Many times, when we talk about marriage, we are very longing, looking at each other's smiling faces, it seems that from the day of receiving the certificate, we are sure that the two can rely on each other to the whitehead.
But marriage is not a child's play, not a simple 1+1 union of two people, but composed of contradictions in life. For these contradictions in life, we must regulate them with principles at the first time before marriage, so that each other can fulfill the agreement in marriage under the principle, so that your family will be much happier.
Here, I list the seven principles that couples must consider before marriage, hoping to get inspiration from them and enter the hall of happy marriage.
First, communication is very important
The most important reason for the contradictions between parents, friends, and husbands and wives is that they do not communicate with each other in time, resulting in misunderstandings!
When the misunderstanding accumulates over time, the contradiction between the two will become deeper and deeper, and as the contradiction deepens, the relationship between them will deteriorate, or even go to divorce.
Therefore, timely communication is the most basic guarantee to ensure the happy relationship between your husband and wife!
There is nothing under the sky that cannot be solved through communication!
Second, 100% trust and honesty
Since the two choose to get married, then you must have 100% trust and honesty in each other, do not enter the marriage with doubts, and think that the contradictions between the two can be resolved after marriage.
Because in the sweetest days before marriage, both of you can't believe each other, so how can you believe in each other when you face chai rice oil and salt after marriage?
I've always believed that if you didn't have mutual trust as a basis before marriage, your marriage would have been in crisis from the beginning.
Since you have chosen to live together, it is necessary to have trust and honesty with each other.
This is the second guarantee of a smooth life for couples.
Third, timely stop loss
For a timely stop loss, many women have no concept.
What is a timely stop loss, I will give two examples, you will understand.
Your family has 2 million yuan, when the husband took 1.2 million to do business, and finally failed, he wanted to take the remaining 800,000 out of the business, as a wife, at this time you have to stand up to stop his behavior.
This is the act of stopping losses in a timely manner. If the previous 1.2 million will not affect your quality of life even if it is lost, then the remaining 800,000 will directly affect your life behind.
Therefore, the two of you must know where the stop loss point in life is, and before the stop loss point, you can do it with a big fist, but after the stop loss point, you must be careful to deal with it.
After all, many families have reached the point of ruin, and the important reason is that there is no money and wealth to be scattered, so as to go to the end of the road!
Talk about a relationship that makes you better
If the life after the relationship is more unbearable than the life before I fell in love, then why should I talk about this love?
What I'm talking about here about "making yourself a better relationship" does not mean that you must find a man who "has a house and a car" to be in a good relationship.
At least you're with him, you're happier, you're more positive, you're cheerful, and these are the "love forces" that make you change.
What we are most afraid of is that you don't want his money, you don't want his personality, you only want him to be handsome and tall, so that he can plunge into the arms of others and live a so-called "happy life", which is too much of a loss.
Or because of the urge to get married, so as to hastily fall in love with a person and get married, this is also a manifestation of irresponsibility to yourself.
Because this relationship does not make you better, you just live in your own "vanity" and the "face" of others.
Fifth, people who can be seduced by a third party are not worth looking forward to
We often say "three years of pain, seven years of itch", many people's marriage to a certain time, will inevitably encounter bottlenecks.
But there is a saying that goes, "To endure loneliness is to meet the beauty of the future."
Why are some people married for 50 years still love as before?
And why do some people get married for only 5 months and have already found a track?
For those who are not faithful to marriage, at first we can forgive them and give him a chance to reform.
As Ma Yili said: "Although love is easy, marriage is not easy, and do and cherish!" “
If he grasps this opportunity, reflects well, and then puts his mind into the family, it is the happiest performance.
The most terrible thing is that those who look for a third party again and again, in principle, those who can be hooked by a third party are not worth looking forward to.
At this time, what we have to do is to stop the loss in time, break up early, and never believe that he will change his mind.
Sixth, feel that you do not love each other, you must tell each other in time
If in the marriage, you find that you do not love each other, you must tell the other party in advance, absolutely can not first "cheat", and then ask others for forgiveness.
While marriage is sacred, it doesn't necessarily guarantee that the person we marry, the person we love all our lives, may at some point find out that I don't love him anymore, or that I meet someone I love anymore.
Then what we have to do is to tell him at the first time and let them be mentally prepared, which is also a respect for the marriage of two people!