The ancients said, "The mouth is an axe that hurts people, and the tongue is a knife that cuts the tongue." ”
A person with good character, very concerned about their own words and deeds, when speaking, will take care of the feelings of others, but also maintain a comfortable distance, words, full of affection, but also revealed valuable information.
A person with bad character, even speaking with a bad purpose, is always self-centered, and tries his best to hurt others. The evil of the human heart can be seen.
When interacting with people, if you find someone with an open mouth and a closed mouth, the following words indicate that his character is very poor and not worth interacting with.
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First, say things that hint at others to become bad, and have a ghost in your heart.
In psychology, there is a "suggestive effect", that is, through some implicit and abstract methods, it interferes with the psychology and behavior of others and guides others to do something.
Obviously, a person of poor character will encourage others to do bad things or do something that is beneficial to him as soon as he opens his mouth.
It is human nature to seek advantages and avoid harm, and it can be understood by everyone, but giving harm to others and swallowing benefits alone is obviously a very excessive behavior and is despised by others.
One of my colleagues, Xiao Huang, said early yesterday morning, "Guess what big things will happen today." ”
Following Xiao Huang's guidance, we found that he meant that his boss, Manager Zhang, was divorced and then with a third party. Although Xiao Zhang did not say it explicitly, many people guessed it.
In the afternoon, someone finally couldn't help it, ran to Manager Zhang's office, and asked about the specific situation. It was originally a concern, but it angered Manager Zhang. After all, this is a fictitious thing.
The initiator, Xiao Huang, stole music from the side. His virtues are also at a glance.
As the saying goes, "Bright people don't do secret things." "The same is true of speaking, don't let people have a dark side of life and cause trouble to others.
Someone is suggesting that you should be quiet and think backwards, and don't be fooled by monkeys.
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Second, say things that provoke interpersonal relationships and hurt people's feelings.
Many people, who like to talk around, never know which sentence is true.
If you speak very implicitly, it can be understood as "shy and embarrassed", but deliberately vague, that is, there is a problem with character.
Lu Xun said: "People can talk, it is already a disaster, and sometimes the situation still has to make a fuss." ”
People who make a fuss from words must want to see the bad results of "anti-nest and rumor-ridden".
Let's say you're having dinner with a friend and a third person deliberately comes up and says how bad your friend is and has done dirty things.
When your impression of your friends deteriorates, maybe the meal is not a taste. If you ask your friend for proof, the friend may immediately turn his face.
Generally speaking, people with poor character like to say yin and yang strange words in person, talk nonsense behind their backs, and spread some untrue and untrue news, which makes people confused.
People interact with each other, and once there is doubt, then the relationship is difficult to maintain.
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Third, recklessly speaking the language of the river.
Some people, like to talk straight, will not turn at all. If he is born with such a character, it can be understood.
However, a person who speaks without a brain, and who says in a bad way, is that there is a problem with his character. What he saw in his eyes was very dirty, resulting in the same speech as his eyes.
On the other hand, people who speak too straight often say "no credibility", and the ins and outs of the matter are not clear, so they pat themselves on the chest and promise others.
Generally speaking, in the dinner bureau, liquor bureau, weChat group, it is easiest to see the "casual promise". With the strength of wine, you can make your courage bigger, and you will also be confused. When the meal was gone and the wine had disappeared, I could no longer remember what I had said. Even if I could think of it, I wouldn't take it seriously.
The person who talks nonsense in the WeChat group is sober-minded, but he thinks that the network is virtual, and he should not be responsible for saying it casually.
There is a difference between speaking too straight and being "straight". People with poor character, as soon as they open their mouths, directly hurt people, and they will not even say a word of comfort afterwards. Usually, it is estimated that it is also a tiger's tail.
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Fourth, if you say that you are very angry, pass on negative energy.
There is a saying that goes: "Complain about the sky, complain about the earth, complain about yourself." ”
Any thing, if it is not done well, should find the reason from yourself, rather than using others as a punching bag and attributing the fault to others.
Those who say "grumbling words" every day are actually very dark in their hearts, and their senses are surrounded by negative energy.
For example, in a tourist attraction, everyone is queuing up to buy tickets. Suddenly someone was complaining loudly, thinking that they had come to the wrong place, thinking that the staff was too irresponsible, and thinking that this scenic spot was very low...... His words may cause dissatisfaction among many people and lead to chaos in the scene.
Complaining about life and society, everyone can, but we need to be restrained and rational.
I have seen a little story: a little girl, pushing open the window, seeing someone crying because of the loss of money, the little girl is also very sad; the little girl's grandfather, who led her to another window, saw someone getting married, and the mood was suddenly better.
The same room, but with different "faces". A person of poor character sees the obscure side and forgets the joyful side, so his speech is just as bad as his mood.
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Teacher Yu Dan said: "The law of work survival in the twenty-first century is: build a personal brand and turn your name into money." ”
If you want to see a person clearly, the key is to look at the character. Usually, no matter who I call me, I must observe the color of my words and see what the other party likes to do, what to say, and what the attitude is after the fact.
If you meet someone of poor character, first help him get better and remind him kindly; if he does not repent, alienate him.
People interact with each other, words are the bridge of emotions, but do not speak casually, you should learn to guide positive energy, say more words of praise, encouragement, and care, promise to "honor", criticize "sincerity", evaluation should be "true", and talk should have "temperature".
May you and I speak well and warm people's hearts.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.