Now, with the rapid development of social economy, the countryside has also undergone earth-shaking changes. In the past, in the countryside, I felt that taking care of food and clothing was the greatest happiness. Since the country's reform and opening up, rural areas have received the greatest benefits and conveniences.
I remember that the previous days were very poor, even if I tried hard, I might not be able to take care of food and clothing, and every family was working hard to eat enough. There is no comparison at all, as long as you can eat enough. With the improvement of people's quality of life now, some "comparisons" have also quietly sprouted in the crowd.
As everyone knows, this kind of atmosphere of comparison is also harmful to people in ignorance. The city is not obvious, because most of them are only children, and their parents also have jobs, and there is basically no comparison.
The phenomenon of comparison in the countryside has more or less affected the relationship between the neighbors, making the countryside, which was originally called simple, more and more vain. Make people feel regretful, now that life has become better, people have begun to drift? There are many young rural laborers who go out to work hard for a few years, get used to everything in the city, and begin to appear that they do not want to go home, do not want to go back, and can't help but make people sigh.
The countryside is now carpooling, and the carpooling has become the past tense, so what is the beginning of the fight now?
First, marriage is a major event in life, and the bride price has naturally become one of the indispensable comparisons in the countryside
We all know that it is very difficult for two people to go from knowing each other to falling in love and then forming a family. It is about the future of two people, and to put it bluntly, it is also a matter of two families.
In the countryside, young people get married, but there is a headache, that is, the bride price. When it comes to bride price, the customs of each city or place are different, from tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands, or even millions. If the family has the conditions, it is effortless, and the poor families can only borrow money everywhere and want to do a wedding ceremony for their children.
Because in some people's cognition, the bride price is the key time to reflect their own strength. The bride price is less, it will become a kind of faceless, and now this phenomenon is becoming more and more serious, not only the bride price, but also to require the other party to have a house and a car, and the old family has a house, which adds up, if there is no hundreds of thousands at home, it is really not easy to get married.
Second, family gatherings and classmate gatherings are also manifestations of their own strength
Family gatherings and classmate gatherings are relatives who have not been seen for a long time, and students get together to talk about their ideals in life, but unconsciously there are some people who are reluctant to participate or shirk for other reasons. After understanding it, I learned that they did not earn money, they would feel faceless, and there would be nervousness and boredom. This made the otherwise well-intentioned party something that some people did not want to mention.
Everyone wants to have a good life, but the premise is not necessarily how much money to earn, money is important, but the human touch is more important, do not let the "comparison" in the middle, indirectly affect the feelings of relatives and friends.
In fact, the prevalence of the wind of comparison has affected the thinking of many people, and it has also made people gradually lose themselves and only blindly pursue a vain life, which is not advisable. It is a good thing to get ahead, but you can't get ahead of the so-called "comparison" so that you will not be able to pay off and end up hurting yourself.
Third, the so-called "comparison" can only be brightened in front of people, and the taste behind it is only known by themselves
As rural life gets better and better, the quality of life has also improved a lot, but the comparison in it still exists, especially in the countryside, people who have stayed in the countryside can see that because of the comparison, they have wasted a lot of things that should not be wasted.
For example, if it is a happy event, if it is clean at the table, it will be regarded as a bad condition at home and will be looked down upon. On the contrary, whoever has more leftovers on the table will treat it as if they have it at home and do not care about these.
In fact, these so-called face projects only the main family himself understands in his heart, what the bottom of the family is, this kind of in order to live in the eyes of others, to cater to other people's ideas is really a bit funny. It is easy to make people empty and lost, living in such a superficial surface for a long time, only to be bad for themselves, but also affect the harmony of the family.
Everyone wants to succeed, and having a few deposits is not only a sign of a person's success, but also a demonstration of strength. Having a dream is supported, but it is necessary to be down-to-earth, step by step to work hard, not to lose the right direction for the illusion, but also to add invisible pressure to yourself.
Everyone is working hard in this society, all for themselves and their families to have a better future, but there must be plans and goals, and we must not see others get rich and affect their own values. Learn to balance your mindset and use your own hands to create wealth.
Others have less than their own, live out their true selves, to create a sense of happiness in order to understand that a contented and happy life is more precious than anything else.