The most beautiful marriage is that you have me and I have you. My parents are your parents, and your parents are my parents. Only by comparing hearts to hearts can each other maintain marriages for a longer time.
But for the vast majority of men, their parents are parents, while other people's parents can only be relatives. How to honor his parents is not exaggerated, while his wife's filial piety to his parents is scolded and upside down.
In fact, no one jumped out of the stone, and all of them were raised by their parents with hard work. Parents raise their children, and after the children grow up and become a family, they naturally have to repay their parents and support their parents.
After marriage, husband and wife are one. The in-laws are sick and old-age, and the wife will help her husband to perform filial piety together. The in-laws are sick and pensioned, and the husband also helps the wife to take care of it. Only in this way can husband and wife share hardships and go hand in hand.
01, parents buy a marriage house in full, and the in-laws live for five years
At that time, when 25-year-old Chen Xia was choosing a marriage partner, there were many suitors, and everyone's conditions were good. However, she prefers her husband from the countryside, just because his husband looks sunny and handsome, and he is very diligent and enterprising.
His parents were a little dissatisfied with Chen Xia's choice, believing that Chen Xia was blinded by love. The only child should choose an only child to marry, which can be the right door, achieve a strong and strong alliance, and win-win results.
Chen Xia insisted on her own opinion, did not compromise and did not give up, her parents could not take her, and finally could only agree to this marriage. It's just that the husband's family is relatively poor after all, and the marriage room in the city and the 100,000 dowry proposed by the parents cannot be satisfied by the husband and the in-laws.
Chen Xia was distressed about her husband, and she did not want her in-laws to be embarrassed, so she took the initiative to cancel the bride price, and also bought a marriage house for her with full money by her parents. Since then, Chen Xiacai and her husband have finally completed their marriage smoothly.
Chen Xia and her husband have only been married for more than a year, and the in-laws have come uninvited. The in-laws came in the name of taking care of their sons and grandchildren, and Chen Xia had no reason to drive away her in-laws, but could only accept them.
But what Chen Xia did not expect was that the marriage house bought by his parents in full, the in-laws lived for five years, and in the past five years, the relationship between Chen Xia and her mother-in-law slowly deteriorated, and the contradictions were increasing. Under the provocation of the mother-in-law, the relationship between Chen Xia and her husband is also getting colder and colder every day.
02, taking parents to pension is rejected: parents-in-law have pensions
Although the mother-in-law came to eat and live in the name of taking care of her grandson, after Chen Xia really gave birth to a daughter, the mother-in-law preferred sons to daughters, and she hated Chen Xia and only gave birth to a handsome piece, so she asked her to find her mother's family to help.
Chen Xia was overwhelmed, but there was nothing he could do with his mother-in-law. And the husband is also partial to the mother-in-law, saying that the mother-in-law has no obligation to serve the daughter-in-law and take care of the granddaughter, and he cannot force the mother-in-law to take care of it, otherwise it is a great filial piety.
In the end, in order to work and live, Chen Xia had to send her daughter to her mother's house and let her parents take care of her, and she gave her parents 2,000 yuan a month for living expenses. Knowing that Chen Xia subsidized money to his parents every month, his mother-in-law also once took acid and was jealous, sneering at Chen Xia's parents when they saw the money and had to pay a granddaughter.
Chen Xia did not pay attention, and the mother-in-law intensified, until later her husband secretly stuffed 2,000 yuan to his parents, and the mother-in-law was calm. It's just that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live under the same roof, and the relationship between Chen Xia and her mother-in-law has become more and more indifferent.
After five years of living in her mother-in-law, Chen Xia did not want to tolerate it any longer, and she planned to take her parents to the pension, so that it was convenient for parents to take their children, and they could spend more time with their children after work every day.
As a result, Chen Xia just said this idea, and he was rejected by his husband: You took your parents to the pension, so what should my parents do? My parents-in-law have a pension, but my parents do not have a pension, and can only follow their sons and daughters-in-law.
03. Treat both parents equally
Her husband's refusal surprised Chen Xia. In her cognition, she helped her husband to do filial piety for five years, and it is reasonable that her husband should express and reciprocate to her parents.
But the husband not only did not agree to take the parents-in-law to the pension, but also rightly believed that the parents-in-law had their own pension and could provide for the pension themselves. As for the hard work of the parents-in-law, it is all deserved, after all, they also have to rely on their daughters and sons-in-law to support themselves in their later years.
The husband's double standard, as well as the completely different attitude towards the parents of both sides, made Chen Xia feel cold. Chen Xia did not dare to tell his parents, afraid that his parents would be cold. After all, even if it is a stranger, under the subsidy of his own money and contribution for so many years, even the cold heart should be covered, let alone the son-in-law.
Chen Xia couldn't listen to it, and directly filed for divorce, letting her husband take his parents and leave quickly. After all, the house that her parents bought in full, her parents have to take the children, and they have to post money, but so far they have not lived for a day, have not enjoyed a day of happiness, and the mother-in-law who has not contributed money and has not contributed, what qualifications do they have to live for a long time?
Husband and wife are originally one, suffering and sharing. If you treat my parents well, then I will naturally treat your parents well. If you are partial to your parents, but morally kidnap the other party to do filial piety to your parents, no one can continue to tolerate it. Because sometimes, parents are the bottom line of our human beings.
Today's Topic:
Do you think that husbands who have double parents on both sides can continue to live?
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