blind date, Liu Shuang felt that the two people were quite suitable, the family situation was almost the same, they were all only children, and their parents were social security, and there was no big burden. When they got married, Yuan Juan only needed 30,000 dowries, and the two families each paid for the couple to buy a two-bedroom apartment in the city.

When they first got married, the salaries of the two people were similar, and Liu Shuang was more than a thousand times higher than Yuan Juan.

After getting married, although Yuan Juan's salary rose somewhat, it still failed to break through five thousand, but Liu Shuang changed a new job, usually took the initiative to apply for overtime, had time to supplement knowledge through the network, learned new skills, the performance has been significantly improved, and the salary has naturally risen, currently close to ten thousand.

The salary is twice that of his wife, liu shuang feels satisfied at the same time, but also dislikes his wife's low income, thinking that his wife is not motivated and content with the status quo, which is not a good thing for the family.

"She doesn't want to increase her income, even if it's a month, she knows to buy and buy all day, she has nearly 5,000 wages a month, the mortgage is deducted from my salary card, she is responsible for living expenses, but how much can it cost to the two of us at home?" She knows all day long to buy things, take couriers, unpack couriers, many of the clothes in the wardrobe are ninety new, only worn once or twice, like words? I didn't listen to what I said. ”

02.

Liu Shuang communicated with Yuan Juan, hoping that Yuan Juan would put more attention on work and strive to increase her income, at the same time, it was necessary to arrange expenses reasonably, and not always buy some insignificant non-necessities of life, but Yuan Juan accused Liu Shuang of being too stingy, even his wife had to spend money, and the husband and wife frequently quarreled, and could not reach an agreement at all.

Therefore, a few days ago, after another quarrel with Yuan Juan, Liu Shuang couldn't bear it and proposed AA to Yuan Juan.

"Mortgage 4322, AA is 2161, after that, you take so much money to me every month, bear half of the mortgage, don't forget, this property deed is written on our name, why is the mortgage only deducted from my salary card?"

"In the future, family life will produce expenses, you will write down the account, send it to me, I will give half of it, and the remaining half will be done by yourself."

"If you ask me for money again, it is my freedom not to give it, and if you still want to buy and buy like crazy, you have to find a way to make more money yourself." 」

Listening to Liu Shuang's words, Yuan Juan was unusual, did not quarrel with Liu Shuang, was silent for a while, returned to the room, and locked the door.

03.

After an hour, Yuan Juan came out, still holding a paper and pen in her hand, which made Liu Shuang feel very strange. Until Yuan Juan told him three specific requirements about AA, Liu Shuang immediately repented and did not dare to mention AA again: "She asked Dink and was unwilling to have a child." ”

"With me AA, you're serious, right! Well, I promised the AA, explain the details clearly, write clearly in black and white, sign the name, take a photo to commemorate, the next time which violates, there is evidence to dismiss it. ”

Then, Yuan Juan and Liu Shuang calculated the account, not the economic expenses, but the account of housework and child-rearing.

First, there is the aspect of housework. It turned out that after half a year of marriage, Liu Shuang rarely undertook housework, which was related to his frequent need to work overtime and return home late.

"In the past, housework such as washing and cooking, washing pots and dishes, sweeping the floor was all packed by me, and when you came home, you either played with your mobile phone or slept upside down, and you didn't even know that when you went out, you threw away the garbage. Now, we've broken down the housework, you're responsible for half of it, I'm responsible for half of it, and whoever doesn't do it is fined. ”

"As for cooking, don't think about it, don't forget, when we go to the restaurant to eat, the money is not only the money for buying vegetables, but also the chef's cooking fee!" How much are you going to give me at a time and let me cook for you? ”

Before Liu Shuang had time to refute and accuse Yuan Juan of being unreasonable, Yuan Juan had already talked about having children.

"You know how hard it is to have a child, you know? First of all, women have to experience the pain of pregnancy in October, the pain of childbirth, and even the danger of life, you also said that when your mother gave birth to you, it was difficult to give birth, almost gone, how do you AA this pain and risk? Secondly, you know how harsh companies are on women right now? If I get pregnant, nine times out of ten I will be fired by the company, lose my job, have no income, you AA, what should I do during this period? Finally, the child was born, but I had to suffer from the after-child effects, the child is still with your surname, why? What exactly can you afford in this regard? How AA? So, to be fair, let's dink, no more children. ”

After listening to Yuan Juan's series of questions, Liu Shuang couldn't find any words to support his AA theory.

Finally, Yuan Juan clearly put forward the issue of parents' pension, if you want AA, that is, who parents are in charge, and the in-laws' affairs have nothing to do with her.

If nothing else, on the matter of having children, Liu Shuang is speechless, in this regard, women's efforts really cannot be measured in money. At this point, Liu Shuang had to honestly apologize to Yuan Juan and did not dare to mention the AA matter again.

04.

Psychologist Wu Zhihong wrote in "Chinese-style love and love" that the unlovable things in marriage are because the original intention is not out of "I love you", but from "you give me" - not that there is something wrong in marriage, but that there is too much to ask for marriage.

When marriage is beneficial to your life, when it gives you benefits, you immediately reach out to get more, when marriage requires you to pay a certain cost, you are eager to cover your pockets, do not want to give anything, just want to harvest, do not want to pay, where is such a good thing under the heavens?

If things are uneven, there will be resentment, and marriage also pays attention to the balance of supply and demand. Think about it in another way, if the other half blindly asks you to give, both you have to bear all the responsibility of supporting the family, but also want you to take care of the housework, she eats, drinks and has fun at home, does not do anything, all the pressure is on you, can you bear it? Would you like to have such a spouse?

Husband and wife collocation, work is not tired, marriage requirements for couples are not the same, only have a willing to pay, know how to be grateful heart, in order to manage the marriage, so that marriage to each other to bring benefits, marriage can go long.

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