He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
Going home for a blind date for the New Year is a big event for young people.
I saw a netizen say:
Before returning home from vacation, his family had already arranged 10 blind dates for him; It's really stressful to stay at home for only 5 days, but to complete 10 blind dates.
On the road of blind dates, it is not entirely smooth.
After all, two strangers who have never known each other get together through the introduction of a matchmaker, and there will always be various problems.
Chatting about reluctant topics, saying things against their will, pretending to be polite, trying to understand each other.
A female reader left a message sharing her strange experience of blind dates 3 times in the New Year.
She said:
Some men beat singles for a reason.
The following is a first-person oral account by a female reader.
-01
"For 129 yuan, he and I AA system"
I started my first blind date on the first day of the new year.
I work in Shanghai, a small fourth-tier city in the north.
Originally, I didn't plan to stay in Shanghai and settle down, I didn't plan to marry abroad, I just thought of working for another two years to save some money and go back to my hometown to find a similar person to marry, and then live like this for the rest of my life.
The first blind date, he worked in a small company and earned 4k a month.
I have a house, I am still paying the mortgage, and I heard that I have to repay 2500 a month; There was a scooter for tens of thousands of dollars, which my parents bought.
His parents also have formal jobs, and they will be able to receive a pension when they retire in the future, and they are about to retire when they calculate the age.
My conditions, in Shanghai a month salary of almost 10,000, excluding rent and living expenses, I can save half of it.
Since graduating from university, I have worked for four years and saved up to 200,000.
Even so, I still feel quite poor, and trying to save money gives me a sense of accomplishment.
To be honest, I was quite dissatisfied with the conditions of this boy.
The above are my respective conditions with the other party.
He went on a blind date on the first day of the new year, and there was no place to hang outside, so he proposed to go to the movies.
I think it's okay, and we're not bored with each other.
So he invited me to see a movie and spent 100 yuan;
I bought 2 cups of milk tea, and I spent 29 yuan after the discount.
These are his expenses.
I didn't like to owe favors, so after watching the movie, I offered to invite him to eat, and he agreed.
The two of us went to the buffet, and each of us spent 69.
Calculate it, he does not suffer, and I do not suffer losses.
Just eat and drink enough, and go back to each house.
When I got home, the matchmaker asked me how I was feeling.
I said: it feels average, forget it, I don't think it's appropriate.
Wonderful things happen.
After talking to the matchmaker for more than 1 hour, the boy sent me a message and proposed: "Since we are not suitable for each other, let's AA today's expenses." ”
I burst out laughing.
I say:
"Okay, then let's do the math. You spent 129 yuan, I spent 138 yuan, I give you 64.5 first, and then you give me another 69, is that satisfactory? ”
The boy stopped talking for an instant and hurriedly blacked me out.
There are many blind dates, and it is the first time that the boy who picks the door like this has met.
What's more, eat you and drink, drink you also drink, you also watch the movie, why do you say that I owe you?
-02
"Blind date meets Ma Baoman, chat is really good"
The second blind date boy is a proper mom boy.
At 30, without a job, his mother owned a seafood shop, so he has been helping out in the store.
What's even more bizarre is that after graduating from college, he returned to his hometown to help his mother run a seafood restaurant.
And his father, worked in the factory.
I really don't understand this.
You said that when you are young, a big boy, shouldn't you go outside to see?
Shouldn't you try more work?
Even if you are not willing to try all walks of life, you must at least have the ability to be independent.
Completely attached to the family store, what is the meaning of going to college?
I didn't go out on a date with this boy, but just made a video call and talked for ten minutes.
After chatting for ten minutes, I was already on top.
Because the words he hung on his lips were:
"My mother said that finding a girl to marry does not need how much money she makes, and people should be honest"
"My mother said that if you plan to work in the field, then I can't be with you"
"My mother said that even if you agree to stay with me, you have to pass my mother's level"
At this point, I don't know how to respond.
I made an excuse and I slipped away.
Cut the mess quickly, delete the black first.
-03
Meeting an "unreliable" boy on a blind date opened my eyes
The third blind date is also a strange one.
28 years old, no serious job, living by "mouth".
I can really see what it means to "see people and talk about people, and hell talk about ghosts".
The first words of the meeting, guess what he said?
He said, "If you stay with me, lend me 100,000 yuan, and I will pay you back twice before I get married." ”
I was stunned at that time, and a sentence floated in my heart: "Are you out of sight?" Why don't you grab it? ”
Out of curiosity, I remained polite.
The boy suggested: Why not talk while eating?
So, he offered to eat spicy hot.
Well, okay, I can live with it.
Here comes the wonderful one.
He ate 20 yuan by himself, and I ate 30 yuan.
When I was going to check out, he got ahead of the curve.
As a result, he said: "You are too good at eating, right?" ”
There is really no desire to continue talking.
I really don't have high requirements for the person I married.
It's just that several blind dates for the New Year this time made me doubt my life and sigh whether I was "not going well this year".
My criteria for looking for someone are:
1. Good character and reliable.
2. Income does not matter, if I also go back to my hometown to work, the income can be similar to mine.
3. Houses and cars can be bought together.
4. Attractive, interesting, kind boys who can make me.
Are these demands of mine excessive?