Some time ago, my friend Wenhui came to me to complain, and she said that she really didn't know whether she should continue the marriage. Because this day is too boring, it is not as good as being single, to be happy and happy.
And Wen Hui's story begins with her marriage. About two years ago, Wen Huihe talked about her boyfriend for a year, and got married before thirty.
Although it was not too long to get along, but at that time, the feelings of the two were strong, Wenhui looked at her boyfriend, how to see it was a hundred points.
But when life is full of chai rice oil and salt, love will eventually pass away. Less than a year after marriage, Wen Hui and her husband often quarreled because of some trivial matters.
Then I gave birth to a child, and that was even more because of parenting, and I couldn't stop punching in my mouth. Especially the mother-in-law came, and their small family helped with the children. Inevitably, there are some small contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
But whenever Wenhui and her mother-in-law had an argument, her husband firmly sided with his mother, making her both desperate and sad.
And the husband is very fond of it, throwing his own golden sentence to Wenhui, my mother ranks first, you rank second, so you still have something to make trouble!
The first time she heard her husband say this, Wen Hui was simply angry and ached. For this reason, she and her husband have been in trouble for a long time, but this man really lacks heart and eyes, as long as he encounters something, he still makes such a statement.
Just like that day, Wen Hui fed snacks to the child because of her mother-in-law, and after a few arguments with her, she quarreled.
Just in time for my husband, I returned home from work. He didn't figure out the whole picture of the matter, so he directly blamed WenHui, what is wrong with you? My mom helps you with the baby, are you still here? We can all eat it when we were kids, but not your son!
At that moment, Wen Hui was immediately embarrassed, and she turned back to the room. When the husband came in, he continued to fight with him.
As a result, after my husband was angry, he dropped a sentence, my mother is in my heart, always ranked first, you can only be second. So, don't make a fuss about this little thing! I'm not going to turn to you.
What the? The moment he heard these words, Wen Hui exploded. I'm going to have a good fight with you today, your mother is number one? You won't turn to me? Are you talking about people?
The husband ignores it and insists that he is right, it is your little belly chicken intestine. Other people's homes are like this, how to get to you, there is a problem?
Which man puts his wife behind his mother-in-law, you say! I think you are a strange person, if you think so, then why get married? Why not spend a lifetime with your mom?
Excited, the two of them also moved their hands. Finally, the mother-in-law came in to reconcile, and only then did a big war end.
However, in Wen Hui's heart, there was always a fire. If the husband says it once, she can be regarded as saying nothing, but this man, saying it again and again, does not mean that he really does not put himself in the front, and he will not stand on his side in the future.
She really doubted that her husband's love could not feel the warmth of the family. Because, only she, here is an outsider, and, forever alone. If so, is it time to divorce, is it time to change.
Yikes! In fact, in my opinion, Wenhui's husband's emotional intelligence is too low, in front of his wife, said that his mother ranked first, and he still wanted to live a good life.
Do you think that after saying these few words, you can change your wife's mind? No, it only made her hate her mother-in-law even more. Conversely, the mother-in-law is the same. The husband should have been the lubricant of the family, not the manufacture of contradictions.
In this world, there are always some fools who don't understand their current situation, but they love to make a big fuss. Wen Hui's husband is like this, I suggest she tit-for-tat, find someone at random, give him the first, see if your husband can accept his own ranking.