Li Min died of sunshine-type depression, and her smile warmed others but did not save herself
On July 5, a very sad thing happened, Li Min passed away from depression, as a person who grew up listening to Li Min's songs since I was a child, this matter really had a great impact on me, whether it was "true lover", "365 days of thinking about you", "Dao Ma Dan", "Tick", "Beautiful stupid woman", "good mood" and so on, etc., these all occupied my childhood memories.
When I was very young, I didn't have the concept of chasing stars at all, and I didn't deliberately pay attention to these star artists, but despite this, I could also know that the charming person on the TV was Li Min.
When I heard that Li Min died of depression last night, I really felt very incredible, very unbelievable, she has always been a diva on the stage in my heart, a presence who always faces the world with a sunny smile, she is so energetic, always singing and dancing in front of the screen.
It was such a person who I thought would dance forever in my life, who left us so suddenly, out of this world.
First, the incident review: stop discussing the cause of death, "just remember Li Min's talent and smile"
On July 5, CoCo Li Min's sister Li Silin Nancy posted on Weibo that Li Min unfortunately suffered from depression a few years ago and struggled with the disease for a long time, but unfortunately his condition took a turn for the worse, and he died at home on July 2, and has been in a coma after being sent to the hospital, although the hospital team worked hard to rescue and treat, and finally passed away on July 5 at the age of 48.
After the matter became public, almost everyone was in a "can't believe" attitude. Just like they can't believe that the sun will set forever, everyone can't believe that Li Min, the queen of heaven who warmed others with a smile like the sun, will die suddenly, and it is suicide because of depression.
As more and more people wake up from their emotions, Li Min's behavior and experience before his death have become the focus of public attention.
Then many media began to report information about Li Min's death.
According to Hong Kong's "Point News", Li Min was plagued by depression and died at her Hong Kong apartment on July 2, and police said that a blood-stained nail clipper was found next to the sink in the bathroom at the scene, and 13 antidepressants were found in his belongings.
Comprehensive Hong Kong and Taiwan media reports, Li Min's sister Li Silin said that when Li Min was admitted to the hospital on the 2nd, there was no rescue, and the doctor asked him to give up, but his mother never gave up. And because Li Min died unnaturally, it takes about 4-6 weeks to clarify the cause of death.
For the rumor of the most murderous wrist cutting suicide circulating in the outside world, Li Silin stressed in an interview with "Taiwan Frequency News Network" that Li Min was definitely not a rumored wrist cutting suicide, and hoped that all walks of life would not speculate about the cause of his sister's death.
Therefore, although many media are exploring and excavating the cause of Li Min's death, Nag here feels that it is better to respect the wishes of Li Min's family and reduce the discussion of the cause of death. As Li Silin said: "Just remember Li Min's talent and smile." ”
2. Bright Star Path: An international legendary singing and dancing diva born with a crippled leg
So, nagging me here to talk to you about the CoCo we know who shines on stage, is brilliant, and has a charming smile.
In 1993, when she was 18 years old, Li Min participated in the "Rookie Singing Competition" held by Hong Kong TVB, won the runner-up, and then made her debut smoothly and opened her own singer path.
Li Min once said in an interview that he hopes to be a singer who rushes out of Asia and is on par with foreign singers.
As it turned out, she did.
1998 was a very glorious year for Li Min, when Li Min released the music album "Di Da Di Hint", which included several masterpieces that are still classic to this day, such as: "After the Winter", "Di Da Di" and "Beautiful Stupid Woman". Through this album, Li Min won two international awards, the 1998 Best China Music TV Award and the 1999 Best Female Artist Award. In June, the music album "Good Mood" was released, which included "Good Mood" and the Chinese theme song "Yourself" from Disney's animated film "Mulan". In the same year, she also sang the theme song "365 Days of Missing You" for the cartoon "Pauline Lantern". In addition, at the invitation of the organizers of the World Cup football tournament, Li Min recorded a new single "Color", becoming the only Asian song queen to appear at the opening ceremony of the World Cup.
In 1999, Li Min released his first English album "Just No Other Way". In 2001, her song "A Love Before Time" was nominated for Best Original Song at the 73rd Academy Awards, thus becoming the first Chinese singer to sing an Oscar.
TIME MAGAZINE CALLED LI MIN "THE LIGHT OF THE Chinese", and after interviewing li min, the reporter made a comment on her: a singer who sings hard with her life.
And Li Min also said in an interview: "I hope to let the world know our talent, this is the most important thing for me, change history, change music history forever." ”
Since then, Li Min's status as an international diva cannot be shaken.
But the international diva in our hearts, the queen of charm on the stage, has actually been tormented by illness.
The first is sound. In February 2016, Li Min revealed that he suffered from acute bronchitis and suffered from complete loss of voice and a serious condition in his throat. And this is not the first time that Li Min has had this kind of problem, she revealed in an interview that she could not sing because of her voice in the past few years, and in 2007 her throat lost her voice for three years, even a cold and cough was completely silent, singing could not be controlled, Li Min even felt a little afraid of the stage because she could not hold her voice, and once faded out of the music scene.
Then there's the dance. On February 23, 2023, Li Min said through Weibo that he had "the biggest fear of his life". She said that she was born with a defect in her left leg and underwent surgery at the age of two, but the operation was unsuccessful, and the pain at that time was very torturous for her, and the operation was unsuccessful, resulting in singing and dancing on stage for so many years relying on her right leg to support. After every rehearsal or concert, her legs hurt terribly.
Therefore, every time we watch Li Min singing and dancing on the stage, blooming charm, and showing a bright smile, it is actually when she is the most painful and tired. She really kept all the pain to herself and brought the smile to others.
And Li Min recalled that when she was a child, the doctor said that it was impossible for her to dance, so years of singing and dancing can really be counted as a miracle, and Li Min is a miracle diva.
However, in early October 22, Li Wen was too hard to fight during the rehearsal, touched the old disease, the hip was displaced, and the nerves were suppressed without the protection of cartilage. After enduring the pain for many years, she was unable to live normally, she was afraid to go to the hospital, but she was even more afraid that she would not be able to dance, so she had to be treated in the hospital. She told everyone about this, she wants to practice walking again, she hopes that everyone will accompany her through this difficult journey, and she also hopes to convey this positive energy to everyone.
I think it is the love of the stage and the love of the fans, in March 2023, Li Min's leg surgery was completed. She said it hurt and she had to learn to walk again, but she could.
So such a person who loves the stage and loves the fans, it is really difficult for us to accept why she ended her life four months later.
Third, the original family: a sensible daughter formed by a single-parent family
It is often said that when a person is at the end of his life, all he thinks of is his family.
We can see a lot of reports about Li Min's family, before Li Min was born, her father had died, she was a widow, there were already two sisters on it, Li Min's mother raised two children alone has been very hard, at this time she can give up the child in the womb to reduce the pressure of survival, but she didn't, after she gave birth to Li Min, she took her three daughters across the ocean to live abroad, showing her daughters a strong and courageous image, not only loving but also being strict with her daughters, Because she not only has to assume the role of a mother, but also the role of a father, Li Min knows her mother's hard work and love.
After Li Min died, some people familiar with the matter said that Li Min had made a will before her death, and all the property was given to her beloved mother.
As a child of a single-parent family, Li Min was sensible very early, did not let her mother worry since she was a child, and has always been excellent in character and learning when she was a student, but it was such a good daughter and good student in everyone's heart, but she ended her life due to depression.
Many people will work hard to attribute Li Min's depression, which will take into account her native family, the absence of her father since childhood, the hard work and strictness of her mother, will cause Li Min to become our so-called good child, she understands her mother's hard work, understands her mother's difficulty, so she strives to improve herself and make herself the person everyone expects, and leave the pain to herself, and thus become what we call sunshine depression, but also due to the absence of her father, Many people believe that Li Min's marriage is a choice made due to the lack of father's love.
Fourth, marriage problems: excessive giving and understanding have been exchanged for repeated betrayal
Li Min's marriage did not go well, which is one of the reasons why many people think she will suffer from depression.
In 2003, Li Min fell in love at first sight with her ex-husband Bruce at a dinner party, her husband was 16 years older than her, and she brought two daughters, and this relationship was not favored by the public. But Li Min has paid a lot for this family, even giving up part of her career, and treating her two stepdaughters as her own.
Li Min attaches great importance to her family, and also wants to have a child, she has done nine test tubes before and after, and the long and thick needle has pierced countless holes in her stomach, but she still failed to conceive a child.
These nine test tubes are also one of the causes of Li Min's depression that everyone speculated. Because before and after the test tube, a large number of fluctuations in estrogen, women's emotions will be affected by the fluctuations of estrogen, these nine test tubes not only have a great impact on Li Min's body, but also affect the ups and downs of his psychological emotions, and the huge ups and downs of this mood will also contribute to depression.
On this side, Li Min gave everything for the family, but on the other side, her husband cheated many times, and even Li Min repeatedly tolerated it but failed to exchange for the man's cherishment, not only cheating became more and more frequent, but also became more and more public, and finally separated, and the stepdaughter also united with her father after learning about it, ignoring Li Min, resulting in Li Min being isolated and helpless.
Excessive effort and understanding that has not been rewarded with betrayal over and over again is very sad for anyone.
Some media will attribute Li Min's depressed death to unfortunate marriage, many fans do not agree with this statement, thinking that this attribution is a kind of blasphemy against Li Min as an international singing and dancing diva, to see that Li Min is an outstanding woman, tenacious and enthusiastic, talented, with big love, is a very good artist, erotic love will not be her fatal blow. It is true that the causes of depression are very complex, and it is indeed unreasonable to attribute it to marital misfortune, and this orientation is not correct, but we must also face up to the fact that marriage does have a certain negative impact on Li Min.
5. "Mythical" pressure: choosing self-suffering in order to meet the expectations of others
In fact, starting from the above praise for Li Min, I will have a lot of thought. Will such a high evaluation of Li Min put some pressure on Li Min himself?
Just like Li Min once said in an interview, she is most afraid that others will use "red" as a success index to judge her, "This is invisible pressure for me, lest I spend no hundred days red."
So if we put a very high evaluation and expectation on Li Min's body, and Li Min, as a sun-type depression patient, will he meet the public's expectations as much as possible and raise his own requirements, even to the point that it is painful to achieve this requirement, and it is painful to fail to achieve it.
I wonder if there is a category of people who want to meet the high requirements of the outside world, but also have a small self in their hearts trying to "be themselves", and struggling between satisfying the expectations of others and being themselves, is it also a tired and painful thing.
Depression: The cause and pathogenesis are unknown, and stigma abuse is even more terrifying
As a person who is difficult to accept Li Min's death, in the story just now, through thinking about Li Min's acting career, native family and marriage issues, I constantly want to try to explore the answer to the causes of Li Min's depression. However, from a medical point of view, the etiology and pathogenesis of depression involve biochemistry, neuroendocrine, neuroimmunology, sleep and brain electrophysiological abnormalities, brain imaging, genetics, psychosocial factors and so on. In other words, the cause and pathogenesis of depression are not clear, and the causes are very complex, so perhaps anything we talked about above may be one of the reasons for Li Min's depression.
In fact, depression is already a "common disease" in the public eye. According to WHO data, about 280 million people worldwide suffer from depression; the China Mental Health Survey shows that the prevalence of depression among adults in mainland China is 3.4%, and the number of people suffering from depression in mainland China currently exceeds 95 million.
However, the more common it is, the more mixed and unvalued.
Internet terms such as "jade disease", "net cloud suppression" and "emo" frequently appear on social platforms, and even "mourning" are suspected of abuse, and it is precisely because of this abuse that many people have a "disease-free moaning" attitude towards people who call themselves "depressed".
Not really depressed people are fearless, and truly depressed people can only go deep into the dark. So help those around you who are suffering. If it is fake depression, it is best, they do not have to bear this pain, if it is true, it is to reach out a hand to grab someone when he is about to step into the abyss.
7. Sun-type depression: Please cherish and treat anyone around you, even if they look "optimistic"
Li Min's depression is subdivided into "sunshine depression". Such people tend to hide their true emotions, only show people their sunny side, and accumulate negative emotions that have not been vented for a long time, forming great pressure.
And such people are generally the better people in society, and they will deliberately hide their emotions in order to maintain their beautiful image in the eyes of others. And when the pressure is too great to bear, their reaction is also huge.
And these are indeed in line with Li Min's situation. She is undoubtedly an excellent person in society, and very motivated, both in her student and career has achieved great achievements, and she is also very nice, she is her mother's sensible daughter, she is an ideal wife who is willing to pay for the family, and she is an international diva in our hearts.
She has always shown people with a sunny image, I believe everyone can remember Li Min's brilliant and charming smile, even if behind the dancing and singing on the stage and releasing the smile, there is a huge pain caused by the natural leg defect, she has all the negative emotions accumulated in her heart, for fear of transmitting negative energy to others, so she chooses to digest negative emotions alone.
And she did have times when she was shocked and reacted hugely, such as when the good voice was recording, in the face of the black screen, Li Min boldly questioned "why 73 points have a chance to fall, 88.3 has no second chance", in the face of this injustice, Li Min broke out her emotions, she spoke up for fairness, even if she had been restraining her emotions all along, and did not want to vent negative emotions such as "anger".
It can be seen that Li Min is indeed "sunshine depression". And such a person, maybe there are many around us, so be kind to anyone around you, even if he does not seem sensitive, not glass-hearted, always optimistic, please cherish the other party in words. No one knows what other people have experienced or what kind of fluctuations have gone through in their hearts, but the release of kindness can always warm a heart that is still hot.
From the puzzlement, inability to believe, and regret about Li Min's death, to the dissipation of emotions and acceptance of reality, we are grateful to Li Min for leaving his kindness and smile in this world and to the world. But at the same time, when you love others, you must also love yourself. I hope that time can precipitate emotions, and the meaning of the existence and passing of life may be to let us know how to cherish it. Cherish those good things, beautiful things, beautiful people.