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Why we choose marriage, what we want is actually a 1+1>2 effect, something that one person can't do, two people discuss brainstorming together, and things may be solved. No one likes to be lonely, what we want is to have a person who knows cold and knows heat, we want to be accompanied when we are sick, we want to have someone to share our joys and troubles, we want to see the flowers blossom and fall before the court, and the clouds outside the sky are soothing, and who does not yearn for such a state of life.
However, in recent years, there is a topic of high heat, that is, what does marriage bring to women, especially after the case of the lady from Hangzhou, many women began to be afraid of marriage, and many married women also began to think about their marriage, over the years they have run this home, try their best to do the role of wife and mother, and in the end what have they got?
Many people say that they have become husband and wife, why should they worry about these gains and losses, why should husband and wife be one, but how can people completely live for others without their own temper, pay and return should be proportional, the wife works hard for this family and the husband can't even do the minimum loyalty, how to say don't worry about the gains and losses.
Yu Lili, who tells her story today, has thought about this problem when facing her cheating husband, and after figuring out what this marriage has brought to her, she chose to end her marriage and find what she really wanted.
01. Find out your husband is cheating.
Yu Lili can often hear people around her say that the relationship between your husband and wife is really good, and neither of you will quarrel. Yu Lili also thought about this problem, why two people do not quarrel, in the end, it is because the feelings between husband and wife are weak, there is nothing to say between two people, two people sometimes feel embarrassed when they get along, and how can they quarrel without even talking. Two people lying on the same bed can be said to be the same bed and different dreams, but Yu Lili has no other ideas, and it can even be said that she has no pursuit, even after having children, the feelings between the two people are not so deep, just try their best to assume their responsibilities and obligations, Yu Lili chose to be a good wife and mother.
What she did not expect was that her husband would cheat, and when she saw her husband holding the hand of another strange woman, it was impossible to say that Yu Lili was not sad, but she did not choose to make a big publicity, she still did not have that determination, she wanted to keep the family intact, wanted to maintain this marriage, even if he lived in name only.
Yu Lili began to observe her husband, and found that he did not change his attitude towards her as before, Yu Lili even found that her husband would sometimes follow her, she thought that this should be her husband's guilt for her. But already knowing the husband's cheating, how can you completely put things in your heart without complaints, Yu Lili sometimes can't help but ask her husband who the woman he chats with is, and the husband's answer is also a common way to talk about a colleague, and the words of explanation are not willing to say more.
Although the feelings of the two people are not salty or light, but Yu Lili is also a sensitive person, although the husband began to accommodate her, but he also became more and more indifferent to her, Yu Lili can detect it, but the husband has never cared too much about her.
02. Checked her husband's phone.
Yu Lili is also a woman, no matter how to pretend not to know things are also placed there, although she wants to keep this marriage, but her husband's attitude makes her also become a loss, and finally one day she can't help but secretly check her husband's mobile phone and see the chat records of her husband and lover.
"Do you have a bad relationship with your wife?"
"It's not a bad feeling, the two of us are more like roommates, but they are tied up by the marriage certificate and children, the feelings between us are not deep, maybe she is a good wife and a good mother in the eyes of others, but she is too desireless and undesirable, what I pursue is still warm and enthusiastic, she is not my ideal wife." 」
Yu Lili thought that since I am not your ideal wife, why did you choose to marry me in the first place, and now she says this.
"See if the clothes I bought for you fit, don't they look good?"
"Fit is also good-looking, unlike the woman who bought the clothes are always white shirts and black pants, or add a coat, always dark, in fact, I like these bright colors more, although I am almost thirty but it does not mean to be so old-fashioned, I prefer to be lively." 」
Yu Lili thought that she bought these clothes in consideration of her husband's work, she did not mean to buy these clothes, see those beautiful clothes will also want to buy for her husband, but think of not wearing for long, do not waste money, if you do not like why not tell her.
"Is it delicious to taste the food I make?" I also stewed fish soup for you. ”
"Delicious is not like that woman, the dishes in her hands are made and made so many things, even noodles are always a taste, although the meals she makes are all my favorite, but people can't always eat ah, occasionally need to change the taste, your craft can be much better than her." 」
Yu Lili wondered why it had become hers to cook her favorite meals.
Yu Lili put down her husband's mobile phone, but she always had some reluctance, she recorded what the women made for her husband in the chat record and her husband also boasted about delicious food, Yu Lili thought that she was not static.
03. Look at your husband's phone again.
Yu Lili prepared meals waiting for her husband to leave work, but whether it was seeing these meals or eating these meals, her husband's reaction was always not what Yu Lili wanted, she took the initiative to ask her husband how he felt today's meal, and her husband also replied that it was okay not salty, and told her that she would not come back after working overtime tonight, and Yu Lili knew what her husband was going to do.
In the next few days, Yu Lili also changed her cooking, but her husband's attitude never changed much, and she finally couldn't help but open her husband's mobile phone.
"How come you've been so diligent these days, and what unpleasantness has happened between you and your wife?"
"You don't mention that she doesn't know what kind of wind she smokes these days, the dishes she made recently are the same as those you made before, and if you don't eat as good as you, you still ask me if she's doing well, I'm really annoyed with her." 」
Yu Lili did not continue to read the rest of the chat records, she understood that no matter what she did, it was impossible to win back her husband's heart, and his husband was tired of her.
What did her marriage bring her, a husband who did not love herself and betrayed herself, a child who had not yet grown up, who had alienated her friends, who had nowhere to put her feelings, who had never had any good memories in a marriage, not even safe and stable, so there was no need to waste any more time on this marriage that existed in name only.
Yu Lili proposed divorce, her husband was a little surprised, until Yu Lili came up with evidence of his cheating, because of his cheating, the husband and wife joint property Yu Lili got most of it, the child was also awarded to her, she did not know what would happen to her husband and the woman in the end, this had nothing to do with her, now she wanted to do something that she was interested in before but had not had time to do, she also wanted to live more vividly, she wanted to make her life colorful.
04. Views on marriage.
Marriage should have brought us happiness and the satisfaction of hand in hand, rather than betrayal indifference and jealousy, I considered this problem when "Thirty Only" was popular, because love chooses to be together, then betrayal is worth spurning.
Loyalty is a quality that every couple should have, if even fidelity can not be done, then the marriage will only be broken, loyalty is a barrier is the guarantee. We must have made countless commitments before marriage, but after marriage, we will always face all kinds of temptations, people always love to pursue excitement, but we should also stick to our moral bottom line, loyalty is what we can choose.
Everyone has their own choices, not everyone can be crisp and sharp, let the people who make mistakes be punished as they deserve, life makes us do things to become forward-looking, everything is considered again and again, but I still hope that every woman has such a consciousness, and now women are not like before, we are more independent and more free, a marriage that has already had a rift is really no need to maintain, your energy should be focused on improving your own more meaningful things.
I hope that every woman can have a happy marriage, and if not, I hope to get out in time and not let myself fall into the vortex of mistakes.
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