Hello, hello everyone, here is the South South really material, I am south South. Pay attention to me to learn more emotional stories, let every heart that needs warmth be comforted, I hope that everyone can get a moment of relaxation and ease here, and better face the emotional life.
Marriage is a matter of two people, never let a person bear the pressure, and what is most needed in marriage is mutual respect and mutual trust, because the two people who choose to get married should be ready to spend the rest of their lives together, rather than simply living together.
However, there are always some people who do not understand what they should do and what they should not do after marriage, and always love to put themselves in a high position and want to be the emperor of the family. Especially many husbands, who think that they are earning money to support their families, should be higher than the status of their wives, but this should not be the case at all.
In a marriage, whether it is simply earning money to support the family, or simply running the housework, taking care of the elderly and children, no one is more tired than anyone, who is more hard than whom. Because no matter who it is, it is to take good care of the whole family and operate well, if only because of the different division of labor, there must be different status, then such a marriage must not go on.
Netizen Lin Fan met such a husband, and because of her husband's attitude, the mother-in-law did not have a good face for Lin Fan, Lin Fan has been silently paying for this family, and finally she did not get anyone's care and concern, she was finally completely disappointed and chose to divorce. Let's take a look at her story.
Blind date marriage
Lin Fan's family conditions are relatively ordinary, and Lin Fan also has a younger brother who is three years younger than her, although her parents do not value sons over daughters, but because of family circumstances, Lin Fan always can't help but let this younger brother who is younger than herself.
After Lin Fan went to high school, his parents were worried for a while because of their children's schooling, because Lin Fan's grandmother was sick and spent all the family's savings, so Lin Fan's parents were afraid that they would not be able to pay their children's tuition. Thinking that his grades were not as good as his brother's, Lin Fan took the initiative to choose to go to a health school that was free of tuition and miscellaneous fees after graduating from high school, and after graduation, he came out to become a nurse.
Parents and brothers are touched by Lin Fan's efforts, but also because they owe Lin Fan and some guilt, so after Lin Fan worked, Lin Fan's parents will not ask for their daughter's money, but also have been asking around, want to find a good family for their daughter.
In order not to worry her parents, Lin Fan took the initiative to participate in the blind date, that is, during the blind date, she met Kang Yue. Kang Yue's family is better than Lin Fan's, Kang Yue's father died a few years earlier, and Kang Yue's mother has a pension, kang Yue himself has a stable job, and he is a very good marriage partner in their small town.
Knowing Lin Fan's experience, Kang Yue expressed great sympathy and felt that Lin Fan's personality was very good, so he proposed to further develop with Lin Fan. After Lin Fan's parents knew about it, they especially supported Lin Fan and Kang Yue to marry, and under the influence of his parents, Lin Fan also had a special affection for Kang Yue.
However, when the two began to discuss the marriage, Kang Yue proposed several conditions, the first of which was that he must live with his mother after marriage, and Lin Fan also had to do his best to serve his mother-in-law. The second is to hope that Lin Fan can resign, because Kang Yue's working hours have changed more largely, and he does not want Lin Fan to do such a work as a nurse with uncertain time.
Lin Fan was a little hesitant at first, but he didn't want his parents to worry about him all the time, and after thinking about it for a while, he still chose to agree.
Abandoned after marriage
When they got married, the two people did not have a wedding, Lin Fan did not ask for these, Kang Yue gave Lin Fan's family a dowry of 30,000 yuan, and after the two received the marriage license, Lin Fan lived in Kang Yue's home.
The mother-in-law is not a hot person, but she is definitely not a kind person, and on the first day lin fan lived in, the mother-in-law did not even cook a welcome meal for Lin Fan. Lin Fan knew that this was his mother-in-law's dismounting power, but he would have to get along with this family day and night in the future, so Lin Fan thought of taking a step back and letting his mother-in-law see his sincerity.
As a result, in the days that followed, the mother-in-law not only did not get along with Lin Fan in harmony, but like feeling that Lin Fan was a good bully, she threw all the housework to Lin Fan to do, even if Kang Yue did not come back to eat, the mother-in-law also wanted Lin Fan to make a rich meal for herself, and the result was not dislike, this is dislike.
Although the mother-in-law always said something, because the words were not very good, Lin Fan's heart was still uncomfortable. When it was a month after marriage, Lin Fan thought that he and Xiaomi had become husband and wife, and what grievances he had, Kang Yue should help himself share it.
However, unexpectedly, when Lin Fan complained to Kang Yue about what his mother-in-law had done, Kang Yue directly criticized her, "What do you think I did when I married you home?" It is to serve my mother well, let my mother spend her old age in peace, and now you actually sue, my mother is so old, say you can listen to two sentences, you are too ignorant. ”
Kang Yue's words surprised Lin Fan, was he just a free nanny serving his mother in Kang Yue's eyes?
"How can you talk so hard?" Don't you usually stay at home and I just do housework and cook? I'm working hard to earn money outside, is it wrong to want my mother to live a better life? ”
Lin Fan no longer spoke, but his heart was extremely disappointed, because neither his mother-in-law nor Kang Yue had the slightest respect for himself.
He chose to divorce even more
Later, Lin Fan did not want to contribute to this family wholeheartedly anymore, so despite Kang Yue's objections, he went out to find a relatively idle job, on the one hand, to pass the time, on the other hand, he could also avoid his mother-in-law, but Lin Fan still could not avoid the family's affairs.
However, one day, just as Lin Fan came back from work and passed through the community square, he heard the sound of his mother-in-law and a group of aunts chatting, and one of the aunts seemed to be their neighbors, and he was praising Lin Fan with his mother-in-law.
"The daughter-in-law that your family Kang yue married is really virtuous!" I listened to her get up early in the morning to clean up the house, which was much better than the one in our house. ”
Lin Fan didn't know what to feel in his heart, a neighbor could see his own goodness, but his mother-in-law and husband only knew how to pick their own thorns. As a result, the next second, the mother-in-law's words made Lin Fan completely chill.
"What's the sage?" Isn't everything she does supposed to be? Otherwise, what would my son do when he married her? Isn't it just to serve me well, I tell you, here the daughter-in-law, you have to always adjust, otherwise they can't recognize themselves. ”
Lin Fan did not know how he walked home, after returning home, Lin Fan has been thinking about the meaning of his doing this, can such a marriage be happy if he persists?
Thinking about it, the mother-in-law came back from chatting, looked at the kitchen that had not been fired and Lin Fan, who was sitting on the sofa in a daze, and immediately scolded, "Why don't you cook?" Do you know what time it is? Are you trying to starve me to death? ”
Hearing his mother-in-law's words, Lin Fan raised his head and finally made up his mind, "I am not your nanny, I want to eat and make my own." ”
After saying that, Lin Fan slammed the door and left, she found a place in the community, called her parents to tell her grievances, and in the end, Lin Fan's parents also supported her decision to divorce.
When Lin Fan returned to his in-laws' house with ease, he saw Kang Yue holding his crying mother-in-law and looking at her with a dissatisfied face, "Didn't you see that my mother was hungry and crying?" Cook quickly after work, and run outside to calculate what's going on? ”
Lin Fan didn't even look at him, "Sorry, I've eaten." After putting down this sentence, he went into the bedroom and began to pack up his things, Kang Yue also followed in with the intention of teaching Lin Fan, after seeing Lin Fan's actions, he was stunned and asked Lin Fan what he wanted to do?
"If I don't do anything, I'm going to divorce you, so I'll pack my bags and go back to my mother's house today, and tomorrow we'll go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce during the day."
After saying that, Lin Fan carried something to knock Kang Yue away and left, and when Kang Yue came the next day, he was still saying harsh words to Lin Fan, so that Lin Fan would not regret it. Lin Fan didn't say anything, and he didn't even look at Kang Yue when he took the divorce certificate.
Later, Lin Fan did his job as a nurse again, thinking that everything would go naturally and he would no longer be in such a hurry.
Lin Fan chose to marry on a blind date because of his parents' worries, but kang Yue, whom he met, did not have any respect for himself, and just wanted to find a free nanny for his family and his mother. At first, Lin Fan thought about trying to gain the recognition and goodwill of the two, but in the end, people did not pay attention to it at all. And Lin Fan finally chose to divorce and return to his own life.
There are always some people who feel that people must get married in this life, and it is precisely because of this that whenever they are older or their parents start to urge, they will be particularly anxious to find a marriage partner. However, in this way, the understanding of the other party and the other party's family must be insufficient, and such a marriage is also very sloppy.
Therefore, it is not necessary that every couple who flash marriage is not happy, but the flash marriage still does more harm than good in the end, and the lack of understanding of each other and the lack of understanding of each other's family will eventually make it difficult for them to walk after marriage. There will even be a great contradiction with the other party, and all this is a consequence of hastiness. So no matter what we want to get married for, we should think about it before making a decision, marriage is not a child's play, don't delay your life.
Today's Topic:
Do you have people like Lin Fan around you?
Welcome to leave a message and share your views.
Author Nannan, focus on the field of emotions to create and share, with emotions to communicate with you and my soul, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.