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There is such a question: Is there a moment in your marriage that makes you feel that you have married the right person in this life?
At the bottom of the question there is such a praiseworthy answer: "For example, when I finish my meal and after eating, he consciously washes the dishes and cleans up the kitchen, such as when I pack up the garbage and put it by the door, he goes out and naturally takes the garbage away, for example, when I finish washing my hair and lazily lie on the sofa, he scolds me while helping me blow dry my hair, and then when I come home late at night and see my favorite meal in the pot, whenever these moments come, I feel that I have married the right person in my life." ”
After marriage, the two people have become a whole, inevitably contact each other, do something for each other, that word and deed, every move can see each other's concern for themselves, there is a saying: "What makes people move is never greasy words and expensive gifts, but subconsciously remembered and slowly gentle in tone." ”
So, whether a person is also like you, from his actual actions, you can see that in the world of feelings, liking is good to a person, is mutual respect, is mutual liking to achieve a beautiful marriage, whether you are the first marriage or the second marriage. However, when it comes to second marriage, many people have prejudices against second marriage, thinking that the couple of the second marriage is a thief, and they cannot meet people who have no other distractions and really think about themselves.
Wen Hui also felt that the two people who were married twice were only going to have to live in the future, and she also knew that Lin Jing was serious and really liked herself, but she had never thought about it, nor did she dare to expect that her husband in the second marriage would treat herself so lovingly.
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Wen Hui is a bitter woman, she and her first husband met when they were working, and the two people suffered a lot together before they had a later life.
Wen Hui and her ex-husband started from scratch, when they worked together, lived in a 30-square-meter rental house, in order to save money, they only ate instant noodles a week, clothes were bought only once every two years, and after two full years, the restaurants they opened finally improved. Before starting a business, what live Wenhui is personally done, the heavy work at home is Lin Jinggan, and the washing brush is done by Wenhui, more than four o'clock in the morning Wenhui will get up to wash vegetables, hot water is too late to burn, wash those greasy plates at night, the water is soaked in cold water, and in the winter her hands will definitely have frostbite.
At that time, it was too hard, and then it fell to the root of the disease, and now in the winter, Wen hui's hand will still faintly hurt and have been itching. It was also because it was particularly hard at that time, so after she gave birth to the baby, her ex-husband let her become a full-time housewife at home. Becoming a full-time mother is not her intention, but the child needs someone to take, the ex-husband is also guilty of her, the store has improved, Wenhui is also relieved, she will reduce the things in the store to her husband, and she is at ease with her children at home.
After giving birth to the child, Wen Hui's figure and body shape have changed, a whole circle of fat, it is at this time, she lost the pleasure of her ex-husband, Wen Hui did not have time to make changes, was proposed by her ex-husband for divorce. When her ex-husband was about to divorce her, he brought back a woman who was younger than her, a thousand times better looking than her, and the woman's skin was like gelatin, and a set of cosmetics alone was four figures.
Wen Hui naturally does not want to divorce, but the ex-husband is very desperate, Wen Hui does not divorce, will not go home with her to consume, originally she was in the ex-husband's marriage, and the relationship with the mother-in-law is very tense, not pleasing to the mother-in-law, now can not keep the ex-husband's heart, more disliked by the mother-in-law.
In that period of life and death refused to divorce the days, Wen Hui humbled to the dust, the dishes left for the ex-husband at night were hot over and over again, the ex-husband slept in the study and did not want to pay attention to her, during the physiological period, Wen Hui went out to buy vegetables and fainted with low blood sugar, and the ex-husband not only did not come back to accompany her, but also took the woman out on a trip.
Later, Wenhui lost confidence in her ex-husband, and chose to let go of the divorce, after the divorce, she lived alone with her daughter, the ex-husband was cruel, after that, never contacted her again, did not want her daughter, only regularly gave them some living expenses.
After the divorce, Wen Hui's heart was also sealed, she no longer believed in any man, nor did she want to hear anything related to her ex-husband, but a woman with children after divorce gained a foothold in society, and it was not easy to talk about it, Wen Hui suffered a lot, and her daughter also suffered with her. With the passage of time, WenHui was also relieved, even for her daughter, she also wanted to find someone to rely on, so under the introduction of friends, she met the current Lin Jing.
Lin Jing's family conditions are quite good, his wife has been single since his death, the two people can talk very well when they first meet, but because of the reasons of the previous relationship, the two people have not determined the relationship for a long time. It is also Lin Jing who is really good to her, plus her daughter also accepted him, Wenhui chose to marry for the second time, at that time she only felt that marriage was to find someone to accompany her, in order to live a life, she never thought of anything else, nor did she expect that the life after marriage would be particularly harmonious between the two people, Lin Jing was sincerely good to her.
After more than a year of hard pursuit, Wenhui agreed to the marriage proposal and became a family with Lin Jing, and after getting married, she found that Lin Jing and her ex-husband were fundamentally different. Although the ex-husband will also do some daily housework, but it is all urged by Wen Hui, but Lin Jing is different, he will take the initiative to share with her, and in her special period of each month, Lin Jing will carefully brew brown sugar water for her, boil porridge, and do not let her touch it at all.
Last time, just because Wenhui didn't care about washing her daughter's clothes with cold water, Lin Jing said a meal to her, and between the words, it was all full of love for her. Not only in daily life, Lin Jing will take the initiative to take on the housework of the family, and every time he returns from a business trip, he will take the initiative to buy gifts for Wenhui and the child, and treat her as a child. Lin Jing also did not shy away from taking Wen Hui to see his family and friends, knowing that Wen Hui was not adaptable, embarrassed and afraid of the stage, he encouraged her, and always held her hand, as long as two people went out, Lin Jing was inseparable from Wen Hui, so that she could not find herself.
From daily life to menstruation, every move of the second husband makes Wenhui feel particularly warm, and it is precisely because of this warmth that Wenhui feels that she should also be responsible for this feeling, and she will have to consider more about the home of the two people in the future.
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As "The Weakness of Human Nature" says: "Most men neglect to show thoughtfulness in the small places of daily life, they do not know: the loss of love is all in the subtleties." That man can only make women feel love if they do it seriously in the subtleties, whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, as long as a man can pay attention to the details of daily life, take the initiative to understand the woman's difficulty, be considerate of the woman, and really stand in the woman's point of view for her consideration, it will certainly be able to capture the woman's heart, let her realize your cherishing of this feeling. ”
In the second marriage, love is mutual, only two people pay each other, in order to have a healthy and long-term husband and wife relationship, and in the second marriage, if you want to have a healthy relationship, you need to care for each other, think more about each other, and compare hearts to hearts.
In fact, whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, you must believe that we will all have the possibility of happiness, and we cannot give up on ourselves. Maybe your first job is to meet people who are unladylike and fail to live a good life, but you should not lose hope for beautiful things, you must believe that in this world, there will always be someone waiting to be good to you.
Of course, from the time you give up the first marriage and decide to marry the second, you should learn to slowly put down the mustard, to see each other's good and cherish each other's good, only by paying each other, mutual loyalty can make the distance between the two of you get closer and closer.
You must believe that firmly choose each other, and express your sincerity to each other, in order to let the other party give back to you with the same love, everyone wants to get happy feelings, and a happy family, a harmonious marriage is won back by yourself, to fight, you have to do it yourself first.
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