Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
An original emotion number that deserves your attention
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Ovid wrote in The Metamorphosis: "Everything is changing, nothing is going to disappear." ”
Everything in the world is changing, and what was once hot is easy to be left out, even if it is not eliminated by the times.
This principle can be applied in various fields, including marriage and love.
The neighbor's aunt said to me: "Now the post-95 girls are particularly particular about finding a partner, not without a stable job, and not for boys from families with many children." ”
She means not having a stable job, but she means that the income is ordinary and not in the system.
The "iron rice bowl" has always been sought after, but this has not changed, and what has really changed is everyone's attitude towards the family structure.
The generation of parents especially likes families with many children, and they firmly believe that the strength of people is great, and the number of brothers and sisters will not be bullied by others.
Today's multi-child families, however, are ostracized by many young girls.
The post-95 girl's view of mate selection seems to be unexpected, but in fact, it is reasonable.
First, boys in the system are highly contested
The reason why post-95 girls like boys in the system is because of the advice of their parents and because of their own judgment.
It is undeniable that boys in the system do have advantages that others do not have.
1, the ultimate pursuit of ordinary people is stability
The pursuit of ordinary people is not to be rich and expensive, because they know how difficult it is for people at the bottom to turn over.
They only hope that they can spend the rest of their lives in peace and stability, do not have to worry about unemployment, and get a stable salary every month.
And this can only be done by boys in the system.
When I was young, I didn't pay attention to the work within the system, and when I was older, I understood why my parents wanted their children to go to the civil service.
2. High education is conducive to the growth of the next generation
Most of the working people in the system are bachelor's degree or above, which is the basic condition for the examination.
Father's academic qualifications have a very important impact on the education of the next generation, and people with high academic qualifications are better than ordinary people in terms of vision and thinking mode.
And that happens to be the part that girls value most.
3, more time, can take care of the family
The working people in the system are not like ordinary office workers, who need to endure long hours of work pressure and have to work overtime at some times.
Their working hours are very fixed and they have long breaks.
This way, they have more time to take care of their families.
What women really need is companionship, and many migrant workers cannot meet their needs.
Second, families with many children are feared
The reason why young girls don't like families with many children is because their predecessors have tried it for them, and they see the pain in their eyes.
1, the family economic conditions are not good enough
Raising children is not an easy task, and most of the only child families are not in poor financial condition, because they only need to raise one child, and they can save the rest of the money.
Families with many children are diametrically opposed, because they have to spend more time and energy to raise their children, their savings will be relatively small, and the family's economic conditions will not be good enough.
If it is a family with several sons, there may be no way to help everyone buy a house, so the financial burden will naturally be very heavy.
2, in-laws' love and dedication can not be single-minded
The biggest advantage of the only child is that they can get all the love of their parents, and the parents will give them everything, which is something that families with many children can't reach.
Because of the large number of children, the in-laws could not wholeheartedly help one of them.
Whether with children or otherwise, they will appear to be overwhelmed and inadequate.
If you meet an eccentric in-laws, life will be relatively more difficult.
3, is not much
There are many brothers and sisters, and there are many right and wrong, which is a case that everyone often sees.
Everyone says that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem for eternity, but in fact, the contradiction between sister-in-law and sister-in-law is also a problem for eternity.
As the saying goes, three women in a play, multiple women get together will often give birth to many incidents.
The old people always feel that the family is lively, but for young people, it is actually a heavy burden.
Third, the post-95 girls' view of mate selection is well thought-out
It is often said that marriage is equivalent to the second reincarnation for a woman, which is not false at all.
The family of origin is the starting point for a woman, and marriage is a turning point for a woman.
Marriage is a major event in life, and it is not allowed to be sloppy, because everyone cannot afford to lose.
And the way to take life's events seriously is to think carefully.
Obviously, the post-95 girl's view of mate selection is well thought out, and they also know what they want and what is most important in a marriage.
Although the demands they make are relatively rigid and even make many men uncomfortable, marriage itself cannot satisfy everyone.
What's more, from the perspective of human nature, all people are exquisite egoists, and as a normal person, it is not a bad thing to plan for yourself and seek the welfare of your future.
On the contrary, it is a manifestation of a person's maturity.
Love is only a matter of a moment, and marriage is a lifelong event, and it should be considered for lifelong events.
With a rational attitude and a way to weigh the pros and cons to choose the other half, it is not easy to go the wrong way.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
May your life be full of surprises, and may your happiness come as scheduled.