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Husband and wife, living together, two people can tolerate each other because of love, but with other family members, there will be a lot of estrangement and contradictions.
Many families, because of economic conditions or different ideas, so that the two young couples do not have an independent living space. Or the elders of the family often disturb the lives of the little two, there is a clear crossing of the line, but they do not know it. Especially between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there will be many contradictions because of living together.
The mother-in-law does not regard herself as an outsider, feels that her son's home is her own home, how she wants to live, how she wants to live, everything is in accordance with her own habits, completely disregarding what her daughter-in-law thinks. If you do too much, it will not only make the family disharmonious, but also may cause great problems in the relationship between the son and daughter-in-law.
If the son is married, as a mother-in-law, you can go to the son's home as a guest, but you have to get along well with the son and the daughter-in-law, if the arrival of the mother-in-law makes the daughter-in-law uncomfortable, this harmonious home is likely to become a battlefield.
Fan Tingting talked about his struggle with his mother-in-law in a private message, and kept saying that he could not seek perfection, let alone tolerate it. In the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the more the daughter-in-law retreats, the less independent space she has.
Inch-in-inch mother-in-law.
Tingting's mother-in-law wanted to live with them at first, but under Tingting's persuasion, she agreed to live separately from them. But from time to time, they will come to the home of the little two and live for a while. Many times, they did not come by themselves, but also came with the children of the younger son's family, Long Long.
Tingting is not unable to tolerate people, but her mother-in-law has gone too far. At the beginning, when the mother-in-law came with the dragon, Tingting was a delicious and delicious host, bought some snacks, and prepared various ingredients to make for them to eat. The mother-in-law always left the best for Long Long, Tingting has a daughter, and when they eat together, Tingting always says to the girl: "Brother is small, still a guest, after he comes, you have to let him." ”
Even if it is childish crying, the fun and delicious is also close to the little nephew, Tingting feels that she has done well enough, but in the eyes of her mother-in-law, she is still not satisfied. When I came home, I shouted at Tingting to go shopping. Along the way, I saw the clothing store and went in, bought it for my children, bought a bunch of large bags and small bags, and waited for Tingting to pay each time.
Tingting felt that it would be a lot of patience to buy some clothes, and it would not cost a few dollars to buy some clothes, in short, how long they had lived here, good food and drink, and when they left, they would be safe. Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law came more and more frequently, and she couldn't stay and leave at every turn. The two children fought at home, and the mother-in-law only turned to the little nephew, and every time she trained Tingting's daughter to cry.
The daughter said to Tingting with tears in her eyes: "Mother, can you please stop letting Grandma come with her brother, I hate them." Tingting did not know how to tell her daughter, and could only say to her daughter: "What you want to eat, your mother bought it for you alone, your brother is small, he does not understand things, you don't want to see him in general." Mom will criticize him and tell him not to always bully you. ”
Even so, Tingting knew that if he really went to reprimand the dragon, the mother-in-law would definitely not want to. But even so, when he saw the dragon making a mess of the house, he couldn't help but lose his temper. Tingting said, "Long Long, you are also a big child, and when you are a guest at someone else's house, you must know how to be polite." Don't touch other people's things, and you can't jump up and down like this. ”
This happened to be heard by the mother-in-law, who said in a strange way: "Dragon Dragon, do whatever you want, and eat whatever you want." This is our own home, how did it become someone else's home? My son is my family, and if others want to bully you, I will not agree. Long Long made a grimace and ran away, making Tingting angry.
The daughter-in-law fought back, and the war between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law began.
Tingting also realized that it was not the way to be so weak and deceitful all the time. So she decided to change her strategy and find a way to prevent her mother-in-law from coming to her house. As long as she heard her mother-in-law call her husband Zhang Jiawei, as long as she mentioned that she wanted to come to the house, Tingting would find an excuse not to let her come.
It had only been two weeks since I had left, and my mother-in-law was coming again. Tingting's husband said: "Wife, my mother said that tomorrow she will bring her nephew to our house for summer vacation." Tingting immediately replied, "I can't stay, my mother will arrive right away." Not only that, but he really took his mother and lived in another bedroom, just not to let his mother-in-law come."
Tingting's daughter also said, "Grandma, you can live in our house, so that Grandma can't bring her brother." Tingting's mother felt that her daughter and children were very pitiful, so she said to her daughter: "It is not a way to turn your face, turn your face, and tell your mother-in-law that if you always look toward your grandson and do not love your granddaughter, you will make a mess of your home when you come to the house, even if there is a place in the house, they are not welcome to stay." ”
When Zhang Jiawei heard this, he was instantly unhappy, and said to Tingting and his mother-in-law: "Why are your hearts so bad, what happened to my mother to stay for a few days?" Isn't it just an old man and a child, at most it is to add two pairs of chopsticks, and Grandma can also help with the child, even if you say it is so unbearable. You're all leaving, and I'm going to call my mother to stay. ”
Originally, Tingting still wanted to argue with her husband, but Tingting's mother pulled her aside and asked her to pack up her things and take the child back to her mother's house. Tingting said reluctantly: "Mom, I don't want to leave, after I leave, my mother-in-law will be proud." Tingting's mother said: "Child, listen to the mother, let's go back first, let them live together for a while." Tingting's mother did not make any noise, so she dragged her daughter back to her home with her granddaughter.
Zhang Jiawei called his mother and asked him to bring his nephew, saying that his mother-in-law and Tingting were gone. Zhang Jiawei said to his mother: "You take your eldest nephew to play here, play as long as you want, cook for me, wash clothes, clean up the room." ”
Zhang Jiawei thought very well, but as soon as he entered the door, he found that the home had become a pot of porridge. The quilt in the bedroom was thrown on the couch, there was something slimy on the carpet, not knowing what it was. The cup of water is tilted on the coffee table, and the water flows down the coffee table. The dragon bounced around on the couch, wearing no shoes, and his black feet rubbed on the bed.
Seeing this scene, Zhang Jiawei was about to go crazy, and hurriedly called out to his mother and asked her what was wrong with this? Unexpectedly, the mother smiled and said: "The child is a little skinny, it is quite normal, it was like this before, Tingting will follow behind to clean, when will Tingting return to her mother's house?" I looked at The Dragon Dragon, who has the kung fu to clean up your room and cook, you call her back. ”
Zhang Jiawei knew how much his wife had been wronged, so he went to his mother-in-law's house to pick up his wife, but his mother-in-law could not open the door, and said that he would prepare various documents and go to divorce when he was ready. Zhang Jiawei shouted loudly through the door, saying that he was wrong and asked Tingting to give him a chance. In the future, I will listen to Tingting and never let my eldest nephew come home again.
The mother-in-law did not let go of her mouth, and said to Zhang Jiawei through the door: "You brought out the people to make room for your mother and your nephew." Let Tingting go back, and your mother will make three chapters of the law, there is no special situation, don't run to your house if you have nothing to do, your eldest nephew specified that he can't enter your house again. ”
The two families were deadlocked, and in the end, it was because of this incident that the marriage of the two people ended prematurely.
There is no sense of boundaries, which is a terrible thing.
Many mothers will feel that the child is mine, and I say whatever I want. Being too selfish will put your son in the middle of nowhere. The relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and they feel that the daughter-in-law has not given birth to a son, and it is even more difficult for the family to get along with the granddaughter.
After the child is married, it is necessary to draw a clear line with the child's life. Let the daughter-in-law have a relatively high family status at home and be able to live comfortably.
Don't always feel that your son is your own, that your son's home is up to you. A man, in addition to being a son, is someone else's husband and a father. If you really want to be good for your son, you must be considerate of your son. Being able to get along with your daughter-in-law and treat your granddaughter well is the deepest love for your son.
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The mother-in-law has no sense of boundaries, what would you do if you were a daughter-in-law?
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