The netizen letter said:
In the countryside of my hometown, I stayed in the city after graduating from college to work hard, and when I reached the marriageable age, I met my wife under the recommendation of my friends. The wife is a local only child, beautiful and well-off. I was a little suspicious: my wife had taken a fancy to me in the first place. We thought our feelings would be beaten by our parents-in-law, but in fact they didn't. Because the first time I went to my parents-in-law's house, they also gave me a warm welcome. I remember that on the day my wife and I got married, my father-in-law only confessed one sentence: After marriage, be nice to my daughter.
When I married my wife, we still lived the life of renting a house, especially when my wife was pregnant, and at the strong invitation of my parents-in-law, we used to live in my parents-in-law's house for a year, during which time my parents did not dislike me because I could not afford to buy a house temporarily.
When my wife and I were in the fifth year of our married life, we finally bought a house with a mortgage, and I remember the day we both moved into a new house, we hugged each other and shed tears of happiness. Of course, after that, our days got better and better, and by the time we were in our 9th year of marriage, we paid off our mortgage early.
A few days ago, my wife told me that there was a colleague in her unit who was very annoying, obviously already had a wife and children, and pestered her all day. I asked my wife, how did you handle this? My wife's reply was that I told her that I could only hold my husband in my heart in my life.
To tell the truth, many times, I feel that I am particularly lucky, in this era when love is objectified, I have met a wife who is willing to share happiness and hardship with me; in this age of temptation, what my wife gives me is the focus and loyalty of love.
I am so satisfied with my current life, more often, I will run our marriage with gratitude, and it is precisely because of the kindness and support of my wife that I am more motivated at work. I especially appreciate what my wife did in our relationship.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
Life, literally, is being born and living. Growing up, the most affordable thing to do: eat well and dress warmly. During this time, because we also need to maintain family, love and friendship, so that we will deal with people. During this time, there will be too many things for us to deal with and deal with. Therefore, our life is actually a more tedious life. When we want to have a solid life, we need to have attitudes: hard work, gratitude, contentment, and learning to subtract. Unfortunately, there are always some people who like to complicate simple things in life, resulting in results, there are always some people who are difficult to harvest happiness in life, and later understand that the vast majority of unhappiness is what they strive for for themselves. It's like: instead of provoking the lover and causing frequent quarrels between husband and wife, it is better to encourage and recognize the lover; just like: their own life originally played out plain happiness, and they had to use cheating to add to the blockage of married life.
One thing to admit is that love in this era is indeed so badly materialized that everyone cares about whether the other person has a house and a decent job when choosing the person to marry. In fact, when choosing a marriage partner, it doesn't matter if you are pragmatic, the key is not to ignore the character of the other party. If it is only because the other party has money and does not care much about whether they like each other, or even if the other party has a problem with his character, he can ignore it, then after marriage, what awaits him will be immeasurable pain. To this end, we must recognize the truth: marriage is a comprehensive market, do not feel that having money is equivalent to solving some marriage problems.
Men in this era, the pressure is indeed very large, so that there will be some men, when they are shy in their pockets, they will not dare to touch love, and they will feel that they are not worthy of love. So much so that we often see a lot of pseudo-unmarried people. Why they are pseudo-unmarried people, because they are actually eager for married life, but they think that their current ability is not able to maintain the normal operation of a relationship, so when the people around them are more worried about their life's events, they will tell people who care about him against their hearts that they have no interest in getting married.
Of course, there are also some women in this era who would rather sit in a car and cry than sit on a bicycle and laugh. For these women, we should not criticize them, after all, everyone has their own way of life. Just want to remind these women: one day in the future, don't act greedy, and don't regret your decision. Regarding life, we often have such doubts: whether it is better to marry love or to marry material things. What I want to say is that any decision not to be too extreme is a more responsible attitude towards yourself. In fact, in life, we are most afraid of a kind of person: not only poor, but also delicious and lazy, the key is to spend money.
Obviously, you were lucky to meet your wife when you weren't mixing so well, and your parents-in-law were more reasonable people. So that in this marriage, you are often in a more comfortable state. It is precisely because of a harmonious family environment that you have less distraction at work. Therefore, half of what you have achieved so far must belong to your wife. Of course, you are not bad in yourself: hardworking, hardworking, and grateful.
In fact, life is not so complicated, if a man works hard enough, and in the career trough or bottleneck period, did not get the ridicule of the lover, then the man himself will feel that the wife suffers with him, so that he will work harder at work. The scene that men are most afraid of seeing: they have worked hard enough in life, but in exchange for the denial and sarcasm of their lovers, once the mood is depressed, work efficiency will be invisibly constrained. Therefore, I want to remind all women: once they hold hands with someone, they need to come up with more positive energy elements at the level of running a marriage.
Editor's Note:
There will always be some people who complain about their current marriage and want to ask these people: Is it really because your lover is so bad, have you ever thought about what you have paid for in this relationship? Married life is not one person's licking at all, the other person's enjoyment, but the need for two people to pay together. So, when you don't pay attention to enlightenment in your married life, please don't be too demanding of your lover, because you don't deserve it.
Many times, the reason why people find it difficult to harvest happiness in their married life is not because your lover is not good for you, but because you have given your lover too much selfishness and double standards. Remember a sentence: the third party is not the culprit in the destruction of a marriage at all, the existence of the third party is only a form of the breakdown of your relationship with your legitimate lover. So, when the lover has a lover, don't hate the third party, but look at the problems of your marriage itself.
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