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I like this passage very much: "Home, just a word, is the warmest place to go after experiencing the disturbing worldly feelings, worldly affairs, and the entanglement and hustle and bustle of the world's people." ”
Throughout our lives, we have struggled for many years, traveled far and wide, and finally we are still inseparable from "family". The farther you go, the more homesick you become; no matter how good the food in a foreign country is, it is not as good as home cooking.
When I was young, I always thought that the outside world, that is, poetry and distance, was the foothold of life. When I am old and quit the workplace, I suddenly wake up and walk on the way home, which is the most beautiful scenery.
There is a saying in the countryside: "A silent home is not a home; a silent home is difficult to be rich." ”
Happy families must have a voice, and if they are too silent, they lack fun and will be uncomfortable.
From the perspective of the elderly, in the rich family, there are the following sounds.
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First, the noise of the child brings hope.
There are a few popular lyrics: "Where has the time gone?" Before you feel young, you are old, having children and raising daughters for a lifetime, and your mind is full of children crying and laughing. ”
When the parents are old, the children grow up; when the parents are older, they become grandparents.
Many elderly people are struggling with the question of "whether to help bring grandchildren". After all, his physical strength is limited, his knowledge is also a bit outdated, and he is unable to bring his grandchildren; but his children are very busy at work, and the old man does not help, so he cannot bear it.
From a realistic point of view, many elderly people, rather work harder, will still take their grandchildren and grandchildren with them, or go to live with their children and parents, willing to be nannies.
From ancient times to the present, the best blessing of the elderly is that "children and grandchildren are full of halls and generations are in the same hall." If you think like this, you can enjoy the noise of your child.
If a family has no children for a long time, the elderly are still very unaccustomed and always feel that something is missing. Noisy and noisy is actually the root of joy, the expectation of the future, and the continuation of the bloodline.
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Second, the wife's nagging is true love.
It is impossible for husband and wife to get along without quarreling. In general, men shut up quickly, while women nag endlessly and annoyingly.
Tu Lei, the teacher of love, once said: "If it is difficult to hear, it is always the lover who will tell it, which is called the loyal word against the ear; if it is good, only the goblin will speak, this is called the mouth honey belly sword." ”
When we are old, the most rare emotion is that the wife holds hands. If you understand it thoroughly and cherish it desperately, then the nagging voice will become soft, and at any time, it cannot be lacking.
The woman who plays with personality, loses her temper, snuffs out your cigarette butts, pours out your wine, sits next to you, and talks about reasoning, expects you to live a few more years, not to hurt your body, not to ignore the family.
If a woman is cold to the family, she doesn't want to say a word. She might even think of running away from home and living alone.
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Third, the sound of pots and pans, fireworks in the world.
The ancients said: "A thousand acres of fertile land is only three meals a day." ”
After working hard for most of his life, he retired and his life was guaranteed. So the most important thing is how to manage three meals a day. Don't always worry about big fish and big meat, you want meat and vegetarian combinations; don't always distinguish each other, and ask husband and wife to do housework together.
A colleague of mine often describes a scene where my parents cook: my mother poured rice into water and soaked it for a day, and my father grinded the rice into rice milk.
After draining the rice milk, add the sugar, knead into small pieces and gently place in a frying pan. It's especially comfortable to hear the sound of "clanging".
After a hard day, I was greeted with the beautiful scenery of family eating around the table.
As an old man, happy to cook a meal, waiting for the return of children, hard work, full of happiness.
The sound of pots and pans is crisp, indicating that the housework is done well. When the sound becomes "laughter", housework also has value.
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Fourth, sit down and talk about money and accumulate gains.
As a post-70s generation, I lived in the countryside when I was a child, and my family was very poor.
Once, my father went to work in the forest farm in the township and came home for two months.
My father stepped into the house on his front foot, and his back foot was still outside the door, and he said, "Guess what I brought?" ”
I spotted the wild fruit in my father's hand and said, "What fruit, give it to me." ”
The mother smiled and said, "You know how to eat." You dad, you're paid. ”
On that day, my mother made an extra dish and went to the commissary at the entrance of the village to get two or two drinks. Happy scenes that people will remember for a lifetime.
How can a rich family lack money? "Poor and happy" is temporary optimism, and "rich and happy" can be long-lasting.
Many families, talking about money hurts feelings. Either the family is poor and has no money to talk about, or everyone is selfish and wants to benefit from the big family.
"You must not be frugal at home, and you must not be diligent in starting a business." Talk about money regularly, the family's property can be reasonably distributed, but also to eliminate misunderstandings between each other, there will be many routines for saving money. Talk about money and save money well, and only then will the family have confidence.
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Fifth, the call of a loved one, infinite concern.
With the development of the times, many young people go out to make money, and the old people stay in their hometowns.
The emotional connection between two generations, by mobile phone.
Whenever he receives a call from his children, the old man will be very happy. It is often a few words that say, "Be well, everything is fine," and hang up. After that, we can rest assured of each other.
There are also times when two elderly people in the family rush to answer the phone, and each of them has a thousand words to say to their children.
Of course, the elderly who keep up with the times can also video chat. Seeing that their children are in the distance, thin and fat, it is inevitable to say a few words. After that, I will also make some nourishing food and mail it over.
Make a phone call and ask, people from afar, people from home, are you okay? Put down the phone, for hours, the mood can not be calmed.
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As the saying goes: "After experiencing the vicissitudes of the sea, Fang Zhijia is the warmest harbor." ”
People are old and like to be quiet, but they also have to accept the voice of the family and feel the beauty of "quiet in the middle of the noise".
Man, you can't stare at the empty walls every day, you can't hold your phone all the time, and you can't indulge in your own small world. To care for the family, love the family.
The happiest thing in the world is that children play, adults make money, and the elderly are happy.
May the families of the world sing harmony and add wealth and joy.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.