He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
See a set of data on the web:
The Ministry of Civil Affairs released the number of marriage registrations in 2021, 7.636 million pairs.
This figure is only 56.6% of the peak in 2013.
What does it mean?
In recent years, the number of marriage registrations has decreased year by year, and young people are less willing to marry and are less and less reluctant to get married.
Some time ago, the "age of first marriage broke through 30 years old", and combined with the number of marriage registrations continued to decrease.
Comparing the two, what problems were found?
What are the reasons for the reduced desire of young people to marry?
-01
The cost of marriage is getting higher and higher, and it is better to support a family than to support yourself
The economic base determines the superstructure, and this saying will always be true.
No matter from which angle and under what circumstances the marriage problem is analyzed, it will eventually fall on the "economic problem".
Even if couples fall in love again, as long as the parents behind them speak, they will eventually face "economic" discussions.
For boys:
If you want to marry a girl you like, the most basic conditions are to have a car, a house, and a stable job.
Not only that, but these are not nothing, when two people get married, they also have to give a bride price and have a wedding.
After marriage, to support the family, once the lover is pregnant, then the man must take on the responsibility of supporting the family and taking care of the wife and children.
For girls:
The marriage of girls is also a test and a gamble in life.
If the bet is right, maybe the future life will be happier and happier; if the bet is wrong, then the savings she has accumulated from her work before marriage will probably be lost.
Moreover, once married, girls will have to face a choice: to be a full-time wife or to be a strong woman in business?
After all, after having a child, there must always be someone in the family to take care of the child.
And what are the rewards of marriage for today's young people?
Some time ago I saw a set of data:
Nearly half of the current single young people belong to the "moonlight family".
The money is used for mortgages, car loans, living expenses, etc.
In other words, marriage is not necessarily a "1 + 1 = 2" situation, but also may be a "-1 + -1 = -2" situation.
Single youth are becoming more aware that:
Marriage will not be easily chosen until there are not enough economic conditions; with sufficient economic conditions, there is no hurry to choose marriage.
-02
I haven't taken a good look at the world and don't want to easily walk into the "siege"
Single young people from the countryside and single young people living in the city have different views on marriage and love.
For most young men in rural areas, the ultimate goal of working outside the home to earn money is to:
Make money first, and then go back to your hometown to get married and have children.
And for single young people living in cities with more education, their plans are:
After studying for so many years, it is not easy to graduate, with a high degree, you should go to work hard and show your fists.
If you haven't had a good taste of the world, how can you let yourself fall into the siege of marriage?
However, the advantage of rural men in choosing a mate is very low.
The house, the car, the savings, the conditions of the original family, are all disadvantages for them.
At present, young women are not willing to "marry".
On the other hand, single young people in the city have good family conditions and good personal conditions, but they have no intention of getting married prematurely.
Therefore, there is a "fault line" in the crowd that leads to marriage.
In this way, people who want to get married can't find a partner, and people who don't want to get married don't bother to take care of marriage problems.
-03
I'd rather be wronged than cheaper than cheap
At present, the concept of marriage and love among single young people has undergone tremendous changes.
Why?
The current marriage model, the concept of marriage and love, and the attitude towards feelings are too "anxious".
Young people are more willing to go straight to the subject when they are in love:
Whether it is suitable, whether the other party's conditions meet my criteria for mate selection; if so, try it, do not meet the immediate abandonment.
Over time, I went farther and farther on the road of choosing a mate, but I still didn't meet the person I wanted.
In the end, they became the group of people in the outsider population who "preferred to be lacking rather than indiscriminate".
In fact, there are too many factors to consider in love and marriage.
For example: personal conditions, family conditions, personality factors, appearance, IQ thinking, etc.
Most importantly, whether it is the current single young men or young women, they are more focused on self-feeling.
"I'm good, I'm not bad, so I won't wrongfully enter the marriage."
A person is also doing very well, the income is OK, there are several friends, there are many interests and hobbies, what is wrong with being single?
For girls, when they can live their lives better and better alone, they are less eager to fall in love.
For boys, they want to fall in love, but in the end they still choose to live alone.
Of course, there is another reason:
They don't want to get into the siege of marriage too early, they don't want to experience the trifles of marriage.
It's like your parents ask you, "Why don't you find someone to marry?" How old are you? ”
You answer them, "Because I don't want to go your old ways, I don't want to live in a marriage like yours." ”
Today's Topic:
Why do you think young people are reluctant to get married anymore?
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