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In today's society, with the promotion of equality between men and women, the social status of women is also getting higher and higher. But with the emergence of this phenomenon, there are some women who use the ideas of others to respect her for profit, and use the identity of the weak to achieve their own goals.
This thinking is extremely wrong. Whether in society or in marriage, boys respect girls because they understand that girls are not easy. In such a matter as marriage, it is easier for men to accommodate women because they feel that this girl is excellent and deserves to be valued.
However, now some girls do not see the man's attention to himself when they get married, and only see that the man is willing to compromise in all aspects in order to marry himself. This allowed them to see an opportunity to get married and want to get married to get more bride price to their families.
As everyone knows, the man is willing to give the bride price because he likes the girl, rather than begging the woman to marry the girl to their family. Even if the current social situation is that there are more men and fewer women, it does not mean that women are right to do so.
Although Zhang Li is 30 years old, she feels that she has a high education and a salary, after all, as a girl, she does not need to buy a house and a car, and the current society only has "men who can't marry their daughters-in-law", and there is no need to worry about "girls can't marry out". This time for her marriage, she looked down on Ren Jie in her heart and wanted to take advantage of the opportunity.
Since childhood, he has excellent grades and high self-esteem.
Zhang Li's family conditions are relatively excellent, her parents are government workers, and her work is stable. At the same time, there are several houses in the city. Although Zhang Li also has an older brother, the people in the family still hurt her very much.
Since she was a child, her parents have also been more strict with her education, and she is not like ordinary children in elementary school, and she can play after school. Every day after school, her parents enrolled her in interest classes and cram classes.
At the same time, Zhang Li is also a relatively strong girl. Whether it is in the interest class or the school, she strives to be the first. If someone stole the first place, Zhang Li would see that person as an enemy.
Under such family education, Zhang Li also lived up to expectations, and her achievements were excellent from an early age, becoming what adults call "other people's children". Since Zhang Li started her studies, all the schools have been regionally focused. During the college entrance examination, he played a stable role and was admitted to a top five universities in China.
In her senior year, following the advice of her parents and other relatives, she chose to go to graduate school. After graduating from graduate school, Zhang Li chose a local business job under the arrangement of her parents.
Zhang Li has felt that she is an excellent person since she was a child, whether it is on the outside or inside. In her heart, she feels that all the boys she has met for so many years are not worthy of her, especially after work, the academic qualifications of her colleagues are not inferior to Zhang Li, even if they are managers, she does not pay attention to them, thinking that the manager is just more senior than her, and how to be better than him at that age.
People in the family are also proud of Zhang Li. However, as Zhang Li grew older, the family also began to worry about her marriage. Because Zhang Li has felt since she was a child that no man is worthy of her, she has never been in love. Faced with the persuasion of her parents, she also agreed to go on a blind date.
Blind date meets honest people, Zhang Li feels very lively.
Zhang Li met Ren Jie on a blind date. Of course, Ren Jie's family situation is not as good as Zhang Li's family, but his academic qualifications are the highest among the kinds of men introduced by relatives.
In the face of such an excellent Zhang Li, Ren Jie also appreciates her, although Zhang Li's age is not small, can be regarded as a leftover woman, but in the years of other people's work and marriage, Zhang Li chose to study. Compared with other girls in this age group, Zhang Li is very remarkable.
Zhang Li was also very satisfied with Ren Jie, thinking that he was obedient, and there were so many people, Ren Jie was ok. If she had to choose one, she felt that Ren Jie was quite ok, so the two people began to contact.
The two sides also rushed inside the house, and after the two met for a month, they felt that the conditions on both sides were very good. The two families began to discuss the marriage of the two people.
At the beginning, Zhang Li's family asked for a dowry of 200,000 yuan, and also asked Ren Jie's family to have a house and a car. Ren Jie's family knows that Zhang Li's family is also very rich, and feels that the family is to see the sincerity of their own family, and their sons have worked hard for so many years, and the family has long bought a marriage house for Ren Jie, indicating that the 200,000 dowry is willing to agree.
The two sides had already discussed it in the house. Zhang Li felt at this time that she was so excellent, when her cousin married, she wanted 200,000 yuan, she was also an ordinary academic qualification, that she was a graduate student from a top university, this dowry money was too low, and the marriage room did not have its own name, which was not OK.
Zhang Li temporarily changed her mind, wanted to add a bride price, and the house was named.
So Zhang Li called two families to eat together. Without consulting her parents at all, Zhang Li said, "Now that the bride price has not been given, I think 200,000 is too little, how can it not be 300,000?" And how can the marriage room not have my name? ”
After Zhang Li said it, Ren Jie's family was very dissatisfied, after all, it had been discussed, the woman's dowry of 200,000 yuan was already not low in the local area, the original family felt that Zhang Li's family had a high education, and her children were high, so the requirements for the woman were also satisfied as much as possible, but now it is a bit unspeakable.
Ren Jie also did not expect Zhang Li to say this, after all, in his heart, although Zhang Li was a little proud, but the people's own conditions were superior, this little bit of small nature is nothing, and he was also very happy to marry Zhang Li such an excellent wife. At this point, his filter on Zhang Li was completely broken.
The man's family did not agree to Zhang Li's request. The meal ended up unhappy. Zhang Li saw that they did not agree to their own requirements, and they did not worry in their hearts, after all, they were so excellent, ren jie's family could not find it with lanterns, anyway, they did not worry about marrying, put down the words, Ren Jie's family did not agree to their own requirements and did not marry.
The original marriage was "cut off", and Zhang Li regretted it a lot.
During the period when the woman's family did not express their position, Ren Jie and his family had recognized the true face of Zhang Li. At the same time, I was also glad that fortunately the problem was exposed early, otherwise I didn't know what to do when I came back.
Ren Jie has already achieved the position of manager at a young age, and there is no shortage of people in the company who have a good feeling for him. One of the girls was five or six years younger than Ren Jie. In fact, after hearing that Ren Jie got married, she was already going to give up, but after Ren Jie's remarriage was revealed, she rekindled her hope.
Ren Jie has actually always had a good feeling for this girl, but the age difference between the two is really large. Originally, he had already thought about spending the rest of his life with Zhang Li, but after Zhang Li did such a thing, he also knew that the two of them were impossible. And the girl's persistent pursuit, he is also very moved. It didn't take long for the two to establish a romantic relationship and began to talk about marriage.
Zhang Li saw that Ren Jie's family was not moving, so she went to inquire about the news. It turned out that her marriage was cut off, the girl was after 95, the family was very rich, younger and prettier than herself, no bride price nor the name of the house.
Zhang Li regretted it at this time, but it was already too late.
The status of women in society is getting higher and higher, and more and more of them are receiving higher education, and some of them will have the wrong idea that they are highly educated and superior to most men.
Simply because they have received a higher education or because their families are better off, they have contemptuous thoughts about their future other half. And for this reason, they feel that the man's family should all listen to themselves, after all, they are begging to marry themselves.
However, they did not think that in the marriage relationship, mutual respect is the basic condition for the maintenance of marriage. It is true that in modern society, there is a family status in which women are strong and men are weak, but deep down, two people are still equal.
As a girl, you should not use the weakness of your own gender to seek reasons for yourself, you know, others treat women preferentially, because they are more considerate of the difficulties of women's lives and are more willing to respect women.
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