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Some time ago, she chatted with a friend who had only worked for a few years, and she said that she had begun to inquire about various plans and consider her pension.
In this regard, in fact, many people have also mentioned to her that there is no need to think about the future so early, obviously she is not yet thirty years old.
She said that in her current state, there is no intention of getting married, then, the biggest problem at present, is only the problem of pension.
1. Are we abandoning this era?
A survey of post-95s has shown that women in the new era are under pressure and think of problems far more than before.
Once a woman, expecting a better family, a more complete marriage, a bland life.
Contemporary women, because they are exposed to more fields of content and information, will be more complicated for their future considerations.
Some people say that modern people have abandoned the traditional way of life, are unwilling to marry and teach their children, and always overemphasize themselves.
In fact, it is more because the changes in this era are too fast, and people's needs change, which is also a rapid change.
We are not abandoning this era, but we want to put more value on cultivating ourselves, and we are not willing to choose in situ.
For the current economic, pension, health, education, work, social and so on pressure, everyone has to consider, there are too many factors to refer to, and it has long been impossible to generalize with the past.
It is precisely because of this anxiety of life that more people have to make plans to deal with it early, after all, we never know which one will come first tomorrow and the accident.
2. I don't want to make up my life
A friend, who ended his marriage of more than five years some time ago, returned to his mother's house with his children, and planned to start a new life.
In fact, their husband and wife relationship does not have too many problems, but more often, his husband is not able to understand her feelings, nor will he feel sorry for her efforts.
For many families now, in fact, 'widowed parenting' and 'widowed marriage' abound, and people no longer expect love, but are discouraged.
Parents constantly urge, 'It is enough to have someone who can live a life, and there are so many perfect marriage partners.' ‘
However, I have been so all my life, why do I have to live in the expectations of others, and even give up my original better self for these things?
Indeed, we need to admit that most people will always enter the palace of marriage at some stage to complete the establishment of a family of their own.
However, marriage does not mean love, and marriage does not mean happiness, it is just a way of life. It's not like getting a permit and everything is going to work out.
Marriage needs more to be managed, but now people are tired of managing anything, so simply not getting married and not in love has become the current trend.
It's not that we no longer believe in love, but that we can foresee that unhappy life, so there's no need to let it shine into reality.
3. I always have to think for myself
Someone said, "In the end, people have to give, just like our elders." People who blindly think only about themselves are selfish. “
I remember a line in "The Great Gatsby" that says: Whenever you want to comment on others, you remember that all the people in this world are not in the same situation as you.
The life I face is not the life you see. Then, you are not qualified to say that you are in my point of view and have thought about the problem for me.
Because, what I have experienced, you have never experienced, and it is precisely in this world that there is no so-called empathy. It's hard work, only you know.
Therefore, do not persuade others to make a choice, because only he knows best how to take each step. It's not for anyone else, it's for himself.
If, if you really find that those roads are wrong, then it is understandable to go back and make a new choice. After all, you can't live your whole life just for others.
Sacrifice once, others may be moved, but sacrifice for a lifetime, most people will only feel accepted, but also become at ease.
4. Don't stay up late, live well, love yourself
Many times, no matter what you are doing, or what decision you have made, I hope that this thing will have an impact on you must be positive.
Don't feel that you are young, you are crazy to consume yourself, the disease has no age, and it will not easily let you go because you are young.
Regardless of any holiday or weekday, take good care of yourself, plan your life and property reasonably, and enjoy life and resources in moderation.
Every day of life is like a brick, anxiety is useless, you have to build up steadily, it is your own tomorrow.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.