On May 10, 2010, 60-year-old Sheng Hailin successfully conceived twin daughters for her husband, which attracted great attention from the local media, and everyone knew that the pregnancy of a woman over 35 years old was already an advanced maternal age.
But at this time, Sheng Hailin is 60 years old, 9 years later, the reporter interviewed the twin elderly mother again, Sheng Hailin said that although her family is complete, but if you turn back time, you will think twice about whether to give birth to an elderly mother.
When Sheng Hailin was pregnant with twins
The 60-year-old mother risked death and became pregnant
Sheng Hailin lives in Anhui, the couple usually work outside during the day, go home at night to accompany their daughter, they raised their only daughter Tingting like a flower, for her to study in college, although the family is not rich and noble, but life is very happy.
They thought that their lives would be spent here, but they had not yet waited for their daughter to establish a family of three, and suddenly there was a change, and gas poisoning took away the young lives of their daughter Tingting and her son-in-law.
Although the couple escaped a disaster, but their hearts are broken, they are now old, and there is only one daughter in the family, Tingting's death makes them feel lonely, and even for a long time they can't find the meaning of continuing to live.
Wedding photo of Sheng Hailin's daughter and son-in-law
Sheng Hailin and her husband thought for a long time, and finally decided that even if they were now 60 years old, they would have another child, although this decision was very difficult, but they really could not bear the pain of losing their daughter.
We all know that when women reach a certain age, all parts of the body will deteriorate, and their energy and resistance will be far less than in their youth, and as they get older, the uterus will gradually prolapse, which is not only difficult to get pregnant, but also very prone to miscarriage.
If it is serious, it is also possible to have two lives, so most women who have passed the optimal childbearing age generally do not dare to take risks, and some elderly women will take the initiative to give up all the work in their hands when they know that they are pregnant, and they can raise a fetus at home with peace of mind and strive to let the fetus be born safely.
Sheng Hailin also knew in her heart how much risk this decision would bring to the fetus and herself, but she really couldn't bear to let her husband die, and there was no way to let herself live in the grief of losing her daughter all day.
The age of the couple made it impossible for them to conceive naturally, and Sheng Hailin and her husband ran all over the local hospitals and finally successfully completed ivfection, and after receiving the news, the couple was ecstatic.
Sheng Hailin is happy that they can finally have a child again, the 60-year-old makes Sheng Hailin unbearable the torture of pregnancy, in order to be able to let the child be born safely, she had to give up all work and rest at home, and the fact that the couple was pregnant with the second child was also known to many relatives.
Sheng Hailin gave birth to twin daughters
Although everyone knows that their feelings for their daughter are very deep, at this time, they also take the initiative to advise them not to take risks in this situation, after all, women over 35 years old are like a ghost door.
Not to mention sheng hailin, who is 60 years old this year, any slight physical labor may cause problems with the fetus in sheng hailin's stomach. And because Sheng Hailin is too old, it is very likely that there will be a problem of fetal heart beating in the process of pregnancy.
At that time, the blows that the couple will have to bear will be more severe, but they have no intention of listening to the advice of others, but they are more determined to give birth to the child.
Later, under the examination of the hospital, it was found that the children sheng hailin was pregnant with were twins, and the sheng hailins, who had been a little hesitant in their hearts, knew the news and were determined to keep the child, they thought that this was a gift from heaven, just like the daughter who had passed away came back again.
The child was born smoothly, and Sheng Hailin did not have any danger, which should have been a great joy for everyone, but the couple ushered in a new problem, their age is already very large, the spirit of the day is not as good as that of young people, and the baby is the most noisy.
Taking care of their children for a long time exhausted them, and they had no choice but to ask a nanny to come to the house to help take care of them, but the two of them were just ordinary working-class people, not a rich and noble family.
Raising two children to grow up also has to pay a nanny salary, and sometimes have to make up for Sheng Hailin, and over time their living standards plummet, and their lives are becoming more and more stretched.
The couple can only go out to work at the age of 60, but even so, it is difficult to afford the expenses of the whole family, on May 10, 2019, the reporter interviewed Sheng Hailin, hoping that she can introduce some production experience and precautions to everyone as an elderly mother. And interview her about her current life situation.
Sheng Hailin said that although her current life is happy, and her daughters are also with her and her husband, such a life pressure not only brings a very heavy burden to their family, but also is unfair to their two children.
Sheng Hailin regretted her impulsiveness
Although the two now have the energy to go out to work, they are 80 years old when their children go to college, and they cannot provide them with a good living guarantee.
The most important thing is that now sometimes I go to parent-teacher meetings for my daughter, and the classmates in the class will laugh at my daughter's parents for being as old as grandparents, which makes my daughter very sad every time she comes home.
Sheng Hailin said that at that time, the couple was too sad because of the loss of their daughter, and did not think carefully about the consequences, let alone listen to the opinions of relatives, if the time could be turned back, she would definitely think twice about whether to have children.
And if you think about it, when she and her husband decided to have a second child, it was only out of their hearts to stop being lonely and lonely and missing their eldest daughter Tingting, and the couple never considered what the twin daughters would suffer because of their age in the process of growing up.
Although the classmates in the class have no malicious intentions, the jokes between the children are likely to leave a psychological shadow on the daughters, and now that you look closely, it is unfair to anyone.
But now that the child is 9 years old, she and her husband must raise them safely, and as for how to spend their future days, they can only pray that before the children reach adulthood, the couple's health problems will not occur.
According to Sheng Hailin's personal experience, we can conclude that the primary consideration for especially elderly women in production should be their own safety, and the most important thing should be whether their own conditions are in line with the production status.
Even if you want to have a second child, you must first consider your physical condition, mental condition and economic condition, if you don't consider anything, you make a decision on impulse, not only not responsible for yourself, but also not responsible for your child.