【Village Chief Xiao Jiayi】Record rural life, write about the "three rural areas" problem, and interpret the social focus! Thanks for your attention!
"Singles" encountered difficulties in marrying wives
I don't know when to start, the problem of rural "single sticks" is concerned by the society, there are statistics that there are more than 30 million men than women in the country, which means that at least more than 30 million hot wives can not marry, thus becoming a "single stick", and this number may be expanded for practical reasons, 40 million or even more than 50 million can not be stopped, and there are many reasons for the formation.
First of all, it is the absolute value of the ratio of men and women, after all, the number of people is there, the mainland monogamous, it is impossible to have tens of millions of women for no reason, and there are many "successful people" who occupy a variety of high-quality resources, of course, the objectification of women is not in line with human rights and women's rights, but from the perspective of economics, people as a kind of productive forces, and land, capital, etc. can be called resources, there is no discrimination, materialization.
Secondly, compared with the city, the countryside is in a backward area, the peasants have low incomes and poor living conditions relative to the citizens, who are in a dominant position who can occupy better resources, and people are all upward, rural women naturally give priority to male partners with good conditions in the case of choice, this is human nature or nature, not material, a beggar and an elite, we all know how to choose, but nakedly show it to make people difficult to accept.
Therefore, from a comprehensive point of view, it is why even if the gap between the population of men and women is so large, the phenomenon of difficulty in marrying wives in cities is not obvious, while the difficulty of marrying wives in rural areas has become a social phenomenon.
The older leftover men ushered in the gospel
In addition to the old concept that there are more men and fewer women, urban women do not marry rural men, and rural women are biased towards the reality of the city. The competition between rural men and the internal involvement have also become a problem, that is, the high cost of marriage under various comparisons.
Cars, houses, and sky-high bride price gifts have made many sympathetic attachments part ways, exacerbating the problem of rural marriage, so that every village has become an "older leftover man" for family reasons.
In response to the problem of the difficulty of marriage for young men in rural areas, the state has introduced two major measures to solve the problem of marriage.
First, curb sky-high bride price
According to the "Guiding Opinions on Carrying Out the Pilot Work of Reforming Marriage Customs" promulgated by the state, the sky-high dowry in rural areas will be curbed.
The newly promulgated Code of Civil Code Law prohibits arranged marriages, the sale and purchase of marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage. It is forbidden to use marriage to claim money.
Due to the reality of more men and fewer women, the rural bride price is fiercely competitive every year, and it is constantly rising, so that many families return to poverty once they get married, and they owe huge debts, thus triggering high-priced dowry contradictions and even bloodshed.
Under the high-priced dowry, various behaviors such as cheating marriage under the guise of marriage are constantly spawned, and after squeezing out the man's family, they either divorce or disappear, so that many elderly young men dare not get married, afraid of running out of money.
Now after curbing the sky-high dowry, first of all, the expenditure on the dowry has been greatly reduced, even if the sky-high dowry is paid, it can be recovered, and the law is also supported, so that the dowry can return to normal marriage customs.
Second, promote the change of customs and customs
Everything has two sides, just blocking the dowry is not enough, it is advisable to be loose and not to be blocked, and at the same time as curbing the sky-high price of the dowry, it is necessary to vigorously promote the change of customs and customs, crack down on feudal superstitions and other undesirable social atmospheres.
Crack down on unhealthy trends in rural areas, such as extravagance and waste, vulgar marriages, and comparisons with courtesies; establish profound changes in family organization and family structure in modern society, strengthen the building of family style based on fatherly kindness and filial piety, harmony between husband and wife, brotherhood, and orderliness of the elderly and young, and strengthen the moral concept of filial piety to parents and respect for elders.
Guide the reform of marriage customs, establish a correct view of marriage and love, advocate a simple and modern new style of marriage customs, and let women change their views on marriage and love conditioned by family conditions, income levels, and the amount of dowry.
Can it be achieved?
Changing customs and customs is a long-term social atmosphere guidance, and it is difficult to achieve immediate results, so it is not realistic to achieve the goal of marrying a daughter-in-law in the short term.
However, there is no doubt that it has a guiding effect on the social atmosphere, which is to lay the foundation for the difficulty of marriage in rural families in the future, after all, the age of the leftover men in the countryside is now 35 years old, and they have passed the age of passion, and more are still focused on the present.
At present, it is still an era of fighting for bride price and family, and only high bride price can increase the competitiveness of marriage and love, otherwise there will be no scene where as long as the girl is on a blind date, there will be a long queue at the door.
In the absence of handsome looks and talents, then external factors have become the focus of consideration, the woman does not want to make life worse and worse, after all, when the blind date rushes to see a few faces, say a few words, then there is a deep emotion, and who will have a lot of time will maintain a result of the emotion, there is this time to earn more dowry may be more practical.
Therefore, at present, it is still a bit far away to realize the dream of marrying and having children of older leftover men in rural areas, after all, women who are married for the second or even the third marriage have become fragrant.
The final way out is only when the proportion of men and women is not much different, the concept of marriage customs has changed, the gap between urban and rural areas has been consistent, and the problem of difficult marriage in rural areas has been solved, but I don't know how many "rural leftover men" can wait until that day.