With the continuous development of society, many people have no idea of preferring sons to daughters, in their view, giving birth to boys and girls are the same, and even more people are willing to have daughters, why is this?
Some people ridicule the birth of sons and daughters, the son is the construction bank, the daughter is the China Merchants Bank, if the son is born, the pressure of the parents will become very large, the son will face the problem of marriage when he grows up, buy a house and buy a car bride price, everything can not be less, and the birth of a daughter does not have these problems, you can give the daughter some dowry appropriately.
On the other hand, girls are also better educated than boys, and girls are relatively well-behaved and sensible, and will listen to their parents, which makes many families want to have daughters.
"In the family that gives birth to a daughter, the son-in-law will retire in his old age"? The old man confessed that he still lost to reality!
As the saying goes: raising children to prevent the elderly, parents need sons and daughters-in-law to provide for the elderly in their old age, if there is no son, that is, the daughter and son-in-law pension, the daughter will naturally give the parents a pension, a son-in-law half a child, then the son-in-law will really give the elderly pension? The old man confessed that he still lost to reality.
Mother's friend Aunt Zhu has an only daughter Tingting, Tingting has been very well-behaved since she was a child, very filial to her parents, and Aunt Zhu is very satisfied with her daughter.
Tingting talked about a boyfriend during college, the two families have the same conditions, after graduation the two married, Aunt Zhu and her husband moved to the daughter's home to live with the daughter because of physical reasons.
At the beginning, the family got along very well, and the son-in-law often drove the family out to play, often bought supplements and clothes for Aunt Zhu, and asked Aunt Zhu whether she was uncomfortable living here.
Aunt Zhu was very satisfied with this son-in-law, but later, over time, the son-in-law became more and more cold to Aunt Zhu, often ignoring the questions, and Aunt Zhu also answered the questions hastily, and then went to the bedroom to read.
Aunt Zhu asked Tingting if the son-in-law was dissatisfied with herself, Tingting said that she did not know, it may be that her mother thought more, because she was busy with work, she did not pay attention to these things, after two weeks, Aunt Zhu finally could not stand it, she proposed to Tingting to go home for the elderly, the son-in-law ostensibly retained a few words and sent Aunt Zhu and his wife home.
Why would the son-in-law do this? Is he really reluctant to support his parents?
In fact, this is not the case, sometimes, the impact of reality on a person is also very large.
First, economic reasons
The economic reason is very realistic, many small two have just married, mortgage car loan pressure is very large, but also to support both parents, some small two also have to raise children, the economic pressure is very large.
The son-in-law is the pillar of the family, under the influence of economic pressure, he has more than enough and insufficient strength, and there is no way to support his parents, because there are not enough material conditions, he can only choose not to support his parents.
Second, the imbalance in the son-in-law's heart
After the daughter got married, she had her own small family, her main task became to develop a small family of two people with her son-in-law, of course, supporting her parents should be, but excessive attention to her parents, less attention to the small family, less attention to the in-laws, the son-in-law will be uncomfortable, unbalanced in her heart, he will feel that the wife does not care about their small family, nor filial piety to his parents, so as to have a disgust for the father-in-law and mother-in-law, and feel that the culprit of all this is the father-in-law and mother-in-law.
People want each other to be filial to your parents, you must first be filial to each other's parents.
The woman's parents want to let the son-in-law support themselves, but also need to do something, after all, people and people are mutual, first of all, to teach their daughters to be filial to the in-laws, to treat them as biological parents, the daughter filial piety to the in-laws, the son-in-law will be very satisfied, naturally will be filial to the woman's parents.
In the place where you can help the child, try to help, do not rely on the child for everything, the child is very stressed, every day is very tired, Xiaomei's parents came to Xiaomei's home for the elderly, the two only care about playing mahjong a day, never do housework.
The son-in-law left work earlier than Xiaomei, and when he returned home, he had to pick up the children, cook, clean up the house, look at his father-in-law and mother-in-law sitting on the sofa, and do nothing, he would be very uncomfortable in his heart, and he didn't want to take care of two people.
Try not to trouble the child, take the son-in-law as his own child, he will also like you, so as to support you, sometimes do something within his power to let the child reduce some of the burden, let the child feel that you also love them, they are more willing to use their hearts to filial piety to you.
Children should take care of their parents, every child is also willing to take care of their parents, parents should also take care of their children, sometimes help their children, and compare hearts to hearts, so that the family can get along harmoniously.