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At the end of the year again, the wave of homecoming is coming.
There are many elderly people left behind in our community, and at the end of each year, they begin to worry about whether to go to the children or let the children come back.
For those families with sons, this problem is still easy to solve, but for those elderly people who only have girls, going to the girl's house or letting the girl come back is a problem.
As the saying goes, the daughter who marries out, the water that is spilled out.
Although the life of the young couple is usually inseparable from their help, as soon as the New Year's Festival comes, the estrangement is revealed.
A few days ago, because of this problem, Uncle Zhang and his wife next door quarreled for several days.
Uncle Zhang's girl settled in Shanghai, and his aunt was from Henan, and they also made a lot of efforts when they first bought a house, but later every time they went to Shanghai, they couldn't live for a few days.
This year he had an operation, and his health was not as good as before, so he hoped that the girl could bring the child back for the New Year this year, but the son-in-law pushed and dragged, just unwillingly.
He felt that his son-in-law was not good to himself, he had not used them now, just this attitude, if he needed them to retire in the future, he would not have to be abused every day?
But his wife felt that he was old, his brain was confused, and the more the two people talked, the less they coped, and they had a long time of contradiction.
People around them all said that Uncle Zhang was the son-in-law of the father-in-law, and the more he looked at it, the more angry he became, and advised him not to take it seriously, as long as the people were two small and good, the others could not be controlled.
Some people also say that the son-in-law is an outsider after all, and you are not obliged to give you a pension to the end of the family no matter how good you are, so why bother?
To tell the truth, whether the son-in-law has any obligations in the end, we will not talk about legal matters, but people are social people, and you must talk about reasonable and moral matters!
02
I remember reading a story before that men made a living by setting up roadside stalls because they tasted good, the price was cheap, and they were famous in the local area.
Someone came to the interview to find out that the man's real identity is not a small stall owner, he looks ordinary, and there are several sets of buildings behind his back. Collecting rent every month is enough for a family to spend a year.
At this time, people were more fond of the stall owner, because when they went to his house, they found that there were two old people in the man's house.
The old man was none other than the man's parents-in-law.
His parents died early, and when he was young, his in-laws did not dislike him for being poor, married their daughters to him, and treated him particularly well.
Later, when it was good, he and his wife developed and bought a building, so they took their parents-in-law to live together.
Talking about taking care of my parents-in-law for decades, men wave their hands and think that this is nothing, when they were young they were good to me, I should be good to them now, and they are not others, it is my wife's parents, just by virtue of this, I will always respect and take care of them.
Some netizens commented that such a sentient and righteous man should make money, he does not make money, and it is difficult to tolerate reason.
Some people also say that women should take a quick look, such a man is the most worthy of marriage, and it is not really loving you to be good to you, it is good for your parents, it is true to love you.
Indeed, a good man who is truly worth marrying, who is not sentient, and who is righteous.
They understand that the words of your parents at the wedding are not known to take you away from your parents, and they also attach the grace of watching and helping each other for the rest of your life.
They understand better that loving you is not only responsible for you, but also the family members you care about the most.
Whether you marry the right person or not, sometimes look at his attitude towards your family, it is clear at a glance.
03
I've also seen a story like this:
There is a man who complains on the Internet, do not find an only daughter as a wife, in the future her parents will definitely rely on you for the elderly.
Because his parents-in-law are like that.
The man's wife is far married, and after marriage, he stays at home to watch the children, and after his parents-in-law retire, they will also come to live with them.
Although his family has three houses, but those are his premarital property, besides, a house can collect 50,000 or 60,000 rent a year, and the salary of his parents-in-law's three or four thousand is not enough.
The comment area has scolded the man's cold-bloodedness and selfishness enough, although I don't know what the man's wife has, but the husband's posture will not be so gentle to her.
If it weren't for the fact that she had given birth to a few children, I'm afraid she would still be spat upon now.
There are parents of only daughters in the family, when choosing a son-in-law, please also polish your eyes, this kind of extremely selfish and indifferent man, absolutely can not want.
Because marrying them, the daughter not only has to be a nanny and a housewife, and no one can see her efforts, it is better to stay single and work well, at least in this way, when honoring her parents, she does not have to look at anyone's face or listen to anyone's gossip.
Finally, whether the son-in-law is obligated to retire should be discussed with the daughter-in-law on the subject of filial piety.
If you have to make it clear, no. But in life, how can everything be clear.
Whether it is a wife or a husband, you should understand that from the day you are married, it is not only to get, not to pay, whether it is in-laws or in-laws, do not feel that it should be when enjoying, and only think about whether you have obligations when you pay, otherwise, there are only two possibilities for such a family:
Either war is raging, or water and fire are intolerable, either way, it will not last long, nor will it be happy.
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