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Youth is always nostalgic, only because in the years to come, it will not be as carefree as it was then.
Everyone comes from youth, whether it is love and hate or laughter and tears, the prosperity is over, and finally it is necessary to return to reality and work hard for life.
But some people don't think so, they think that young people should play for a few more years, so there is no struggle when they should struggle, and when they should get married, they still start and end one relationship after another, but they don't know that when they are overdrawn, they always have to pay back.
02
Xiao Li has been working hard since graduating from college, in order to make more money, the job has become 997, but the career is still not improving, and there is no girlfriend.
The family was anxious because of his marriage, but he introduced a lot of blind dates, and they couldn't look up to Xiao Li, or because of Xiao Li's work, or because of Xiao Li's poor family, in short, the girls who had met him had never contacted him again.
Xiao Li is an honest person, the neighbors and friends think that he is a good child, not only learn well from childhood, but also know how to understand his parents, but Xiao Li's family is also really poor, and it is not too much to say that the family is surrounded by walls.
Xiao Li's parents are authentic farmers, have been living by farming, selling grain all year round can not earn much money, in order to provide for Xiao Li to go to school, spent all their savings, but Xiao Li has a younger brother, but also want to go to school, the father has no way, can only go out to work to earn money.
But the disaster is not alone, only two months, Xiao Li's father was hospitalized because of a work injury, it is said that he injured the muscles and bones on his legs, and even if he is cured, he will have sequelae.
At this time, the burden of supporting the family is all on Xiao Li, not only to bear the tuition and miscellaneous expenses of his brother, but also to bear the cost of his father's medical rehabilitation, Xiao Li feels pressure, and he has no intention of falling in love.
This delay has dragged on to the thirtieth year, and over the years, with Xiao Li's efforts, the family situation has improved, but after all, he is the only one who makes money to support his family, and his life is still tight.
Just when Xiao Li thought he was going to fight a single stick for the rest of his life, he met a woman on a blind date.
The woman is two years younger than Xiao Li, and she is also in her early thirties, she looks very good, and her personality is also funny and humorous, the most important thing is that she does not dislike Xiao Li's family is poor, nor does she dislike Xiao Li at this age, and she still has nothing to do, she looks at Xiao Li.
Although he is not young, Xiao Li has never been in love, and he believes what the woman says, and he feels that his love is coming.
The two people naturally fell in love, but after all, at this age, they could not delay for a few years, and only after knowing their girlfriend for three months, they proposed marriage.
For Xiao Li, marriage is naturally good, but the wedding room and the bride price make him hesitate.
Knowing that Xiao Li did not dare to agree to marriage because of these material conditions, his girlfriend generously said that he had a house and a car, the bride price was not needed, he still had a dowry of 180,000 yuan, and xiao Li's brother did not have to worry about getting married in the future.
This made Xiao Li overjoyed, having such a good girlfriend was really a blessing for him to cultivate in his third life, so he began to zhang Luo's marriage, taking his girlfriend with him everywhere he went, eating with friends and bringing a girlfriend, and showing off that he had a girlfriend with everyone.
There are more people to see, and problems have emerged. A friend came to Xiao Li and advised her not to marry her girlfriend.
The family's good things are near, and Xiao Li is naturally unwilling to be mixed up by friends, and they all wish the newcomers a hundred years of good union, and this friend how to come up will persuade him to break up. But after listening to his friend's reasoning, Xiao Li was also silent.
It turned out that my friend had seen Xiao Li's girlfriend before, or seven or eight years ago, when Xiao Li's girlfriend was still the girlfriend of a relative of friends.
At that time, the woman was pregnant and was in the stage of preparing for the wedding, but the woman looked at a rich boss and said that she had to break up with her relatives, originally the relatives did not agree, the children were all there, how can we say that we broke up.
As a result, the woman said that the child is not a relative at all, she has a relationship with many boys at the same time, she does not know who the child is, originally looked at the relatives honestly, thinking of not playing to find a receiver, now there is a better choice, she regrets it again.
This matter is a very big blow to relatives, and they have not been in love for many years, and they are afraid of encountering another liar.
Now this woman came to find Xiao Li, eighty percent is also old, there is no good choice, want to find an honest person to marry, but can not live a good life, but really can not say well.
Xiao Li, who has never seen the world, listened to his friends' words and was stunned, he naturally did not believe it, but the friend was obviously prepared, and opened QQ casually, and now most people use WeChat, but the relatives of friends have always kept Xiao Li's girlfriend's QQ, large chat records, intimate photos of different boys in the QQ space, all of which show that the friends are right.
"It is said that it is better to demolish ten temples than to demolish a marriage, true brother, I just told you, you can think about it, don't be greedy and cheap and be deceived." When the friend was leaving, he said to Xiao Li in a serious tone.
After the friend left, Xiao Li also thought about it for many days, these days he did not see his girlfriend again, he did not know how to face his girlfriend, these days of getting along Xiao Li is sincere with each other, but the girlfriend is to give himself a bureau, Xiao Li is really uncomfortable in his heart.
But think about it, such a person as a girlfriend, he must not be able to control, hesitate again and again, and finally Xiao Li still proposed to break up.
03
In the face of huge interests, first of all, we must see what we have, whether we deserve it or not, all that we deserve is matched with our own ability, and once it is exceeded, we must think about whether it is a scam.
First: Men and women, do not indulge yourself at the best age.
Everyone's life has its own trajectory, when to do something, once you miss that time, it is difficult to do it again.
Just like falling in love and getting married, twenty-four or five years old is the best age, and missing this age is dangerous for women.
The first is the woman's own choice, the average woman likes to find a man who is slightly older than herself, but when a woman reaches the age of twenty-seven or eight, most of the boys with better conditions are married.
The rest are either bad jobs or poor family conditions, and women are not willing to make it up, so they delay again and again, and the more they drag on, the more difficult it is to find.
The second is the choice of men for women, men with slightly better conditions, all like to find young and beautiful women, even men in their forties and fifties, but also the most like the little girl in their twenties, so all the older young men who are not very bad, they also look down on women in their thirties.
Even so, many girls still like to squander their time when they are young, and most of their slogans are to take advantage of their youth, to do what they want to do, to love the people they want to love, but never want to the consequences, and when they are old and want to settle down, they find that the capital has been squandered by themselves.
Therefore, smart girls know how to cherish their wings, and they will also plan their own lives, and will not indulge themselves and let themselves fall easily.
Second: Life is originally a cycle of cause and effect.
We believe that there must be a cause and an effect, the so-called heavenly path is good reincarnation, and who the heavens have spared, although it is just a joke, we have to believe it.
Everything has a cause and effect, and only by planting a good cause can it bear good results. Love is like this, marriage is like this, and so is life.
Just like Xiao Li in the above, because his family is poor, he can't get a girlfriend, because he is eager to get married, so when he meets a girlfriend, he doesn't believe in his girlfriend without any consideration.
In fact, if you think about it, you will feel that this girlfriend is weird, has a face and money, why do you look at Xiao Li, who is old and has poor work and poor family conditions, and would rather stick money to marry Xiao Li, what is the charm of Xiao Li?
So Xiao Li will believe, because he is honest, he has no love experience, he is too anxious to get married, so he deceives himself.
And Why does Xiao Li's girlfriend look up to Xiao Li?
She is not short of money, but she lacks a person who really hurts her, and what she wants is a stable life, but because of her own indulgence when she was young, she dragged herself to the age of not finding a good object, plus her reputation is not good, it is difficult to find a xiao Li who is willing to believe in herself, naturally it is necessary to firmly hold it in her hands.
But what he did when he was young is a fact, can not be erased, even if he is sincere to Xiao Li, but has exhausted everyone's trust, in the end it is still a void.
Whatever cause is planted, you will get what effect, so I advise everyone to think about it later when doing anything, and not just look at the present.
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