On January 29, 2017, the second day of the Chinese New Year, there were very few pedestrians in Hefei Xinqiao International Airport.
On a stool in the airport lobby, however, an old woman of about seventy years old was snoozing in her chair. Beside her was a middle-aged woman in her thirties and forties.
Perhaps out of pity for the same disease, middle-aged women took the initiative to greet the old lady: "Old lady, this big New Year's Day, what are you going to do?" ”
Old lady: "I'm going out on a business trip." ”
The old lady looked to be sixty or seventy years old, and it was supposed to have reached retirement age, and the middle-aged woman asked curiously.
The old lady sighed and said, "No way, there are still two daughters to be raised in the family." ”
The middle-aged woman was surprised: "Does your daughter still need to be raised by her mother when she is old?" ”
The old lady did not feel offended, she took out her mobile phone and opened the photo, in which her two daughters looked only six or seven years old.
Who is this old lady? Why, when she was nearly seventy years old, would she have two daughters so young?
"Elderly Maternity Sheng Hailin"
On May 25, 2010, a special pregnant woman was welcomed in a hospital in Hefei.
Pregnant women are covered in white hair, her whole body is covered with wrinkles, and she is obviously an old man who has entered her twilight years!
And this special pregnant woman is our protagonist today - Sheng Hailin.
Before being pushed into the operating room, Sheng Hailin turned to the person who came to visit, "Yay".
Outside the operating room, Sheng Hailin's relatives had already raised their hearts to their throats.
Sheng Hailin is 60 years old this year, and the act of having a child is completely in competition with the human body.
Time passed by minute by minute, and relatives did not know how long they had waited, and only then did they cry in the operating room.
The doctor went out with the two children in her arms, and she told Sheng Hailin's husband: "Congratulations! Mother and child are safe, it is two thousand gold! ”
Sheng Hailin's husband held his two daughters, and his eyes were full of joy that was difficult to hide.
And Sheng Hailin in the ward also seemed to have finally fulfilled her wish and was able to take a long breath.
Sheng Hailin's two children were asked for by her at hundreds of thousands of dollars.
However, after giving birth to the child, Sheng Hailin found that the future life was not as simple as she thought.
Sheng Hailin had already given birth to a child 30 years ago, but when she had another child 30 years later, Sheng Hailin's life was not as easy as 30 years ago.
After the birth of two daughters, money was needed everywhere.
Although Sheng Hailin and her husband have pensions, the pension is simply not enough for the children's milk powder money, medical expenses and so on.
Because Sheng Hailin and her husband were very old, they simply did not have the energy to take care of their two daughters, so they hired two nannies.
The nanny is another expense, and Sheng Hailin and her husband spend up to more than 30,000 yuan per month.
There is also a most serious problem in front of Sheng Hailin and his wife.
They are old and do not know how long they will be able to spend with their two daughters.
If something happens in the middle, what will happen to the two daughters in the days to come?
Her daughter grew up day by day, looking at her daughter's well-behaved face, the sorrow in Sheng Hailin's heart was getting bigger and bigger.
Sheng Hailin even had such an idea-if only she hadn't insisted on having these two children.
What happened in the first place that made the 60-year-old Sheng Hailin insist on having children?
And after Sheng Hailin, how to face the dilemma of adopting a daughter?
"Daughter dies in son-in-law's house"
It all started many years ago.
At the age of 30, Sheng Hailin had already given birth to a daughter named Tingting.
As the only daughter in the family, Tingting is very pampered.
Sheng Hailin and her husband's family situation is good, Sheng Hailin has been a soldier and studied medicine, and later became the president of a hospital in Anhui.
When Tingting was young, they gave all the good things in the world to their daughter.
When Tingting was born, Sheng Hailin and her husband were very busy at work, and Sheng Hailin also hired a young childcare sister-in-law at a high price to take care of Tingting.
Although there are special people to take care of, Sheng Hailin still did her mother's duty.
Every night after work, she would come to Tingting's room to tell her bedtime stories.
Tingting's musical talent is very good, when Tingting was seven years old, the couple also spent 5,000 yuan to buy an imported piano for Tingting.
In 1987, five thousand dollars was astronomical for a family.
After graduating from Tingting University in September 2002, she found a job in the Anhui Provincial Library.
In 2005, Sheng Hailin retired from the unit, and she began to worry about Tingting's marriage when she was idle.
But Tingting did not want her parents to participate in her love, and Sheng Hailin and his wife had to love freely by her.
Tingting met a boy from rural Chizhou in Anhui Province, Xiao Jiang.
Xiao Jiang's family is not well-off, but the people are still honest and diligent, and the couple did not do much to hinder them.
In the summer of 2008, Tingting and Xiaojiang received a marriage license.
In the first month of 2009, Sheng Hailin originally wanted her daughter and son-in-law to celebrate the New Year in Hefei.
But this is the first Spring Festival of their newlyweds' marriage, and Xiao Jiang's family also hopes that they will go to Chizhou for the New Year.
Sheng Hailin considered the face of her son-in-law, and under Tingting's bitter pleading, she finally agreed to let her daughter follow her son-in-law back to Chizhou.
Unexpectedly, this time to relax, it actually became the most regrettable decision in Sheng Hailin's life.
However, at that time, Sheng Hailin did not have the ability to predict the aftermath.
Sheng Hailin bought her daughter an expensive fur coat.
She also told her daughter that the first time she returned to the man's home for the New Year, she must not lose in momentum.
However, in the early morning of the sixth day of the first lunar month in 2009, Sheng Hailin and her husband received a call from their relatives.
The family broke up on the phone, saying that the couple had suffered a car accident in Chizhou.
Sheng Hailin was extremely panicked, and she hurriedly asked her relatives for details, but the relatives could not say clearly on the phone.
Helplessly, Sheng Hailin and her husband could only rush to Chizhou as quickly as possible.
Sheng Hailin used to be the president of the hospital, and she also contacted many top doctors in order to save her daughter's life.
However, by the time the couple arrived in Chizhou, her daughter Tingting's body was already cold.
At this time, Sheng Hailin knew that the original two small mouths were not in a car accident at all.
Because of the ignorance of the countryside, the little two were poisoned and died at night when they burned charcoal for warmth.
Sheng Hailin held her daughter's body for a long time and refused to let go, and she cried bitterly.
"It's hard to get twins"
The pain of losing their daughter swept through the elderly fathers.
Especially Sheng Hailin, since retiring, she has put all her energy into her daughter.
When her daughter died, Sheng Hailin did not want to live.
Later, under the comfort of relatives and friends, Sheng Hailin decided to raise another child.
Her first thought was to go to a welfare home to adopt a child.
At that time, less than a year after the Wenchuan earthquake, Sheng Hailin called the welfare home in Sichuan.
But the welfare home said all the children who lost their families in the earthquake had been adopted.
Sheng Hailin couldn't find a healthy child anywhere, and by chance, she thought of IVF.
Sheng Hailin herself knew that her idea was crazy, but her heart to want a child was too strong, and Sheng Hailin finally firmed up her idea.
Since March 2009, Sheng Hailin has traveled to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou to find various experts.
However, those doctors all politely rejected Sheng Hailin, Sheng Hailin was too old, there was no precedent in China, and the risk was too high.
Helplessly, Sheng Hailin could only return to Hefei.
Sheng Hailin used to be a doctor, and she also has a lot of doctor connections.
Sheng Hailin then began to seek medical treatment in Hefei, and Sheng Hailin promised that she would not blame the hospital for any accidents that occurred during the pregnancy.
Under the efforts of Sheng Hailin, a hospital in Hefei was touched by Sheng Hailin, and they agreed to perform IVF for Sheng Hailin.
Before IVF, Sheng Hailin also needs to adjust her body.
At the doctor's request, she prepared for the operation for three months.
The doctor put three embryos in her stomach, and the result was very successful, and finally two embryos grew up in Sheng Hailin's stomach.
Sheng Hailin, who became pregnant at the age of sixty, endured unimaginable torture and danger for ordinary people.
Her lower limbs were swollen and painful as if she had been beaten, and during her pregnancy, Sheng Hailin also experienced heavy bleeding.
On May 25, 2010, Sheng Hailin, who had gone through many hardships, gave birth to two girls in the hospital and named them "Zhizhi" and "Huihui".
"Save millions of dollars for your children"
Sheng Hailin and her husband are both high-level intellectuals and have high pensions after retirement.
However, the birth of the daughter made the couple's life difficult.
Sheng Hailin found that relying on her husband's pension alone could not support her daughter at all, let alone think about her future.
So after her daughter turned a hundred days old, Sheng Hailin began to work again.
With her qualifications, she could go to the hospital for consultation, but that salary was only a few thousand yuan a month.
In order to earn money, Sheng Hailin chose another way - to give lectures all over the country.
Over the years, she has traveled all over the country, sometimes even going abroad for business.
Sheng Hailin's life at home does not exceed 150 days in a year.
Both daughters are still young, and they are reluctant to their mothers, and they do not understand why their mothers are always absent.
Every time they parted, the two daughters would hold Sheng Hailin and cry.
Sheng Hailin herself would cry, but she still chose to separate from her child.
In 2015, there was an accident at Sheng Hailin's family - Sheng Hailin's husband suddenly suffered a stroke at home!
In order to take care of her husband, Sheng Hailin had to go home to take care of her children and husband.
During that time, Sheng Hailin was like a spinning top, and she never stopped for a moment.
When her husband was a little better, Sheng Hailin began to continue her business trip to earn money.
Sheng Hailin's busy work was not interrupted until 2019.
In June 2019, the youngest daughter Hui Hui had a high fever.
At first, the family didn't pay attention, but took her to a nearby clinic to see a doctor.
In this way, the condition was delayed, Hui Hui's condition became more and more serious, and when she was sent to the hospital, the doctor directly issued a notice of critical illness.
After the doctor's examination, Hui Hui was suffering from pneumonia, resulting in a pleural effusion.
Sheng Hailin stopped what she was doing, and she began to take care of the child in the hospital.
As a result, Hui Hui had just been discharged from the hospital, and Sheng Hailin was hospitalized because of fatigue.
The family was hospitalized one after another, so that Sheng Hailin began to think about the meaning of her life now.
I insisted on having children in the first place so that the elderly could have a companion.
As a result, after giving birth to a child, instead of accompanying the child, he also made his life tired.
After being discharged from the hospital, Sheng Hailin felt that it was time to stop.
Over the years, Sheng Hailin has accumulated seven or eight million.
Even if Sheng Hailin and his wife unfortunately passed away, this money can persist until the two children finish college.
In the face of the reporter's interview, Sheng Hailin admitted that she worked hard to earn money for the sake of raising a baby, and did not want to add a burden to the country.
After being discharged from the hospital, Sheng Hailin slowly shirked the invitation to those lectures, and she left her time to her two daughters.
Because of the epidemic, Sheng Hailin changed the offline lecture to an online lecture.
However, Sheng Hailin felt more and more overwhelmed, and even the number of online lectures became very small.
"Regret but not guilty"
When Sheng Hailin's two daughters were at home, Sheng Hailin always felt that the family was too noisy.
The two children attend boarding school and only come back once a week.
Every time her daughter left, Sheng Hailin would look forward to her daughter's return.
During the two daughters' study, Sheng Hailin always felt that the home was deserted, as if something was missing.
Sheng Hailin is now 72 years old, and the novelties that her daughter likes, Sheng Hailin can't understand.
But she still tried her best to keep up with the trend and reduce the generation gap with her daughter.
The two daughters have their own personalities, and the eldest daughter, Zhizhi, is quiet and elegant, and her grades are also among the best.
The youngest daughter, Huihui, is very lively and active, she likes to dance and play the piano, and her grades are worse than her sister's.
The two daughters often quarreled when they were together, and Sheng Hailin was very embarrassed to be caught in the middle.
However, this is also a sweet annoyance for Sheng Hailin.
Sheng Hailin usually likes to shoot some daily life in the short video platform, and she has accumulated more than 200,000 fans.
On February 20, 2022, the two children started school after winter break.
Sheng Hailin also filmed the whole process of sending the baby to school, with the text:
There is a kind of parting called sending the baby to school, sending a mood, a joy, but also a concern and reluctance...
Although she is 71 years old, Sheng Hailin, like all mothers in the world, cherishes every process of her child's growth.
Sheng Hailin didn't know how long she would live, but she hoped she could see her daughter go to college, get married and have children.
After Sheng Hailin's matter was exposed, there were many elderly people like her who had lost their independence to consult.
Although she gave birth to two lovely daughters, Sheng Hailin actually had regrets in her heart.
She never volunteered to persuade a lost mother to have another child.
Sheng Hailin advised them: "Whether or not you can give birth is a question, and whether you can be born well is also a big problem." ”
At the beginning, she was obstinate, spending hundreds of thousands of yuan from pregnancy to childbirth.
Sheng Hailin felt that as long as she gave birth to her child, she didn't have to think about anything else.
But after giving birth, I found that raising a child is more difficult than having a child.
Sheng Hailin also said bluntly that if she can choose again, she will definitely choose not to have these two daughters.
However, there is no regret medicine in the world, and since Sheng Hailin gave birth to the child, she will give the child the best life.
She has worked hard to earn money over the years and has paved the way back for her children.
Sheng Hailin said that although her birth is controversial, she has never added any burden to the country! She was unashamed.
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Text | chafing dish