After the release of the 2020 census data, the whole network once again set off a wave of discussion about the difference in the number of men and women.
According to official data, there are currently 34.9 million more men than women in China, of which the sex ratio is 108.9 in the marriageable age group of 20 to 40 years old, and the number of men is 17.52 million more than that of women.
According to this set of data, it must be difficult for men to marry now, up to 100 out of 108 men are married, and fierce competition will lead to men being absolutely weak in the marriage market.
After all, no one wants to be those 8 people.
Many people hold such views, but others oppose them.
Because in our daily life, it seems that we do not see any leftover men, but the phenomenon of leftover women is very prominent.
This is also evidenced by data from commercial paid dating sites, where the majority of paying customers are women and women with higher educational incomes, with far fewer paying male users than female users.
It seems that women can't marry.
There are more marriageable men than women, but in the end it is women who are left.
Both are facts, both are true, and they are well founded.
Today I will tell you why, and then talk about the three facts in the marriage market, the kind of facts that you have not noticed.
First fact.
In China, although it seems that men have 30 million more than women, in fact, women have 300 million more than men.
The claim that women have 300 million more than men comes from the fact that 600 million people in China have a monthly income of less than 1,000 yuan.
Suppose that half of them are men, and suppose that the other half has no income at all and is all dependent on men.
The monthly income of these 300 million men does not exceed 2,000 yuan.
All the little girls here, the monthly income does not exceed 2,000 yuan, no car, no house, no education, and the man who lives in the countryside, do you consider marrying?
Without giving a sky-high bride price, I don't think anyone will consider getting married.
There seem to be 300 million men, but they do not exist in the marriage market, which is equivalent to expungement.
Academician Ding Zhongli once asked a soul question that year, and he asked Chai Jing: "This is a fundamental question, Chinese is not a person."
In the eyes of girls of the right age, men with low monthly income are equal to non-existence.
So although men have 30 million more than women, women have 300 million more than men.
This is the first explanation for the phenomenon of more men and fewer women, but the phenomenon of leftover women.
The second fact also helps to explain the phenomenon of leftover women.
In the field of high education, there are really many boys and girls.
The current sex ratio is 108, with men accounting for 52% of the population and women accounting for 48% of the population.
In the compulsory education stage, the proportion of female enrolment is only 47%, which is 1% less.
However, among the college students in the class of 2020, the ratio of male to female admitted has shown a striking contrast, with 52% of female students and 48% of male students nationwide, and the ratio of men to women is completely reversed.
At birth, 108 male babies correspond to 100 female babies.
But among freshmen, 108 girls correspond to 100 boys.
This also occurs at the primary school entrance stage, where the proportion of girls is lower.
This is not only happening in 2020, in fact, educators have noticed this phenomenon for more than a decade, and the number of female students admitted to universities far exceeds the number of genders.
47% of girls took away 52% of the admission quota, 53% of the male students took out 48% of the admission quota, and the combat effectiveness of women in the college entrance examination was 130% of that of men, which was obviously superior.
The reason for this phenomenon is that the physical and intellectual development of girls is significantly higher than that of boys of the same age, about 2 to 3 years old.
Especially in the primary school stage, 8-year-old girls can even hang and beat boys of the same age physically, and even 2 years older can beat a dozen, not to mention intelligence.
In the initial stage of primary school and the middle school entrance examination, women eliminated many men and obtained better school resources.
Women in these two stages, the advantages in the exam are extremely obvious, and a little consultation with a teacher knows this situation.
After puberty, men's physical strength increases rapidly, but in terms of IQ and emotional intelligence development, it is still significantly behind women.
The 17-year-old girl talks and acts and thinks about problems like an adult.
A 17-year-old boy, frizzy, looks a little better than a mud-playing kid.
At the stage of the college entrance examination, men are still in a weak position, but the situation of intellectual backwardness is a little better than the previous two examinations.
Men have to develop until they are 20 to 23 years old, and their intelligence can catch up with the gap with women of the same age.
But by this time the college entrance examination was over.
In addition, due to different genes, men naturally like adventure and sports, and naturally like to be mischievous and disrupt the order.
But in the schools of modern civilization, all emphasize order, emphasize quiet culture, emphasize memory and memorization.
Everything about exam-oriented education is born to be suitable for girls who love Jing.
Guangming Daily also published a special article calling this phenomenon the boy crisis.
According to the traditional Chinese view, women must find a man who is better than themselves.
But of the people with college degrees, 108 women correspond to 100 men.
The extra 8 college girls can only marry no high school students or even junior high school students.
If not, then this girl can only be single.
The number of births corresponds to 100 women from 108 males, directly contributing to the phenomenon of sky-high bride price, because no male wants to be left behind.
Under the premise of having a university degree, 108 women correspond to 100 men, which directly leads to the difficulty of marrying highly educated women.
Beijing once did a survey, the proportion of older unmarried young women with higher education is 81.1%, while more than half of the older unmarried young men are junior high school graduates.
The only way to solve this problem is to let these leftover women with higher education marry leftover men who have not gone to college.
But it's clear that the vast majority of women are reluctant and would rather be single for the rest of their lives.
This does not take into account the fact that there are many college-educated boys who are willing to marry high-school girls.
You say, college-educated girls, this can not be difficult to marry, it must be difficult.
It is said that there are more men and girls in big cities, in fact, it refers to the fact that there are more men and girls among people with university degrees.
There is a third fact.
That is, men's IQ talent is very extreme, far less flat than women's IQ curve.
As I said just now, in the stage of exam-oriented education, girls of the same age hang and beat boys, and their combat effectiveness is obviously superior, which directly leads to a long-term overdose of college girls and leads to the difficulty of marrying after graduation.
However, there is also a situation in test-taking education, that is, in the top 9 universities in China, directly analogous to the Nine Schools Alliance of the Ivy League in the United States, the so-called C9 schools, the proportion of male students far exceeds that of female students.
It is not to say that there is a little advantage, but to occupy the advantage of terror.
In these nine universities, only Fudan University has a male-female ratio of nearly 1 to 1, male students only have a slight advantage, and the other one is more terrifying than one.
The male-to-female ratio of Peking University is 1.2 to 1.5 to 1 per year.
The male-to-female ratio of Tsinghua University, Nanjing University and Zhejiang University is 1.5 to 2 to 1 per year.
In the case of in-law, Harbin, and West-to-West, the ratio of men to women is 3 to 4:1 per year.
The University of Science and Technology of China is the most terrifying, with a perennial 6 to 7 to 1.
In the entire 985 university, in general, the number of boys is significantly higher than the number of girls, and the higher the school level, the greater the proportion of men.
Even at Peking University, which specializes in liberal arts, the proportion of male students is much greater than that of female students, which is obviously an anomaly.
In the overall number of college admissions, male students account for only 48%, obviously compared with birth, people explain that girls' brain development is early, and the rote memorization of test-taking education is more suitable for girls.
However, the higher the level of the school, the greater the proportion of boys, and at the top of Tsinghua Peking University, boys can directly increase by 20 to 50% more than girls, which is obviously more abnormal.
Educationalists have no explanation for this.
I have my own speculation about this, and I personally think it may be because in billions of years of natural evolution, men are born with the extreme factor of unsuccessful becoming a person in their genes.
The rate of genetic mutations in men is much greater than in women.
Since females are responsible for fertility, females will only like the top 10% of males due to their physiological characteristics and strategies to maximize genetic benefits.
Males are different, because the cost of childbearing is very low, so males will like the first 90% of women.
The marriage system of modern society restricts this instinct, but many things brought by genes cannot be changed.
Men, desperately trying to make themselves the top 10%, can only get the right to mate if they reach this level.
Women, on the other hand, just don't be the bottom 10 percent at the bottom.
These tendentious competition strategies begin from the moment you are born.
In terms of genetic variation, men are obviously more extreme and more gambling.
To mutate, we mutate a little more.
Not mutating and becoming wasted is an ending, it is all a death, it is better to gamble.
Today's men who do not perform well in test-taking education are not necessarily useless in the direction of their genetic mutations.
For example, some people are more suitable for low temperature mutations, and some people are more good at fighting diseases, and these mutations cannot be reflected in college entrance examination results and work income.
Genes are so mutated, just want to gamble, in case the environment changes, it will become the most suitable, the best quality genes.
There is no mutation and no mating rights anyway.
As for the fact that modern society has forcibly invented monogamy and greatly slowed down the competitiveness between men, genes have not yet received notice from the organization, and still let men mutate drastically according to the rules of billions of years.
Women are different, women are more conservative, even genetic mutations are conservative.
You don't need to be the best, but you must not be too bad, as long as you can get the right to reproduce.
If it is not necessary, extreme mutation is a very risky and unworthy act.
So, women have an advantage in university enrollments, but men in turn gain a greater advantage in the top universities.
This is the consequence of the mutation of male extremism, either going to heaven or entering the earth.
And this extreme mutation also has a consequence, that is, the probability of male mutation into the top intelligence will be much greater than that of women.
Tsinghua and Peking University do not represent the end of IQ.
Some people go to Tsinghua Peking University because the cold window of hard reading has finally made up enough points.
And some people go to Tsinghua Peking University purely because they can't find a better university.
The most proof of the impact of genetic variation is the Department of Mathematics at Peking University.
The mathematics department is a place where personal talent is completely tested, and all it takes to start with a pen and a pile of scratch paper is enough, and even if your dad has ten trillion, he can't help you with anything.
If it doesn't work, it doesn't work.
To think is to want, to think is to think, and to think is to think.
The so-called mathematical masters, the so-called Olympiad champions, in the face of real mathematical geniuses, do not even have the qualifications to kneel.
Wanting to rise in the mathematics department, completely relying on genetic variation, there is no way, the so-called personal effort, hard work, in the face of real talent is so cheap and worthless.
There is a senior student in the mathematics department of Peking University, who once said a very famous sentence: "After leaving the school, I gradually realized that in fact, I am just an ordinary person ~ ~ before I always thought I was an sb"
The top talents in other fields, in fact, the IQ requirements are similar, but many fields of talent need a lot of additional resources, such as the physics department, without the top laboratory you are difficult to become a talent, many people are not convinced, feel that they have a big mentor to take themselves, unlike the mathematics department can directly prove the importance of talent.
Therefore, mathematicians, physicists, and the people who really rely on talent to reach the extreme of human beings are obviously more men than women.
Billions of men have genetic mutations together, risking their own waste, in exchange for so many geniuses.
This situation has led to thousands of years of patriarchal society, whether it is military or political struggle, the top duel is more than male players.
And the patriarchal society has brought about a phenomenon that women generally want to marry the best men, even if they are not the top, they must be better than themselves.
This genetic mutation strategy can lead to the top males being strong, but there is also a consequence, that is, at the middle and low end levels, men are generally weaker than women.
After all, high-intensity variation comes at a price, and you can't just benefit and don't want to pay the price.
In ancient society, this cost is indifferent, the mortality rate of men is too high, the mutation fails to fail, anyway, do not mutate, even if you do not die, there is no mating right, or equal to death.
But in modern civilized society, due to the great increase in the survival rate, the sharp reduction in wars and conflicts, and the implementation of the marriage system between husband and wife, there is another consequence.
That is the top, the group of men who have successfully mutated, no matter how good, can only have one wife.
But a large number of women still stare at this group of men according to the reproductive strategy since ancient times.
If you can't get married, you can only retreat to the second place.
But the men below are generally slightly weaker than women, but women still require that men must be better than themselves.
This is contradictory.
Therefore, in the marriage market of modern society, there are so many contradictory statements, but every one of them feels that they are correct.
In terms of the overall population ratio, 108 males correspond to 100 females, and 8 males are destined to find wives.
In terms of the sex ratio of college freshmen, 108 college girls correspond to 100 college boys, and 8 highly educated women are destined to find a husband.
From the top, the university sex ratio of more than 985, men in turn far surpass women, bringing the illusion that men should become the social elite and bring high income to families.
But in reality, most men, can't do it.
Even weaker than women, the number of highly educated people is less than women, which is also normal.
It is impossible for every boy to find a girl, because there are not enough girls.
It is also impossible for every highly educated girl to find a boy with the same degree, because there are not enough boys.
The top group of people had a gender reversal, but the numbers were too small, pitifully small, and monogamous.
As for what class you are in, whether you are a man or a woman, what kind of marriage strategy you should choose.
I don't give advice, just give a real Situation in China, so that you don't have to be blinded.
Only by understanding the real marriage market situation can we develop the most suitable marriage strategy for ourselves, and can we find the best quality object in the current monogamous environment.
Thousands of mountains and rivers are always love, and it is not okay to give a "good look"