Because of the census, many girls fell into a misunderstanding, thinking that there are more men and fewer women, and they are hot.
But in reality, high-quality men are rare, and even Puxin men are sometimes sought after by a type of woman because of a certain aspect of the characteristics.
The man who really can't marry his daughter-in-law is either too demanding and has no correct psychological positioning, or he is really visible to the naked eye, and if he is with him, he will definitely be dragged down in the second half of his life.
The important point is that usually we say that men who cannot marry their daughters-in-law are mainly rural men.
Recently, there is a hot topic, saying why urban men are generally reluctant to marry rural women?
Let's not talk about the question of willingness or unwillingness, just to give an example that I have encountered in my life.
A young sister was admitted to a key university from the rural carp jumping dragon gate, with a height of 168cm, white skin and beautiful skin, and a good figure. Hotel manager, annual income of 10w+, good welfare, and is expected to earn 20w per year after a few years.
The man who chased her was a city man, tall enough, with a general image, a stable job, an annual income of less than 10w, and two suites at home.
The man knew that she was a rural girl, and also knew that her parents did not have a pension and that there were three brothers and sisters in the family. But he still couldn't stop the enthusiasm he pursued.
Today, the two have been married for four years and have a two-year-old baby girl. Men hang "my daughter-in-law, my daughter-in-law" every day, at least until now, they are still very happy.
Not all rural women are not married, in the final analysis, depending on the comprehensive quality.
A year or two ago, I also wrote an article attacking the phenomenon of "young grandmothers in the countryside". Rural young grandmothers refer to a type of woman, seizing on the weakness of rural men who are not good at marrying their daughters-in-law and children, and after marriage, they are not diligent, they are raised every day, and they do not do any work.
In fact, men are very realistic and wise, you see some men do not say anything, in fact, they have a scale in their hearts.
What level they are at, what kind of women they find are the right door, what kind of high climbing, what kind of low themselves, they are like mirrors in their hearts.
So they are different about what kind of other half they have found, what kind of attitude they have before or in marriage, how to get along, and so on.
Take the phenomenon of young grandmothers in the countryside, which man is born to want to serve people? But they couldn't, if they didn't do it, they couldn't keep their daughter-in-law.
But when they have the opportunity to turn over, their personal value and charm have risen, do you think they will let their daughters-in-law be so willful?
At that time, it became that the woman was afraid that the man would abandon her, and the situation was suddenly reversed. Therefore, many times family and origin are on the one hand, and personal ability and comprehensive quality are also a key part of the examination.
Therefore, "urban men are generally reluctant to marry rural women", the answer to this proposition is not certain.
Of course, here I will also help you analyze the reasons why urban men are usually reluctant to marry rural girls, which are roughly the following three points.
There are too many relatives, and I can't figure it out
Unlike the spacing of cement walls in cities, rural areas prefer social interaction without distance. Numerous relatives have formed a complex network of relationships.
Relatives are not afraid, afraid that in front of many relatives, one person can't figure out what he should do.
We often say that the relationship between husband and wife after marriage is the first priority. And to help others, it is okay to raise your hand, but for the kind of thing that needs to be "self-injured" to help, don't let your partner be embarrassed.
Many urban men, in particular, are afraid that their rural wives have a younger brother. Many old ideas will involve son preference, and women who grow up in such a living environment can easily become a "brother demon".
Parents do not have pensions, and their own financial situation is also worrying
Modern people's life is very stressful, everyone wants their life to be better, and for the kind of marriage that will definitely increase the burden of life, most people are withdrawn.
Especially because rural parents do not have pensions, they are more obsessed with bride price, and it is a relatively large dowry compared to the city.
And if at this time, the rural girl's personal situation and economic ability are also at the lower middle level, then the expectation of marriage must be discounted.
If marriage is objectively compared to a partnership business, then no one is willing to do a loss-making business, and it must be comprehensively considered. Parents have no choice, so they must make some efforts and changes from themselves.
The living environment is different, and the differences in thinking cannot be reconciled
Why from ancient times to the present, our marriages have paid attention to a door-to-door pair, because different family environments and educational methods will form different ways of thinking.
The concept of thinking, to a certain extent, can be changed by education or the surrounding environment, and what is difficult to reverse is a person's way of thinking.
Two people with similar thinking styles will have less chance of colliding and contradicting each other in marriage. And a person's deep-rooted concepts are very difficult to fundamentally change.
And many urban men, worried that rural girls are using themselves as springboards. For example, the rural sister flowers in "Heart Residence", Feng Xiaoqin and Feng Xixi.
Whether an urban man is willing to marry a rural woman or not, it is very simple to see if the girl's personal value can "win back a game".
So, whether it's an urban girl or a rural girl, remember a sentence: the best investment for a woman is to achieve herself.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]