Recently, a parent's private message told us: their children always like to engage in destruction, like to tear toilet paper into one by one, like to pull out the paper in the paper drawer, but also like to take apart toys, etc., I don't know if the child has these situations is normal, how should parents do?
In the face of this situation, some parents will choose to resolutely stop, while some parents will let their children play, in fact, the use of appropriate methods to combine these two practices is the right way to guide.
Before talking about what parents should do, parents need to know why their children are in this situation.
Children like to do destruction is not because children really love to destroy things, but because children of this age are in the stage of cognition and exploration of the world, curiosity is very heavy, and their means of understanding the world is limited, of which "destroying things" is a specific manifestation of their cognition and exploration of the world.
1. The child finds it fun
Children are still young and don't know what to do and what not to do, so they have done many things that parents should not seem to do, such as tearing toilet paper into strips and tearing off toys.
The reason they do this is also very simple, that is, they simply think it is fun, so they will always do it.
2. The child is inexperienced
Sometimes children want to help their parents, but their own experience is insufficient, so in the end, not only did they not help their parents, but also evolved into help.
For example, some parents want to help when cooking, but the child really lacks the experience of cooking, and may end up making a mess of the kitchen.
How should parents deal with this situation of their children?
First of all, parents must realize that this behavior of the child is normal, so when the child has this situation, parents must not scold the child, otherwise it will hit the child's enthusiasm to explore the world, and the correct approach should be to use the right way to guide and help the child.
1. "Destroy" with your child
When the child dismantles the toy, parents not only do not stop the child, but also join the child, and he goes to dismantle the toy together, in the process of dismantling, parents can also popularize the relevant knowledge of the toy to the child by the way, so that the child will have a clearer understanding of the toy.
When the toy is dismantled, parents should guide and help the child to "restore" the toy, this restoration action not only protects the toy well, but also exercises the child's hands-on ability, concentration and other abilities, so parents must not forget to "restore" the toy with the child.
2. Pay attention to the choice of toys
If parents find that their children have a tendency to engage in destruction, when choosing toys, they may wish to choose more interludes and combinations of toys, which is also convenient for children to disassemble and assemble, which will not affect the child's exploration of the world, but also cultivate children's multiple abilities, as well as avoid toy damage, which can be described as a multiplicity.
3. Clarify the rules
It is also necessary for parents to make some moderate rules or rules for their children, because some things really cannot be broken, so from the perspective of safety, parents need to reach some kind of agreement with their children.
For example, parents need to tell their children that things such as electrical appliances and drugs must not be touched and will be dangerous, which must be clear with their children.
If parents can do the above points, I believe it can improve the child's "sabotage" behavior very well.