Text: Coke
According to the latest statistical yearbook released by China, the national population at the end of 2021 was 1412.6 million, an increase of 480,000 over the end of the previous year, with an annual birth population of 10.62 million, with a birth rate of 7.52 ‰; the death population was 10.14 million, and the population mortality rate was 7.18 ‰; and the natural population growth rate was 0.34 ‰.
From the perspective of gender composition, the proportion of men and women in China is seriously imbalanced. Among them, the male population is 723.11 million and the female population is 689.49 million. The sex ratio of the total population is 104.88 (100 for women), that is, 33.62 million more men than women. In other words, there are more than 30 million men in China who cannot marry their daughters-in-law. Although a bit of an exaggeration, it is too difficult for a man to get married now. After all, there are more than 30 million competitors.
It is understood that by the end of 2021, the number of marriage registrations was only 7.636 million pairs, down for three consecutive years. More and more people are single now. According to estimates, there are 92 million single people in China this year. In fact, the problem of marriage is not limited to the cities, but also seems to have become more serious in rural areas.
The reason for this phenomenon is the long-standing preference for boys in rural areas. In this view, it is common in many areas where there are more men than women. In addition, after birth, women in these rural areas have longed for urban life due to their long-term lack of attention and presence. First, in cities, the idea of son preference is not serious. Another reason is that the superior living conditions in the cities are in all respects better than in the countryside.
Therefore, under the combined effect of the above factors, the phenomenon of more men and fewer women in rural areas is becoming more and more serious. At the same time, the conditions for rural women to marry are becoming more and more demanding. In the old days, in rural areas, the man only had to give the bride price, but over the years, the situation has changed, and the bride price is only one part of the process. At present, in order to get married smoothly, it is also necessary to meet the requirements of "2 throws 3 sides and 4 rounds". Many say they are more sorrowful than the bride price. I believe that many people just heard this request, do not understand what this means, the following to briefly introduce.
The so-called second dumping means that the husband and wife do not live with their father-in-law and mother-in-law after marriage, do not assume the obligation to take care of their mother-in-law, and live independently after marriage. This situation is mainly to prevent possible contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. For a long time, in many families, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been an inseparable topic, and there will always be some friction when mother-in-law and daughter-in-law meet.
In the past, when women got married, they would choose tolerance when they encountered contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Now that women have independent ideas, they no longer choose tolerance as they did in the past. They will no longer choose to tolerate it as in the past, so they simply put forward the request of 2 dumps before marriage. This request is a bit inhumane on the surface, but it avoids provoking contradictions.
Even if some women are willing to live with their in-laws after marriage, they also hope that their mother-in-law can help with some housework. After having children, I hope that my mother-in-law can help me take care of the children when I am busy. However, they still want to live independently before having children, so these rural women want their men to have their own houses before marriage.
The third side is to require the man to be an only child, his parents are in good health, and the new house he buys must be close to the city. It has been observed that families with many children are prone to property disputes, especially those with multiple sons. If the parents are partial, the other sons will certainly not give up. Such a family is more complicated. Parents need to be in good health and have a house on the edge of the city to make their lives easier.
If the parents have no physical problems, they do not need their children to worry about it. At the same time, some parents are still able to work even at age 5.60 and can continue to earn money, improve their quality of life and raise their children. Now, when most women get married, they consider whether men have a house or not, which has become the standard for men in the blind date market. After all, most people want a peaceful life after marriage. They can't always live by renting a house.
The last one to say is 4 rounds. In fact, it's easy to understand. This refers to a private car. This situation is relatively easy to accept. Now private cars have become very popular. For women, when the woman gets married, it is not too much to take this as a condition.
In addition, in the current rural areas, private cars have become a necessary means of transportation. Without a private car, travel will be restricted to some extent. From these situations, we can see that the cost of finding a wife in rural areas is getting higher and higher. This is not a rumor, but it does exist, and this phenomenon exists in many rural areas.
With the rapid development of society, people's requirements for material conditions are getting higher and higher. Marriage is the sublimation of the feelings of two people, they love each other and jointly build a warm home for two people. However, in today's materialistic world, marriage is no longer a simple matter, but a burden on the whole family. Houses, cars and bride price have become the norm for marriage and an obstacle that young people cannot cross.
"Love without material is like a mess", which seems to have become a love creed on the Internet. However, love that chases too much material things also loses its sincerity. Within the scope of what both families can afford, giving appropriate support to the upcoming small family is the meaning of the original bride price. Marriage is a happy thing. Marriage should not be a burden.