Adolescent children are the most difficult to manage, the child's psychology is very sensitive, it is easy to have some psychological problems, people into the adolescent period is the middle school era, has entered the first psychological problems and psychological diseases of the high incidence of period, many psychologists and clinical workers found that mental illness has a significant phenomenon of rejuvenation.
In 2019, the World Health Organization (WHO) conducted statistics on the number of people with depression, and the statistical results showed that nearly 350 million people worldwide suffer from depression, and about 1 million depressed patients choose suicide because of depression every year, and in the past decade, the growth rate of depressed patients has been 18%. Up to now, according to estimates, there are about 100 million people suffering from depression in the mainland, and about 280,000 people in the mainland choose suicide every year to end their lives, of which 40% are depressed, the lifetime prevalence of depression is 6.9%, and the prevalence of the 12-month period is 3.6%.
A depressed person once said: "Depression is when I lie in a coffin and hear the sound of the earth falling." ”
Listening to this sentence will be very uncomfortable in many people's hearts, depression is simply too painful, so many people will choose to end their lives.
Friend's daughter Tingting this year in high school, her grades have been particularly good, ranked among the best, admitted to a good university almost no problem, but after the third year of high school, Tingting's grades began to plummet, directly down to the middle level, she began to become not fond of talking, friends asked her not to say anything, shut herself in the room, she even had a tendency to self-harm, friends found a fruit knife under her pillow, which can frighten friends, friends with Tingting to see the doctor, the doctor said that Tingting this is depression, It is recommended that friends let Tingting take a break from school for a period of time to accompany the child to treat depression.
This result shocked my friend, the child has always been very well-behaved, how can he suffer from depression?
Adolescent children are sensitive in their minds, and it is also possible to have some psychological problems, but there will be some symptoms before the child has psychological problems, and these twelve signs indicate that the child is on the verge of collapse, and parents should pay attention.
First, sleep problems
If the child often has insomnia, parents must pay attention to the fact that the child's sleep quality is not good, the child's mental state will be very poor, the mood will become unstable, and under the vicious circle, the child may collapse.
Second, boredom
Friends said: Tingting in her third year of high school had a tired mood, she did not want to go to school, friends said that she only went to school, why did the child get bored with school? Especially for children with good grades, at this time parents can not blindly murder children, to understand the real reason for children's boredom, is the pressure on children too much, classmates do not like children or how, parents should communicate with children, guide children to say why they are tired of school, children's emotions have been relieved.
Third, close yourself up and don't like to talk
If the child often closes himself off as soon as he comes home, in his room, does not talk to the parents, asks nothing and does not say anything, parents do not feel that this is the characteristic of adolescent children, this time need to be vigilant, the child's abnormality must be for a reason, the child may have some negative emotions, if the negative emotions accumulate too much, the child may have psychological problems.
Fourth, like to procrastinate
When the child is doing things very procrastinating, parents should not rush to kill the child, you can first ask the child why he procrastinates, is it because he will not or because he does not dare, if it is because he does not dare to parents, he should pay attention to it, this is a way for the child to escape the criticism of his parents, the child's heart is afraid, and when the inner fear increases, it will become a psychological problem of the child.
Fifth, the requirements for themselves are too high
Some children have particularly high requirements for themselves, such as this time to test to 150 points, can not test him will be very sad, such a psychological gap will make him doubt that he is not very bad, the child will become decadent, blindly doubt that they deny themselves, so that they can not get out of their emotions.
Sixth, interest in favorite things is decreasing
If the child has no interest in the game or thing they like, the parents should pay attention, which may be a precursor to depression and lose interest in everything.
7. Early love
Children's psychological development is immature, especially serious when in love, if you lose love, you may collapse or other behaviors, some children will even be very desperate, feel that their lives have no hope.
Eighth, do not like to go out
If the child used to like to go out, and suddenly becomes not fond of going out, parents should pay attention to whether there is something wrong with the child's psychology.
Nine, do not make friends
If the child does not make friends at school, often alone, parents should also pay attention to the child's psychological state, whether the child is too inferior or how.
Ten, disgusted with everything around you
When a child feels that his teachers and classmates are very bad, he may experience depression, and the prominent manifestation of depression is that he feels that he is very bad, and everything around him is very bad.
11. Irritable emotions
The child's emotions suddenly become very grumpy, parents should pay attention to why the child has become like this, is it because of too much accumulation of negative emotions?
12. Loss of appetite
If the amount of food suddenly decreases when the child eats, and there is no appetite for what they like, parents need to pay attention to whether the child has emotional problems.
Children's emotional problems are very terrible, it is possible to accumulate more into depression, parents should pay attention to, usually pay more attention to children, communicate with children more, understand some of the situation of children in school, parents do not give children too much pressure.
The reason why Tingting, the daughter of a friend, has depression has a lot to do with the pressure of the friend on the child, the friend often says to the child: You have to be admitted to a good university, otherwise I am sorry that I and your father cultivated you, once or twice may be an incentive, many times it becomes the pressure of the child, and the pressure on the child is breathless.
When there is nothing to do, you can take your child out for a walk, let the child relax, which is also of great benefit to the child's mood, and the relaxed whole body is also conducive to the child's learning.
Parents' love for their children can be understood, and the heart of Jackie Chan can also be understood, but the wrong way may ruin the child, to give the child some space, allow the child to relax, so that it is really good for the child.