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There is a saying that "the family is good, the people are good, and the prosperity is coming." ”
A family must have its good causes, so that it can bear its good results. Whether the members of the family are kind or not will not only affect the development of the individual, but also affect the rise and fall of the family.
After all, there is an inseparable relationship between the individual and the family. If the family is good, we can mix well, and the family is not good, I believe that all problems will come unexpectedly.
Why did the ancients always emphasize "self-cultivation and family"? To be yourself, that is not enough, you still need to manage the family well. As long as the family is well governed, won't our children and grandchildren prosper and develop?
Self-cultivation is only the beginning of the Qi family. The Qi family, on the other hand, needs a certain amount of virtue and wisdom.
In today's complex times, we are slowly forgetting "virtue." I always feel that making a lot of money and getting rich is a good thing. As everyone knows, virtue is more important than all wealth.
Good virtue, like a magnet, helps you attract countless riches. Bad virtue will only make people fall into the abyss, and even if they have all kinds of wealth, they will gradually lose money.
You know, a family's good reward is often related to virtue. Everything starts from these places.
02
The blessing of a family depends on its "character".
What factors are closely related to the character of a family? There is no doubt that all virtues are related to the words and deeds of family members.
For example, if the elders have good character and virtue and set a good example for the younger generations, where will the descendants go?
It is often said that "the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked".
A pillar, if it has always maintained a correct position, then the pillar below will not be automatically aligned? On the other hand, if a pillar is already crooked, the pillar below, no matter how well done, will not help.
The virtue of the family must first look at the virtue of the elders. The so-called "old people have virtue, benefiting three generations." The old man has no virtue and harms the whole family. ”
There are too many elders, even if they do not do well, and pass on the bad atmosphere. As a result, it can only lead to a distorted family atmosphere, and finally bury the good situation of the family.
Whenever and wherever we are, we have to talk about virtue. Only with good virtue can we carry unlimited wealth. Otherwise, even if you are rich and powerful, you will be wiped out within two generations.
03
The blessing of a family depends on its "education."
Some education experts believe that the family is the school of people's lives, and parents are the first teachers of children.
The family, like the school, has the important responsibility of "educating people". However, the outside school education is the knowledge of books. And the family school educates the truth of being a human being.
Why did Meng Mu move three times, and why did Mencius finally grow into a Confucian sub-saint? This is all the embodiment of a good family education.
When he first moved his home, Mencius lived next to the cemetery and always learned some worship. The attentive Meng Mu felt that this was not a good thing, so she could only move.
When he moved for the second time, Mencius lived next to the market and always learned some things about the city. Meng Mu believes that the child's heart cannot be affected, so she chooses to move again.
When he moved for the third time, Mencius lived next to the Xuegong, not only learning the etiquette of being a human being, but also taking reading as a hobby. As a result, Mencius slowly grew into a representative figure of Confucianism.
In the long run, the family's personal education is often more important than the school's book education. First know how to be a person, and then know how to read, only to have both morality, to be king.
04
The blessing of a family depends on its "heritage".
Someone has done such a survey, and all the families that win the lottery tend to decline within ten years and return to the pre-liberation period overnight.
People feel particularly strange about this, these families have won millions, even tens of millions, and have wealth that the vast majority of families simply cannot have, why do they decline rapidly?
This is not unrelated to the "heritage" of the family.
Some families who get rich overnight, due to the lack of a certain foundation, can not control too much wealth, so these families are prone to extravagant and arrogant atmosphere, cultivating a three-way distortion of the overnight rich. How can this be long-lasting?
It's not hard to have wealth. However, it is difficult to keep the wealth.
Some people are originally multi-millionaires, but after a few years they become "multi-millionaires". Such things are actually not uncommon. The root cause is that the foundation is not enough to support great wealth and blessings.
Cultivating the foundation of the family is the foundation for the continuous development of the family.
05
The blessing of a family depends on its "human heart."
Whether it is a large collective or a small family, it is necessary to work the human heart.
It should be known that all collectives, from large to society and small to families, are composed of "people", which determines that "people's hearts" are always an important factor affecting development.
For example, if a family's hearts are scattered, won't it only decline?
As the saying goes, no matter how strong the fortress, it is breached from the inside.
Not afraid of powerful enemies, afraid of relatives and friends who are not a heart. A good family, naturally the whole family has a heart, while a bad family, the members of the family will only fight back and forth, without any pattern.
Therefore, the key to managing the family well is to manage people's hearts well. Isn't the key to "self-cultivation and family governance and world peace" also the hearts of the people?
That's all.
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