Chinese families generally have parents raising their children to grow up, and children return to their parents to provide for their parents. With the implementation of family planning, it is basically one child per family. This child bears too much expectation from his parents, and he also shoulders the heavy responsibility of sending his parents to the end of his life.
And the most painful thing in the world is that the white-haired person sends the black-haired person. If a child with only one child has already left his parents, how should those who survive live?
An old man named Sheng Hailin made a bold decision. At the age of 60, she decided to have another child of her own.
And what's the story behind that? What kind of price will she pay for giving birth at an advanced age?
Why would you want to have a child of your own at the age of 60?
The old man Sheng Hailin originally had a very happy home. She and her husband are both from the military and are not of low status. In their time, receiving such a salary was already something that everyone was envious of. The couple also responded very much to the call of the state, and in the era of family planning, they only had one child and did not continue to have children.
The couple gave birth to a daughter named Tingting. The couple placed great expectations on this daughter, and it can be said that they were raised as pearls in their hands. What the daughter liked since childhood, the husband and wife never skimped. Compared with children of the same age, the clothes Tingting wears are always the latest, most beautiful and most fashionable.
Tingting said that she liked to play the piano, and her parents directly spent hundreds of dollars to buy a piano and put it at home for Tingting to learn. You know, a few hundred dollars in those days, maybe even the total annual income of a farmer. But as long as the daughter likes, the husband and wife will not hesitate to meet the daughter's requirements.
The girl who was afraid to melt in her mouth and held in her hand for fear of falling off did not have a pampering and arrogance, and became a wayward girl. Her parents' military background has cultivated very correct values for her from an early age. Although the little girl is pampered, she is not squeamish. When she grew up, she became the pride of her parents. She followed in her parents' footsteps and became a glorious soldier.
After entering the army, Tingting found the love of her life here. Two young people share common beliefs and ambitions, and they naturally walk together. Tingting's parents know that their daughter's other half is also a soldier, and after seeing them, they feel that the young man is a good person who can be entrusted with a lifetime. With the permission of her parents, Tingting fell in love with her lover. After that, everything was like a natural thing, and the two people entered the palace of marriage and formed their own happy little family.
At this time, Sheng Hailin and his wife also retired, and they felt that they would have a good life in the future. The couple also went out on a trip, and at that time they thought that if they teased their grandchildren in the future, they might rarely have the opportunity to go out. But as everyone knows, the good life is often contrary to what they imagined. Accidents and misfortunes creep into the family.
It was a holiday of the year, and Tingting accompanied her husband back to her husband's hometown to visit her parents there. But the two young people do not have any common sense in life, although they have been weaned in life, they are still "children" who need the help of their parents mentally. On that day, the couple was the only one at home, and they turned on the gas, unaware that danger was coming.
They played, and when they got tired, they went straight to rest, but forgot that the gas at home was still on. As a result, it can be imagined that the little couple both passed away from this life due to gas poisoning. The saddest thing is the parents of both sides of the child, Tingting's father once could not stand this blow, a soldier with iron bones all his life, shedding hot tears over and over again.
Tingting's mother has been holding Tingting's body, and she has never been able to come out of the sadness that her daughter has died. She may have made herself feel like it was just a dream over and over again, but that was the harsh and unforgiving reality.
For a long time, both of them washed their faces with tears. The relatives and friends around them can't look at it anymore, and they want them to get rid of this sad predicament, and they also want them to rely on them for the elderly. They persuaded the couple to adopt another adopted son in an orphanage and other places while they were still old.
At the age of 60, he ventured to give birth to twins
At first, Sheng Hailin and his wife thought it was a very good idea. At that time, during the Wenchuan earthquake, many of them were orphans who had lost their parents, and most of them were old enough to meet the conditions for Sheng Hailin and his wife to adopt. They wanted to adopt such a child, and the problem of distance plus some formalities, in the end, let the Sheng Hailin couple give up adopting these orphans.
Later, with the help of friends, they wanted to adopt a child at some local welfare institution. But adopting a child with flesh and blood is not as simple as picking cabbage in a wet market. He also needs the fate of people, not that when it comes to the welfare home, there must be suitable children who can be adopted by two husband and wife. Unfortunately, the couple ran all over the nearby orphanage and did not get a satisfactory result.
Thinking that since you want to adopt someone else's child, you might as well create a child of your own. But at that time, Sheng Hailin was already 60 years old and it was very dangerous and almost impossible to give birth at this age. She decided to find a surrogate mother and have another child. However, domestic law does not allow the couple to do this, and surrogacy is not recognized and allowed by law in China. Therefore, it is impossible for the Sheng Hailin couple to want to surrogate a child of their own.
They are also constantly looking for a suitable adopted child, but in the end nothing is gained. The couple's recent adoption of a child has reignited the flames of their active lives, and now they can't wait to have another child. Thinking that they can't adopt a suitable adopted son, and they can't surrogate in China, they simply have a child of their own!
When someone hears that they have this idea, they think it is simply crazy and whimsical. At this time, Sheng Hailin was already 60 years old, and it was simply impossible for her and her husband to have another child by herself. Fortunately, at that time, the medical conditions were already developed, and IVF technology was gradually maturing. The couple used to be military doctors, and they also had some understanding of this kind of thing, decided to use the dead horse as a live horse doctor, and with the attitude of trying it out, they made a IVF baby for themselves.
As soon as this news came out, many people in the society disagreed. They have even been morally condemned as an extremely selfish and irresponsible sign. But at that time, the Sheng Hailins were completely blinded by this joy, and she thought that the fears of those who had launched their condemnations were unnecessary. All the problems are ultimately just money issues, and the couple's savings should be enough to support a child.
The couple is a family within the system, and both of them can receive a large pension every month. Even if you are 60 years old, plus some previous savings, it should be more than enough to support a child. Thinking of this, the couple immediately looked for a hospital that could do IVF for them.
Although IVF is gradually maturing, its success rate is also very low. Even for young men and women in their prime, the success rate of IVF is only about 30%, and the series of side effects caused by IVF are not something that the 60-year-old body can bear.
Many hospitals refused to perform IVF surgery on Sheng Hailin, and some doctors persuaded her to give up this idea.
"If you behave selfishly like this, the end result is likely to hurt several people."
But Sheng Hailin couldn't care so much, and this hospital didn't operate on her, so she went to find another master. Later, with the help of friends, a hospital agreed to give Sheng Hailin IVF surgery.
With such an opportunity, Sheng Hailin cherished it very much. Every day she followed the doctor's instructions and worked hard to condition her body. Maybe Heaven also felt her warm expectations, the operation was successful, and she successfully had a pregnancy response. Even if you are conceived normally, 60 years old is a very dangerous advanced age mother. Sheng Hailin must be extra careful every day about her physical condition, and at the same time, she has to endure many diseases brought by taking medicine to herself.
Her uric acid index once broke through new highs, and high blood pressure is basically commonplace. Even the internal organs of the body have minor damage. But all this can not be resisted, about to meet the sweetness of new life.
Pregnant in October, she gave birth. However, due to Sheng Hailin's physical condition, her child was destined to be born prematurely. With the full help of the doctor, their mother and son were safe. Sheng Hailin gave birth to two daughters in total, and when they were born, their bodies were very weak, one was a little more than three pounds, and one was less than three pounds.
The sweet "price", now the old man is fiercely thwarted by reality
From the birth of two children sent to the insulated room, premature babies' physical immunity is very poor. Raising two children in a day in an insulated room almost costs five figures in medical expenses. One day, two days, in order to adjust the physical condition of these two newborns, the two of them even emptied all the savings of the Sheng Hailin couple at that time.
But looking at the two fresh lives, the couple felt that it was all worth it. The couple named the children Shang Zhi and Shang Hui. Sheng Hailin treated her previous daughter Tingting like she did, providing her daughter with the best life supplies. The milk powder she gave her daughters was imported from abroad. In this way, the living burden of the husband and wife is even more aggravated.
At the same time, Sheng Hailin has brought great damage to her physical functions because of the birth of these two children, coupled with the constraints of age, many things are inconvenient for her to take care of children. In order to allow the children to get better care and education, Sheng Hailin also gave the two children a sister-in-law, specifically to take care of the daily life of the two children.
The salary of the sister-in-law is also a large expenditure, so that the pension of the husband and wife is so meager, in order to continue to provide a good material life for the children, the two old people continue to work with their bodies in the wind and candles. They want to do some business and provide a steady stream of financial support to their children.
"For almost 200 days a year, 365 days a year, I don't spend with my children."
In an interview, Sheng Hailin said such poignant words. At that time, I was also rushed by joy, forgetting what kind of price to pay behind this sweetness. Today, they should have enjoyed the most leisurely time of their lives, but they also had to go from place to place for their children.
The reporter asked Sheng Hailin whether she regretted her original decision?
Yes, if given a chance to do it all over again, she would never choose to give birth to the twin daughters again. She realized how selfish she was, and if one day she left this world, how would her two daughters live?
But fortunately, the two daughters are particularly sensible. At a young age, they seemed to know a lot and often comforted their mothers.
"Mom, you must not die, and in the future we will hold you and spend a happy old age with you."
Whenever Sheng Hailin Went to School to Pick Up Two Daughters, the children's classmates would always mistake her for the child's grandmother. Sheng Hailin was particularly embarrassed, according to her age, the teenage children called her grandma, and there was nothing wrong with it at all. But if she was called Grandma, what would her classmates call her daughter?
Shang Zhi and Shang Hui especially sensibly reminded their classmates that this was their mother, and they never hated their mother because they were different from others. This is also the sweetness that can be tasted from it whenever Sheng Hailin feels that life is very bitter.
Even if you regret your actions, it will not help now.
There is no regret medicine in this world, and what you have done must bear the consequences of it. At this point, we should not be a theater watcher and condemn the practices of Sheng Hailin. This family should be silently blessed and hope that their future days will be smooth!