As the saying goes, "men should marry, women should marry", but in the current society, there are more and more "older unmarried young people", and even many young people have begun to resist marriage and pursue "unmarriedism".
Daughters become "leftover women", sons play "single sticks", parents naturally can not avoid worrying, waiting for a certain age, almost all parents will be to their children's ears, organize blind dates, especially in the spring festival just past, I believe that many young people return home, have not been "greeted" because of marriage problems.
So the same are "unmarried people", "daughters become leftover women" and "sons beat single sticks", which parents can not accept it?
Daughters become leftover women, and social pressure is greater
Although the current society has always advocated equality between men and women, in fact, public opinion is still more friendly to unmarried men than unmarried women.
The so-called "men thirty-one flowers, women thirty tofu slag", the same 30 years old do not marry, women are criticized far more than men.
For men, the public may think that they are career-oriented, not only will they not be rejected, but even in the eyes of some people, this may be a "plus".
On the other hand, women, "treatment" is far less friendly, even if the career is good, it will be easy to attract criticism: the reason why they do not get married is not because of fertility problems, or because their personal style is not improper, or their vision is too high, over time, it is easy to appear rumors.
In addition, women also need to face the reality of declining fertility, more than 35 years old, and then want to get pregnant and have children to encounter more difficulties, if not married and have children, there is a certain psychological pressure.
In terms of family, unless it is some "son preference" family, parents tend to be more natural in their mentality about the marriage of girls, although the daughter does not have a good home, parents do feel very "sad", but compared to those "sons play bare sticks" parents, it is undoubtedly easier.
Therefore, compared with "sons playing bare sticks", "daughters become leftover women" will bear more social pressure, family pressure is relatively less, and parents' acceptance is relatively high.
The son beats single sticks, and the family pressure is even greater
Passing on the generations is a traditional concept in the mainland, and many boys' parents have such ideological baggage and will rush to "hold their grandchildren".
And the son can not marry the daughter-in-law, which means that the family has lost the opportunity to pass on the generations, parents can not avoid being anxious like "ants on the hot pot", in order to let the son get married, do everything possible, while giving the child greater family pressure.
According to the latest census data, the number of men is currently 30 million higher than that of women, in today's "more men and fewer women" society, men are more difficult to marry, so for "older young men", it is more difficult to establish marriage, and parents will naturally be more anxious.
In addition, taking a step back, if the "leftover women" are willing to lower the standard and lower their vision slightly, then there is still the possibility of marrying out, and for the older "single sticks", marrying a wife and having children can be described as difficult as ascending to the heavens, and parents will inevitably worry about their sons' life events.
Therefore, from the family point of view, the parents of "sons playing single sticks" will be more likely to worry, and the acceptance level is relatively poor.
To avoid children being left behind, we must cultivate a correct concept of marriage and love from an early age
In fact, whether it is "daughters become leftover women" or "sons play bare sticks", parents can't help but be anxious, after all, no parents do not want their children to find the ideal other half and build a happy family.
The reason why young people refuse marriage is because of huge economic pressure on the one hand, and on the other hand, it is their own concept of marriage and love.
For the former, we as parents can only provide help within our ability, and for the latter, we must establish a correct concept of marriage and love to avoid children's resistance to marriage.
For example, some young people choose not to marry, in the final analysis, because they are influenced by their original families and see the misfortune of their parents' marriage, so they refuse marriage and protect themselves.
In the process of children's growth, we should first lead by example, run their own marriage, there is a saying that "the best family education for children is that fathers love mothers", the significance of which is that a happy family environment is crucial to the growth of children, only by hearing and doing unspoken teachings, children can establish a correct concept of marriage and love.
Secondly, we must also pay attention to guidance, when the child is in the emergence of gender awareness, into the critical period of adolescence, to give targeted education, not only to let the child learn to protect themselves, but also to teach the child how to correctly treat the inner emotions, guide them to establish a healthy love relationship, establish a positive and correct view of marriage and love.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Whether it is a "leftover girl" or a "single stick", parents can't help but worry.
If we want to help our children establish a happy marriage, on the one hand, we must try to support our children's careers, after all, "love can have no bread, but marriage can't work", on the other hand, we must establish a correct concept of marriage and love for our children, so that children can bravely pursue the other half of life.
Today's topic: Do you think that "the daughter becomes a leftover woman" or "the son beats the bare stick" which is more unacceptable?
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