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In life, many people regard face as very important, but in fact, only by living their own lives well and going step by step can they finally achieve happiness. And in marriage, the same applies.
Especially the phoenix men we often mention now, most of them love face, do not consider their actual situation at all, always love to send affection, and finally will send their families and marriages to each other. But there are also some people who live very soberly, understanding that true family affection does not need interests to connect, and what needs interests is false.
And sometimes, it is precisely because of the loss of some face that we can keep our current life. Just like two people in a husband and wife, only by being honest with each other and understanding each other can they live a good life. Only when the husband and wife work together and put each other in the most important position in their hearts can they have a happy marriage and a stable family.
Netizen Liu Minran's husband is a phoenix man, but he is rarely very sober, once made Liu Minran difficult to understand, until after following her husband back to her hometown, Liu Minran understood that everything her husband did was to save their current life. Let's take a look at her story.
A steady phoenix male husband
When Liu Minran was just with Chen Lang, many friends around him advised Liu Minran to think twice, because Chen Lang was a very typical phoenix man.
In fact, Liu Minran has also heard a lot of phoenix men, but Liu Minran still feels that Chen Lang is not that kind of person, and getting along for a long time has also made Liu Minran more firm in his thoughts and hearts.
Although Chen Lang was born poor and struggled on his own until now, Chen Lang is very clear about his current situation and has a very clear positioning of himself. This also made Liu Minran very impressed, so his feelings for Chen Lang became deeper and deeper.
After two years together, Chen Lang made a small progress in his work and got a promotion opportunity. Liu Minran was very happy for Chen Lang and called many friends to celebrate for Chen Lang, and it was at this party that Chen Lang proposed to Liu Minran.
Liu Minran was touched and surprised, because Liu Minran always knew that Chen Lang had a very clear plan for life, and thought that Chen Lang would not marry himself so quickly, but Chen Lang was very firm in confessing to Liu Minran.
"My life plan is to form a family with you, and all the plans in the future are also around our family."
Until this moment, Chen Lang really won the recognition of Liu Minran's friends, and liu Minran was also moved to a mess. The two soon got married, Liu Minran forgave Chen Lang and did not ask for a marriage room, but Chen Lang still took the initiative to give Liu Minran a dowry that was not a lot.
This also made Liu Minran very at ease, and Liu Minran's parents were also very satisfied with Chen Lang. After marriage, Chen Lang still spoiled Liu Minran as before, and really put the two in an equal position to live a life.
Liu Minran was immersed in happiness, but there was always a little doubt in his heart. That is, Chen Lang rarely interacted with his relatives, Liu Minran only met them a few times before and at the wedding, although Chen Lang's father died when he was a child, but Chen Lang's mother he rarely mentioned.
Liu Minran had also asked Chen Lang once, but just looking at Chen Lang's unwilling look, he was embarrassed to ask again.
Rich days and poor relatives
As the days go by, the lives of the two people get better and better. Chen Lang worked hard and desperately in his work and seized many opportunities. After more than a year of marriage, Chen Lang successfully promoted to management, and his salary was not the same.
When Chen Lang once again took the project bonus home and handed it to Liu Minran, Liu Minran roughly calculated that Chen Lang could also be regarded as an excellent talent with an annual salary of one million. The two people also successfully relied on Chen Lang's efforts to buy their own house, and seeing that the days were getting better and better, Chen Lang received a call from his hometown.
In fact, Liu Minran had almost forgotten about this stubble, until he saw Chen Lang's frown, Liu Minran was curious, and Chen Lang opened the hands-free in front of her.
"Big nephew, it's not that your aunt wants to trouble you, it's really that your cousin can't find any good job, you see if you can help."
Liu Minran knows Chen Lang's aunt and knows that they are not close, so Liu Minran also feels very disgusted by the situation that the other party is helping.
"Aunt, it's not that I don't want to help, you know that I've only been here for a few years, I really have a weak heart, I'll help my cousin ask, and I'll talk back to you."
Watching Chen Lang hang up the phone, Liu Minran said his thoughts, "Are all of you there like this?" This is not a small favor, just say it directly on the phone! ”
Chen Lang smiled and didn't say anything, but after that, Liu Minran didn't see him running around for this matter, and guessed that Chen Lang estimated that it was the same as his own thoughts. However, Liu Minran also gradually understood that it may be because these relatives are not polite, Chen Lang does not want to associate with them.
Isn't this what people often say about poor relatives, usually do not come to the door, there is no family affection to speak of, when there are interests or things to ask for, it seems very close, you do not help as if it is your fault.
Husband's reasons
Thinking of this stubble, Liu Minran was more worried, their family's current life cannot be said to be bad, and Chen Lang will have more room for promotion in the future. If one or both of his relatives are such people, they will always have a day when they can't refuse.
Thinking of the admonition of her pre-marriage friend, Liu Minran was a little flustered, but thinking of the feelings of the two people for such a long time, Liu Minran still wanted to be honest with Chen Lang.
However, before Liu Minran could say his thoughts, Chen Lang received a call from his old family again, this time not to let him help, but someone in the village got married, and let Chen Lang take Liu Minran back to the banquet.
Chen Lang did not refuse, and after a few days led Liu Minran back, but what Liu Minran did not expect was that Chen Lang did not choose to drive back to his hometown, but took Liu Minran to squeeze the bus.
This made Liu Minran very puzzled, but Chen Lang did not have time to explain to her. After entering the village, the clothes of both people were crumpled, and many people saw that they were warmly greeted, and when they saw their clothes, they all had sarcasm in their eyes.
After the two sat for a while, Chen Lang's aunt, who had called last time, came over with a very kind smile on her face, "Chen Lang, has your aunt done a good job with your business?" ”
Liu Minran giggled in his heart, but saw Chen Lang calmly stand up and say, "I'm sorry, aunt, I'm so bad, I really can't help my cousin." ”
Then Liu Minran saw that her aunt's enthusiasm immediately faded, and the three of them exchanged a few words of greeting, knowing that Chen Lang had squeezed the bus back in order to save money, and the sarcasm on her aunt's face was about to overflow.
Throughout the banquet, Chen Lang had been pretending to be poor, and finally on the way back, Liu Minran knew the answer to the things he had been wondering.
In fact, Chen Lang had no feelings for these people, his father died early, his mother had long remarried, and the grandparents who raised him died when he was in college, if he still allowed these so-called relatives to exploit himself, then this day would not be able to pass.
Liu Minran did not know these before, so after listening to Chen Lang, he was very distressed, but he was secretly glad in his heart, fortunately, Chen Lang was more sober, not as much as many people care about face, and now although the two people have lost face, their marriage is definitely saved, and they will no longer be affected by these relatives.
Although Chen Lang was a phoenix man, he was not affected by his relatives in the village because of the changes in his family since he was a child. On the contrary, when he grows up, his positioning is clear and his positioning is also steady. After marrying Liu Minran, Liu Minran was once very strange about Chen Lang's attitude towards those relatives, and a banquet also made Liu Minran understand everything.
Face is not to be saved all the time, sometimes to keep the present, cherish the life in front of you is the most important. While affection is something everyone craves, not all people who are called relatives have that feeling. Because most people are interest-oriented, if you can't see this clearly, it is easy to be lost by the so-called family affection and lose the life you have at the moment.
In fact, people live in the world, there is no need to always compare with others, there is no need to force some so-called face to swollen face and fat. Because what is not there can never be owned by saying it alone, the relationship without feelings will be broken because of a little friction. People still have to learn to grasp the present, keep their marriage, and grasp their own happiness.
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