Friends and couples are going on business trips, and they entrust my 10-year-old little god beast to take care of me for a few days. For more than a week, guests and hosts can be said to have a lot of fun. In addition to taking care of his food and clothing, it is inevitable that he will have to play the role of "teacher" to tutor his homework and so on.
Han Yu's "Sayings of the Master" has clouds, "The master, the preacher and the teacher who solves the puzzle." The preacher did not dare to say that dealing with such a child, teaching, solving puzzles or not being timid, it can be regarded as helping him solve a bunch of small problems.
There are two questions about language/language learning, and now that I think about it, there seems to be a little bit of meaning, so I will put it down and share it with you.
Question 1: The purpose of language learning
This is an after-school reflection question. The topic is very large, and the requirements for children of this age are really not low.
I said: Of course it's for communication and communication.
The child said: I don't understand it, it's too abstract.
How can this be done? No way, the two of us had a ride to pull up the gossip, searched around on the Internet, after a little "brainstorming", finally came up with an answer that his little family thought was "perfect".
The answer is that we learn a language or a language mainly to accomplish two things:
One is to allow yourself to listen/see/read what others say,
The second is to let others hear/see/read what we say.
And the following note was also made: in this way, it can ensure effective communication in both directions. As for the use of the three actions of "listening/seeing/reading", it is because these meanings may be spoken, written or drawn, etc.; and when listening to/speaking these words, the expression, tone and movement of the speaker are also conveying effective information.
Heck, a child who thinks he can't understand abstract words can actually express satisfaction with such an answer, and I am also a little crying and laughing. But fortunately, after hearing that this answer was handed in, the teacher praised him a bit, and it was not in vain that the blind tossing and turning between the two of us was not in vain.
Problem two: When arguing, how to talk so as not to intensify emotions
This is two days after we got along for a long time, the child inadvertently complained to me, mentioning that his parents often mixed their mouths at every turn for two months, sometimes speaking very loudly, and the emotions were very excited, which made him a little afraid.
I said: This issue is more complicated, people get along with people, because they have different views on things, so it is inevitable that there will be times of argument. It is difficult for the officials to break the housework, and I, as a friend, am not very good at blending in, but I can try to remind them and tell them how you feel.
Obviously, however, my diplomatic rhetoric was clearly not satisfactory to him, and sure enough, after listening to my words, he was sullen and unhappy.
No way, who let us be friends, I said: I can't help it, but you are their baby, you can play a big role in this.
This guy was furious when he heard it: What's the solution?
I, for my part, distilled his question into question two. This is a question of how to speak and how to express, of course, it is also within the scope of language learning.
As for the specific method, the antidote I gave is that the next time I see my parents arguing again, please ask the little man to stand up bravely and have a three-chapter covenant with them, quarreling can be done, but talk to each other to do three things:
First, don't let go of the voice, control the number of decibels, and normal speech is about 60 decibels;
Second, speak as you speak, and are not allowed to bring mood words;
Third, it is not allowed to use question sentences and rhetorical question sentences, please use statement sentences to express their respective meanings.
The throat is closed, there is no tone word, and the mood of speaking will be much calmer;
No need to ask questions, especially rhetorical questions, to avoid others from bothering to guess your thoughts, forcing you to clearly express your meaning, direct and clear, the probability of misunderstanding is greatly reduced, and the accuracy and effectiveness of communication are naturally guaranteed.
You know, if it is not a serious disagreement between the three views, or if there is too much difference in IQ, then in reality there are too many quarrels, mostly because of the simple situation of "I thought you knew, but people really don't know", you think he is pretending to be stupid, he thinks you are messing around, and finally the anger of both sides rises uncontrollably.
I gave him such a technical solution that treats the symptoms but not the root causes, in fact, I don't have any bottom in my heart. But just two days ago, there was good news. My friend called to thank me and said he had helped them call out a good son.
Talk carefully, it turned out that this boy really grabbed the medicine according to the prescription when he went back, took the pressure money and really went to buy a decibel meter, used all the things I taught him, made the couple cry and laugh and couldn't be touched, and assured the boy: In the future, if you want to quarrel, you will also have a "civilized" quarrel according to the rules he set.
It seems that the language of this family of three is very well learned. I also have some feelings about these two things, so I sorted it out and sent it out for everyone's reference.
Do you think that my little tricks are still justified?