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When the eldest son got married, Aunt Li was 50 years old, and a year after the son got married, the eldest daughter-in-law gave birth to a granddaughter, after which Aunt Li took her granddaughter at home, and her wife went out to earn money, and she brought up her granddaughter, and the eldest added grandchildren to herself. When the younger grandson was only two years old, the second eldest married, and a year later, the second family added a son, of course, aunt Li. According to the second daughter-in-law, in the future, she may have to give birth to the second and third elders, and it will definitely be Aunt Li with her.
Although bringing grandchildren is also happy. But from the age of 51, in addition to seeing his wife for a few days in the New Year, usually one
One is working outside the home, one is at home with a baby, and the two places have been separated for more than ten years. Almost all of Aunt Li's life revolves around bringing children. Now as I get older, I become more and more incompetent. But a child who has brought up his eldest son, if he does not bring a second son, will definitely complain. Aunt Li thought about her life, married and had two sons in her twenties, and began to earn money for them.
Then the two sons started a family and emptied their savings. I have no savings at home with my grandchildren, and I have no pension money in the future, when will such a day come to an end? Wouldn't it have been easier if there had only one son?
Aunt Lee's later life represents most of the family with two sons. My neighbor only has one son by his side, and after the son got married and had children, he helped to take the grandson for the first three years, and then the grandson was liberated when he was older, and his life was free every day. The difference between an only child and two sons in the family is only understood in the old age, and the reality is very cruel.
The degree of worry and fatigue is not the same
If the family has two sons, the pressure will be greater when the parents are young. When the son becomes a family, it is not liberated, it is another kind of hard child. The grandchildren of the two sons may have to help, either they will help, or they will not help, otherwise it will also be the beginning of family conflicts.
But most parents will help bring their grandchildren, take the eldest with the second, and when the second family is brought up, they are also old. And taking children is a very energy-consuming and physical thing, urging people to grow old, and the parents of two sons are always getting older than other parents. At the same time, it is also necessary to balance the relationship between the two daughters-in-law, which is unfair, and a family war will break out.
But a son is different, and the son will have surplus money in his hand after marriage. If you don't want to help bring your grandchildren, you may pay for it, only one son and daughter-in-law, no comparison, simple family relations, worry-free. Parents have more time of their own later years.
Economic pressures are not the same
In today's society, for most families with two sons, after letting both sons become a family, there is no money left in their hands. At the same time, we must also take care of our grandchildren, and we must spend money on our grandchildren, so we simply do not have time to earn money and cannot save money. As I grew older, my earning ability weakened, and I was mostly panicked. And will put the hope of old-age care on children.
But in a family with only one child, parents can still plan for themselves after their son becomes a family. When helping young people to stand up, they still have surplus food in their hands, and in their old age they are less panicked about the economy. At the same time, I also have the ability to retire on my own, not to put hope in my children, and to be more comfortable in my old age.
【Topic Discussion: What do you think is the difference between the parents of an only child and two sons?] 】
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