Recently often brushed to the TV series "Dear Child" related comments, some people think that the drama reflects the social reality, is a rare good drama, and some people support the people's network view, that the drama will be the unhappy and troubled in married life together, just to cater to the current TV series consumer subject - women, in order to meet the current women's psychological needs, in order to harvest the vegetables, the people's network down to criticize the "pro child" to create anxiety behavior, by many female audience criticism, It is believed that the criticism of the People's Network is suspected of whitewashing marriage and covering up the truth of real life, and its real purpose is to promote marriage.
People who hold these views have their own basis, so is "Dear Child" selling anxiety? A lot of people say that this show is very realistic, and this is real life. Because of the married life described in the play, almost every woman can substitute herself into it, there is not much family dispute in the play, almost all are trivial matters, the wife wants to drink water in the middle of the night to wake up her husband, does not consult with the daughter-in-law to call the mother-in-law to serve the confinement, the mother-in-law does not knock on the door into the son's daughter-in-law's room, the mother-in-law takes the child to the mahjong hall to play mahjong while smoking a cigarette on the side ... , These trivial things are concentrated in a family, that is, a place of chicken feathers, many netizens say that this is exactly the same as her married life.
It is true that such families exist in life, but the question is whether such families are the majority?
In fact, although there are many people who stand up and say that this drama is very real and realistic, I will still insist that the family shown in this drama is only a small part of real life, it is not representative, the reason why so many people stand up and say that she is experiencing such a marriage, some of them, indeed, have encountered such a marriage, and more people feel empathy because they have caused resentment or dissatisfaction with some aspect of their married life, and through this drama they have obtained a kind of catharsis. Or rather, a sense of identity was found.
This drama brings together a lot of chickens and dogs in marriage, so that many people have a feeling that their married life is refracted into the play when watching the play, thus producing a strong resonance, in fact, it is only the same as in some aspects of the play, most of the marriages in reality are in a state of pain and happiness, otherwise there will not be so many people who still insist on marriage and family, and there will not be so many people who choose to remarry after being liberated through divorce.
Married life is sometimes like a cup of sugared coffee, always bittersweet, but also can't stop it, even if it is not sugared, there are still people willing to drink it all, marriage itself is actually a kind of cooperation, men and women through the marriage model to integrate the resources of both sides, jointly form a family, raise children, run a family together, create wealth, just because many people expect too much from marriage, and the proportion of love in marriage is too high, marriage has become a kind of bondage.
Some people say that marriage without love is immoral, marriage without love is a grave, such words are very irrational in itself, marriage does not protect love, marriage protects the fundamental interests of both men and women, only because of love, marriage becomes more sacred and beautiful, but marriage without love can also survive, many marriages are concluded for both husband and wife to maximize their interests through marriage, there is no love they do not value, there is common interest is the most important, Such a marriage may be more stable and long-lasting.
Too many people enter the marriage with a feeling for love, and it turns out that the love after entering the marriage gradually changes taste, the original glowing person is gone, the man is getting more and more greasy and rough, the woman gradually becomes less gentle and understanding, after entering the marriage, the two sides are no longer facing the ideal romance before the flower, but the reality and triviality of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea.
I remember reading a love novel by Lu Xun when I was young, "Wounded Death", the hero and heroine of the novel, Juan Sheng and Zijun, bravely walked together in order to break through the constraints of feudal thought, but their vigorous love was defeated by several oil chickens.
No matter how sweet the love before marriage, but also to experience the real life of post-marriage, in the long married life, responsibility is more important than love, because love is just a firework, beautiful and short, no one's love can have a lifetime of freshness, those who stick to life, but they all have a strong sense of responsibility for marriage.
But at the moment of marriage freedom, it is too difficult to maintain a marriage by relying on the sense of responsibility, the men and women in the marriage do not regard the marriage as a cooperation, but the marriage as a battlefield, two people exhaust their lives, want to win or lose in the marriage, and finally found that the marriage only has a win-win and a lose-lose situation, there is no victory or defeat, and those who calculate gains and losses in the marriage, calculating how many people, they, turn the marriage into a springboard, only think of their own favorable side, unwilling to pay, More unwilling to think from the other side's point of view.
People who are too calculating are suitable for singleness, not for marriage, if you choose marriage, you must learn to be tolerant, because many times we also need others to tolerate.
If you're afraid of having a family like that in Dear Kids, you'd better not get married, because it's not that you don't want to get married, it's that you don't have the ability to run a good marriage, and you can't deny marriage because of it, maybe just because you're incompetent.
I often think of a problem, around me, there are a lot of women, they have not worked all their lives, they take the husband and godson as their career, and my life is constantly learning, struggling, but in the end, I found that I am not as good as them, one of my girlfriends said: I will ignore many of my husband's shortcomings, as long as the general direction is right, I can tolerate him, as long as he takes care of the family, I will work for me and my son, because my ability to make money is far inferior to him, it is better to let him let go and go out to make money, I'll just take care of my home.
I was working for me and my son - this is the reason why my girlfriend has always insisted on marriage, she is now finally able to keep the clouds open and see the moon, every day is very comfortable, the two people can not argue, the husband's feelings for her have become affection, the two people occasionally talk, but overall life is also very happy.
Can you say that my girlfriend's idea is wrong? Or can you say that my life is worth more than hers? I even think that I am tired and die because of life is not as easy as her, but I can comfort myself when I am lost: I support myself on my own, in addition, when I reach middle age, I really feel very tired, not much happier than my girlfriend.
This is the marital state of most people, not as depicted in "Dear Child", which is only a small part.
Any TV series reflects only a certain aspect of life, it presents a certain aspect of life to us, ask questions, let us think, any drama can not represent the whole of real life, you can not watch "Parental Love" to get married, watch "Dear Child" to refuse marriage, this is not very rational.