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There is a saying on the Internet that says:
"In this world, the most distant distance between people is the difference between the three views."
The so-called three views refer to the world view, life outlook, and values.
To put it simply, the three views are people's positions and ideas on things, attitudes and views on the world and life.
Confucius's Analects of Wei Linggong has a cloud: "The Tao is different, and it is not a conspiracy." ”
The meaning of this sentence, according to modern parlance, is that the three views are different and do not need to be strongly integrated.
In terms of knowledge, there was a hot question:
"When you were on a blind date, did you ever meet a strange blind date?"
The following answers are varied, all kinds of strange blind date stories, making people sigh, the world is big, there is no wonder.
One of them replied:
"Blind dates meet strange things, but they are different from each other's three views." In the eyes of the strange, you are also a strange person, because there is no standard for the three views, and in the world of crows, swans are also sins. ”
Things are clustered in groups, and people are grouped.
But blind dates break the circle of life you live in every day, allowing you to meet people outside many dimensions. That is to say, you are on a blind date, and there is a high probability that you will meet someone who has a different view from your three views.
01. Parents urge marriage, helpless to go on a blind date
Netizen Ding Ya (pseudonym) also met a person with different views during a blind date.
Ding Ya is 30 years old and still unmarried, she has been in love several times before, but unfortunately it only blossomed and did not bear fruit.
As we age, so does the pressure from our parents to urge marriage. In the eyes of her parents, she is already a "leftover girl", and if she does not seize the time, she will end up alone.
In fact, Ding Ya's personal conditions are good. She is beautiful, tall, and has a good income, which is above the middle level in the second-tier cities where she is located.
She is financially independent and her thinking is also very independent. She moved out of her parents' house very early and lived independently. Two years ago, I paid a down payment on a house and lived alone.
For her, marriage really wasn't a necessity, but her parents didn't think so. At the repeated urging of her parents, she embarked on a blind date.
Not long ago, her mother helped her arrange a blind date.
Blind date male 31 years old, graduated from a prestigious university with a master's degree, IT industry.
The blind date man's hometown, in a tea-rich place on the southeast coast, is in the same city as Ding Ya's mother. He matched Ding Ya in every way.
Ding Ya's mother was very optimistic about this blind date.
Ding Ya originally had the mentality of coping and went to the appointment. The meeting place was chosen by Ding Ya, in a fine restaurant not far from her residence.
02. Blind date meets the favorite object, and talks very happily
Unexpectedly, the first time they met, the two talked very happily. The height and appearance of the blind date man and his dress and demeanor are quite in line with Ding Ya's expectations.
Although the blind date man is somewhat restrained and does not speak much, every time Ding Ya throws out a topic, he can catch it and give his own insights.
The blind date man is from the country of tea, he likes to drink tea, talk about the tea ceremony, talk about it, all kinds of knowledge points, so that Ding Ya, who also loves tea, listens attentively.
Ding Ya was a little happy, a casual blind date, even she could meet the object of her choice.
After finishing the meal, the time was still early, and the two were still unsatisfied.
Ding Ya wanted to invite the other party back to watch the movie, but the movies that were being released in the cinema had some seen them and some were not suitable. Ding Ya thought about how many good teas there were at home, so she invited the blind date to the house to taste tea.
The blind date man was stunned, he was a little embarrassed, and said sarcastically: "This is a little bit bad, okay?" ”
Ding Ya did not think so, her residence is near the upper floor, less than 5 minutes away, go upstairs together for a cup of tea, what is wrong?
In this way, Ding Ya took the blind date home for tea. Upstairs, Ding Ya asked him to visit casually, and he first went back to his room to change his clothes.
When she came out of the room, she found the blind date man on the balcony, fiddling with a pair of dumbbells. The blind date man saw her coming over and asked, "Do you usually use such heavy dumbbells for fitness?" ”
Ding Ya replied casually: "I don't have that much strength, it's for men, it was left by my ex-boyfriend before, and I always wanted to take it and throw it away, but it was too difficult..."
For the rest of the day, the blind date man fidgeted.
Ding Ya boiled the water, took out the good tea at home, and carefully brewed it while looking for a topic, but the blind date man was obviously a little absent-minded.
After the blind date man drank two cups of tea, he left on the pretext. Ding Ya was a little puzzled, obviously they had a lot of fun talking before, why did they suddenly become a little cold?
03.30-year-old leftover woman was puzzled, invited him home for tea, and was blacked out afterwards
Soon, the mystery was unveiled by the WeChat message of the blind date man.
The blind date man said in the message: "You are very good, but I can't accept that a girl with rich emotional experience and a history of cohabitation, a woman who respects herself and loves herself, can be loved by others."
So, we don't want to contact again in the future. By the way, to give you a word of advice, after the first meeting on a blind date, do not bring each other to the house, others will think you are very casual. ”
The blind date man's message makes Ding Ya speechless, inappropriate is not appropriate, nonsense said so much, only the first time to meet, how to know that I do not respect myself and do not love myself?
The more Ding Ya thought about it, the more angry she became, sending messages to reason in the past. Unexpectedly, the blind date man had already blacked her out.
Ding Ya was in a terrible mood, what age is it now, who doesn't have one or two exes, can they be on the line?
The blind date man is still a master's degree from a prestigious school, and he has received higher education, and his thinking is so pedantic that it is really disgusting.
04. The three views are different, and there is no need to be strong
Haruki Murakami said, "Not all fish live in the same ocean. ”
Similarly, not all people have the same three views.
Two people with different views see the world in their eyes, which is different. The same thing is also understood differently in the eyes of people with different views.
Just as Ding Ya feels that it is a normal thing, but in the eyes of the blind date, it is a bottom line principle that cannot be touched.
The three views are different, and there is no need to settle down.
A person's three views are a person's attitude and way of life.
Two people with different attitudes to life and lifestyles, barely coming together, will only become a disaster.
There is no absolute right or wrong in the three views, only whether it is appropriate or not.
The purpose of blind dates is to find someone who is really suitable for themselves through interaction. During this time, you will inevitably meet some people with different views, and you don't have to be too entangled.
Some people appear to help you correct the direction of life, so that you can get together and disperse.
Please leave your precious time and energy to those who are important.
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