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When a person gets married, the most important family is naturally their parents and siblings, and after marriage, there is also a partner, but at this time, many people do not know who to put in front, and sometimes because of the wrong choice, it is easy to hurt the heart of the family or partner.
But no matter what, after marriage, the first thing you should think about is your partner, your own small family, and secondly, you should go with your partner to filial piety to the parents of both sides, and the last thing you should often care about is your brothers and sisters. Because from time to time a small help to their partners will not have opinions, and if there is no proportion of support, it will affect their lives.
And if a person has such an idea, it is almost no different from the Fu Di Demon. So as long as everyone chooses to get married, choose the family, there must be a change of thinking, must put the partner before everyone else, because only he is the one who accompanies you through the rest of your life. And for some money that should not be helped, do not always be charged, otherwise it will really ruin your marriage.
01. Invest in your brother
Zhang Meng and Liu Wen's own conditions are very good, but the families of both sides are very ordinary, so when they get married, many details are almost discussed by the two of them, and out of consideration for their respective families, one of them does not ask for a bride price, and one does not want to marry.
And the marriage house where the two people now live is also bought after they have struggled together for many years, so Liu Wen also has a touch and gratitude to Zhang Meng, feeling that his family can't come up with much at all, Zhang Meng is also willing to accompany himself to struggle, and buy a house with himself, which is a good other half.
With such a touch, Liu Wen also made a lot of promises to Zhang Meng at the wedding, including that he would definitely listen to Zhang Meng's words and would definitely focus on Zhang Meng and their small family.
But the plan could not catch up with the change, and Liu Wen did not think that he would break his original promise so quickly.
When the two were only half a year married, Liu Wen's mother came to the door, and she also said bluntly, that is, to ask Liu Wen and his wife to invest a sum of money in Liu Wen's brother.
"Mom, you and Dad can't get used to him like this anymore, has he done a thing so far?" I have not been admitted to college, and now I am engaged in what inexplicable investment? It certainly can't be true. Zhang Meng had heard Liu Wen say that he was a little uncle before, and because he had been with Liu Wen for a long time, he had some mouths that were unobstructed.
However, Zhang Meng did not expect that his in-laws were very eccentric, and when this young son heard his daughter-in-law say this, he immediately blackened his face, "Liu Wen, this is how you educated your daughter-in-law, she said this about your brother, don't you say a few words?" ”
Liu Wen just did not stop zhang meng, who was outspoken and fast-talking, and now that his parents are angry, he can only let his parents discourage for the time being, "Okay parents, I know, I will call my brother later, Zhang Meng, I will also say, you two go back first." ”
Liu Wen originally planned to say that his brother and parents were a bit, but Zhang Meng was so disturbed, Liu Wen could only agree, but here in turn, Zhang Meng also began to blame Liu Wen for not consulting with himself, so easily agreed.
"What can I do?" You are all about to quarrel, I can only appease one side first, and it is only twenty or thirty thousand yuan, we don't need to cut it like this. This made Liu Wen a little irritable, and the words he said were naturally not good.
03. Parents ask to buy a car for their brother and buy a house
After Zhang Meng listened, he was also obviously stunned, and then he frowned, "You mean this is my fault, have you forgotten what you promised me before?" Everything is based on our little family and me first, and now your parents will come to you for twenty or thirty thousand, and then when they ask for a car, won't they have no scruples? So what do we do? Have you ever thought about it? ”
Liu Wen also realized that he had said the wrong thing, but he still felt that Zhang Meng's words were too absolute, so he could only soften his tone and say to Zhang Meng, "You don't say so, I really can't do anything this time, I will agree, but you can rest assured, I will go and talk to my parents, and my parents are not so unreasonable people, you don't have to worry, don't get angry, okay?" ”
After all, it is not a problem between two people, so Zhang Meng sighed and exposed this matter, and Liu Wen did go to his parents to talk about his brother's problem, although his parents could not listen to Zhang Meng's words, but the persuasion of the excellent eldest son could still listen to one or two sentences, and also said that he would not let Liu Wen's brother Hu come after that.
But what Liu Wen did not expect was that his younger brother really did a serious thing this time, and although this investment did not make him rich and expensive, at least there was no loss.
Therefore, Liu Wen also had some relief when he talked to Zhang Meng, but what the two people did not expect was that Liu Wen's brother and parents were completely confident because of this matter, not only directly telling Liu Wen's brother about a girl from a rich family, but also promising people to buy a house and a car.
03. After buying a car, the marriage is close to broken
This made Liu Wen difficult, because according to Liu Wen's own ideas, it was right to supplement his brother with a sum of money, but if he consulted with Zhang Meng, Zhang Meng would definitely feel that his brother was a bottomless pit, and he would definitely not give a penny. However, Liu Wenjia had no choice in the middle, and finally could only mention this matter with Zhang Meng and transferred 100,000 yuan to his brother to buy a car.
And this 100,000 yuan also completely touched the bottom line of Zhang Meng, Zhang Meng also clearly said to Liu Wen, "If this money is for your parents or there is any accident, I will never say anything, but buying a car and buying a house is indeed a bit excessive, this 100,000 yuan is the last time I help your brother, if you do such a thing again in the future, don't blame me for being ruthless." ”
In order to save his marriage, Liu Wen and Zhang Meng once again made a guarantee, promising that they would not agree to the unreasonable demands of their parents and brother after that, and Zhang Meng also gave Liu Wen one last chance. But if you must get used to it, how can your family let go of it? Liu Wen had no choice but to apply for a temporary job in the field within half a year, and he never paid attention to his parents.
However, Liu Wen's mother and brother insisted on a rare and unremitting time, and Liu Wen could only choose to explain to them again in desperation.
Liu Wen finally ended everything strongly, and Zhang Meng also saw Liu Wen's determination and sincerity, the two people managed to keep the marriage, and Liu Wen naturally did not dare to be a brother demon again.
For parents and family, we always feel that it is natural to help one or two, but when we get married, many people will find that their other half seems to be very rejective of this matter. In this case, some people will feel that the other half is unkind and not good for their parents, but in fact, as long as they think about it carefully, the real rejection of the other half is always their unconditional dedication and help to their siblings.
Because as long as they are children, they are obligated and responsible to their parents, and as their other half, they will not have any complaints. But if you always have the mentality of helping everything, taking on everything, and even the lives of your brothers and sisters are responsible, then you can't blame the other half, always calculating, after all, this will indeed affect the life of their small family.
This is also the fundamental effect of the contradiction between Zhang Meng and Liu Wen, and he does not mind supporting his in-laws and filial piety to his in-laws, but he always asks Liu Wen and Zhang Meng to help his uncle unconditionally. But their own lives also need to be lived, and their money must also be kept to make plans for themselves, so why help the little uncle? Fortunately, Liu Wen finally wanted to understand, bravely refused, and only then did he keep the marriage of the two people.