The most beautiful thing in the world is love, in fact, the most painful thing is also love. Because of the obsession of love and the excessive love, love will be transformed from beautiful happiness into pressure and pain.
In the married life, husband and wife always like to use the feelings and responsibilities between husband and wife to bind each other, restrain each other, even if it is where to go, what to do, when to go home, these are their own things, they have to be explained to each other over and over again, otherwise it will be easy to cause misunderstandings and contradictions and quarrels and doubts.
When we restrain each other as husbands or wives, we don't feel anything, and we may feel that it is very normal. But on the other hand, when the other party treats himself in this way, he will feel the pressure of bondage.
As husband and wife, it is also a common thing for people to care about each other's stomachs, just like husbands or wives come home late from work, we will definitely worry about the intestines, which is not excessive. However, in the feelings of love, we tend to care too much because we love too much, and often care too much about these as a right to control each other.
Love in obsession, is to occupy the other party's free space anytime and anywhere, so that the person you love belongs to yourself completely, which is to invisibly love this most beautiful feeling, into a kind of emotional pressure on the other party, to give the other party a feeling of being bound, very uncomfortable, and even try to get rid of such care such love and care.
We may also feel that this kind of control is really for the good of each other, this is the display and expression of true love, in fact, we should really let love become a kind of beauty, a kind of pleasure into life, rather than transforming into a bondage, making both people miserable, but also hurting each other. If you really love someone and do it for the good of each other, don't put pressure on each other to love, and don't create pain for both sides with excessive love.
Just like when we like a flower very much, the person who really loves the flower is not willing to cut it off, interrupt its life, and ruin the whole life process of the flower because of temporary possession.
And the love of flowers in the name of picking flowers is destroying flowers, not loving flowers in the heart, and this domineering possession is not at all because of love, but a very domineering and selfish behavior.
Usually, we often want to appropriate what we love for ourselves, and for love, affection, appropriation for ourselves, can not behave like cutting off a flower. Man is not a flower, man has his own thought and free space, and everyone is an independent individual, even husband and wife, can not control everything over each other.
No matter how much you love the toys, you will eventually throw them aside, and if you love people, if they hurt and suffer in the name of love, such love will be cold sooner or later. Love is the most beautiful feeling in the world, and we need it to warm the soul and accompany this life, so when it becomes painful torture, it completely loses its original meaning and value.
Excessive love is painful, because it becomes total control and loses the vitality of love. Invisibly added a series of shackles, which is where people feel the most pain.
People are all seeking advantage and avoiding harm, where there is pain, we want to escape from wherever we are, and the same is true of love, if your so-called love makes the other party miserable, the other party's heart must want to escape from you. Instead of being a slave willing to make love, everywhere is controlled by you all the time, and no one wants to live as anyone's puppet, and whoever controls and manipulates it at will.
Therefore, even in marriage, we need to learn to make love truly beautiful, rather than let it become a pain in bondage because of excess. If it is painful, love is not beautiful, if it is not beautiful, people's hearts are very uncomfortable, so they will choose to flee or betray and hurt.
Truly loving someone is really not so simple and rude to possess. Learning to truly love someone requires not only to give with sincerity, but also to let go of relative circumstances. Love in the light and happy, in order to make people feel good and happy and happy.
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