He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
There is a question on the knowledge: what kind of man can not marry?
One of the answers was, "My dad."
"If it were possible, I'd rather never marry for the rest of my life than find a man as bad as my father."
Then, the girl shared the misfortunes of her original family.
When she was in middle school, her father betrayed the marriage and brazenly led Xiao San to live at home.
Although she was still young, she already understood all this.
What the father did was to force the mother away and occupy the family house.
No way, her mother took her to live in an outside rent.
The living expenses and study money she grew up with were all earned by her mother; she studied with her mother while working odd jobs in a rental house of more than ten square meters.
Although she has now graduated from college and started working, she has no expectations for marriage when she thinks of her family's misfortune and the pain her mother has endured over the years.
Some people say: Unfortunate people, all their lives are healing childhood.
The stage of growth of the original family, the environment experienced by a person, the state of life, and the love of parents may affect his future concept of marriage and love.
For girls in particular, they are hurt and pressured more.
When words such as "domestic violence, pregnancy betrayal, third party, widowhood marriage, and child-rearing alone" flashed over and over again on the Internet, it greatly increased the idea that women were reluctant to marry.
So, in the relationship between the sexes, what kind of men can not be trusted?
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"Ma Bao Man"
What is Ma Bao Male?
The explanation in the encyclopedia is: "Unconditional obedience to the mother's opinion, that everything the mother says and all the decisions made are correct; everything is centered on the mother, and there is no opinion of her own." ”
The most common features in them are:
"My mom said it wouldn't work"
"My mom doesn't agree with me being with you"
"My mom doesn't like you, so I can't be with you either"
Some time ago, a female reader left a message.
Female readers said that they met a mommy boy on a blind date.
The boy's parents divorced at an early age, and he has been living with his mother, and at the age of 30, he can't cook or wash clothes, which is entrusted to his mother.
Whether it is life or feelings, he must listen to his mother's advice.
The final result, of course, is the failure of the blind date.
If you marry a "ma bao man", it is difficult to have a peaceful "two-person world" in your married life.
A strong mother-in-law, an independent daughter-in-law, together, is a marriage disaster.
There are many failures in marriages, not because the husband and wife have discord, but because parents are too worried about their children's marriages and stretch their hands too long.
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"Can't figure it out", the wife is an outsider
In the face of a married woman who is too partial to her mother's family, men will say that she is "confused".
On the other hand, if a boy does everything to his parents, hides from his wife, and even treats his wife as an outsider in agreement with his family.
Such a man, why is not "confused"?
The most common examples are:
Men do not have the ability to be financially independent, and all their monthly income is given to their parents, who take their place.
Even if he is married, he still cannot control the economy on his own, and he must listen to his parents in everything.
Whatever his parents say, he does, and he does not dare to go against his parents' wishes, even if it is wrong, and he does not have the courage to resist.
Among the readers I consulted, there was a female reader whose story went like this:
After getting married, she had a fight with her mother-in-law.
The reason is that the mother-in-law came to her house without permission and rummaged through things.
When she came home from work, she found that she had fewer makeup and fewer clothes.
After inquiring, I learned that the clothes and cosmetics had been given to relatives by my mother-in-law.
Because of this incident, she had a big fight with her mother-in-law and asked her mother-in-law: "Why did you give my things away privately?" Why can't you respect my opinion? ”
When the husband learned about it, he not only did not help comfort his wife, but instead sided with his mother-in-law.
The husband said to his wife, "Isn't it just a few pieces of clothing, and can't you just buy them again?" She is the elder, and you should let her go. ”
So, the two people also quarreled.
Not long after they got married, they were in a lot of trouble.
Looking at this matter from the perspective of a bystander is obviously the fault of the mother-in-law.
No sense of proportion, selfishness, strongness.
And men?
No responsibility, no responsibility, no clarity.
Shouldn't the thinking of a normal man be: first favor his wife, explain the right and wrong of this matter to the elders, and then reconcile the contradictions from it?
So, if a man can't grasp the sense of proportion between family and lover, then there will be more contradictions after marriage.
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"People are poor, hearts are poorer"
"Poor and strong, do not fall into the ambition of the clouds."
This is the greatest charm of a man.
What do you mean?
A person, even if the situation is difficult, he will not give up the effort; the more difficult it is, the more he will be scrappy and will not lose his lofty ambitions.
A man who is poor is not terrible, the terrible thing is that he is not only poor, but has lost his self-motivation and has chosen to "lie flat" from then on.
I have such examples all around me.
A man, 30 years old, has achieved nothing, has no serious job, and lives off odd jobs.
When there was no money, he went out to work odd jobs for two months, earned some money and then lay at home.
The money ran out and went out to work.
And so it goes, day after day, year after year.
There were more than 20 blind dates, and none of them succeeded.
Why?
No girl wants to marry such an unreliable boy.
The ancients said: Thirty and standing.
In the year of establishment, even if there is no good career, at least one job; otherwise, what girl is willing to marry a boy who has no security and no financial conditions?
A person can be poor for a while, but not for a lifetime.
As long as he has responsibility, courage, responsibility, and perseverance, he will one day have his own happy life.
In the eyes of girls, the difference between love and marriage is:
She is willing to lose her mind for love, but will not compromise for the sake of marriage.
Love can not consider the economy, only care about passion and romance; but marriage, must consider the door to the door, consider each other's three views, economic conditions.
Today's Topic:
What kind of boys, do you think, can't marry?
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