Some people say that a good marriage is a honeypot, and a bad business is a fire pit.
Someone once said: A good marriage can cross us to the other shore; a bad marriage drags us into a sea of suffering.
It can be seen that the quality of marriage depends on our operation and maintenance. Whether husband and wife can join hands to grow old and go to the white head together is not only to see each other's family background, but also to see each other's intentions and sincerity.
01. Before marriage, the in-laws gave a large-scale dowry of 200,000 yuan
Jane Austen once said: "Marriage, it is absurd to think only of family; it is foolish not to consider family status." ”
He Min, who was originally in love with his brain, did not consider the family situation at all. At that time, she believed that when two people were in love, they should abandon everything and not hesitate to be together. Houses and cars are all external things, not worth mentioning.
It was not until the two sides talked about marriage that He Min deeply realized the importance of door-to-door pairs. However, at that time, He Min was smashed by the in-laws' large-scale 200,000 dowry, and he could not distinguish between east and west, south and north.
Before talking about marriage, He Min and his parents discussed that according to her husband's family situation, they were ready to ask for a dowry of 100,000 yuan, and the woman was preparing a dowry of 200,000 yuan, as for the wedding room and wedding car, He Min's parents did not plan to arrange it again. After all, these things should be the sincerity and intention of the man to marry the woman.
However, after the two sides met, before He Min's parents put forward their own requirements, the mother-in-law said generously that although the two children were free love, although the conditions in our family were limited, in order to show our respect, we decided to give a dowry of 200,000.
Hearing that his mother-in-law was so generous, He Min's parents were shocked, and they also secretly blamed themselves for being careful. In the end, after He Min's parents thought about it again, they decided to give only 100,000 yuan for the dowry, but they also helped He Min buy a dowry house and only write He Min's name.
After the mother-in-law and husband learned of this news, they laughed even more and closed their mouths, directly praising the family's generous hand. He Min saw that the in-laws and mothers-in-law were so generous, and his heart was even more overjoyed.
02. After marriage, the in-laws calculate the pension of the father's and mother's family and want to eat the family
But it wasn't until After He Min got married as she wished, that she fully understood that the so-called large-scale bride price of the in-laws was actually borrowed from the east and the west. Because He Min had only been married for a month, her mother-in-law began to knock on the side and coax He Min to take out the dowry to help pay off the foreign debt.
He Min was disappointed and extremely unwilling. Her husband and mother-in-law took turns to persuade her, and under the soft and hard bubble of the combination of mother-in-law and husband, He Min had to take out 50,000 yuan to cope with the past.
But 50,000 yuan simply cannot fill the ambition of the in-laws. Only half a year after marriage, her husband has repeatedly taken the initiative to let He Min go back to his mother's house to borrow money to buy a second house, saying that instead of putting the money in the bank to eat interest, it is better to take money to buy a house, which is also an investment.
He Min explained to her husband that in order to buy a house for her, her parents had spent a lot of money, and it was estimated that there was not much savings. But the husband said disapprovingly that his parents-in-law had no savings, but they still had pensions. Anyway, you are an only child, this money, sooner or later is also left to you, sooner or later is to spend, it is better to take out the house early.
Listening to her husband's words, He Min was very unhappy in his heart. Her husband's ambitions and calculations, she has long heard clearly. Under the guise of buying a second house, the husband calculated her parents' pension and wanted to eat her parents' extermination.
At this time, the mother-in-law also assisted God, saying that you are an only child, and your parents' money is not spent in vain, so why should you cheapen others in vain? He Min knew that what her mother-in-law was talking about was a cousin who was eyeing her parents' family.
03, "Your family's 200,000 bride price, can not afford to bear"
But even so, He Min still did not want to cheapen her in-laws and husband in vain. Her parents' money, who they were willing to spend, was their freedom and right. The in-laws should not point fingers, let alone think of eating the family.
Discovering these calculations of the in-laws, He Min could no longer sit still. Since marrying her husband for half a year, although the mother-in-law gave a dowry of 200,000 yuan, this money only shocked her hand, and then she was cheated away by her husband for various reasons.
Even her own dowry has been tricked into taking away tens of thousands of dollars. Even in this dowry room under her name, her husband has repeatedly advised her to add his name, saying that since they are all married, they should no longer divide you and me, and the husband and wife should have one heart.
Whether the husband and wife have a heart, He Min does not know. But her husband and mother-in-law are always worried about her parents' pensions, but she is clear. He Min sternly refused and decided to stop the loss in time. She told her husband: Divorce, your family's 200,000 bride price, I can't afford it.
If there is no follow-up coaxing 200,000 dowry, there is no tens of thousands of dowries that have been cheated away, perhaps He Min will really meet true love and good mother-in-law.
However, all this is just a dream after all. You think it's true love, but others only look at your money and your parents' money.
Therefore, a woman who marries casually without considering her family situation is stupid. Because you will punish your stupidity with mistakes in the second half of your life.
Today's Topic:
Do you think Mr. He Min's husband wants to eat the family?