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In this world, the most important thing we need to be thankful for is our parents. Because it is our parents who give us life, if there are no parents, then we will not have the opportunity to open our eyes to the world, let alone have the good life we have today. The most paid in our growth process is also the parents, parents can give everything for their children, even if they do not have, they will try to satisfy their children.
It can be said that parents are the people who love us the most. Then, as children, we should also assume the responsibility of supporting our parents, so that parents can enjoy their old age in peace, which is our unshirkable responsibility as children.
The 73-year-old Uncle He cried and complained: "Everyone thinks that living with my children is very happy, and my old friends around me are also envious of me being able to retire with my son, but for me, I really don't want my son's companionship filial piety, because following my son to retire makes my old age miserable." "Why doesn't Uncle He want to retire with his son?" Let's listen to his story.
Self-narrator: Uncle He
I'm 73 years old and now I've been retired for 13 years. In fact, I always wanted to retire early, because my work was particularly busy, and I often had to travel around the country for business. When I was younger, I didn't have much time to focus on my own family, and if my wife hadn't understood me and managed my family very well, my life wouldn't have been so happy.
I married my wife very early, because in our time it was like this, I started blind dates as a teenager and got married after I reached the legal age. My wife and I did not fall in love freely, but through the introduction of the matchmaker, but I was lucky, because my wife especially met my criteria for mate selection, and when I first met her, I liked her.
And my wife is also very fond of me, so after we have known each other for a while, we are naturally married. In the years after marriage, our husband and wife have also lived a very happy life, and my wife is a virtuous helper, and it is precisely because of her that I can go out to work with confidence. Apart from my parents, the person I am most grateful to in this life is my wife, because she has allowed me to live a happy life.
The most indebted thing in my life is also my wife, because of the busy work, I don't have much time to be with her. That's why I wish I could retire early, so that I could spend time with my wife. After retiring, we both lived happily ever after, and I took my wife to travel to many places and live a colorful life in my old age.
I really hope that our old age will continue like this, and this is the old age I dreamed of. But God didn't hear my heart, five years ago, because of an accident, my wife left me forever. It was a thunderbolt for me, and although we weren't young anymore, I never thought it would come so early. Because the blow was too severe, after my wife left, I also had a disease.
After staying in the hospital for more than a week, although I was still sad in my heart, I also knew that my wife must have hoped that I could always be happy and did not want me to be depressed all day. So I also work hard to run my own life, hoping to get out early.
After my wife left for two months, my son and wife planned to take me to their house and let me retire at their house. At that time, I didn't want to go, because I still wanted to live in a familiar environment, and this home has a lot of common memories with my wife, and I hope to retire in this place full of my wife's memories.
After I refused, my son said to me, "Dad, in fact, there is another reason why we want you to let you pass, that is, we hope that you can help us see the children, so that we can relieve some pressure." And you are so old, you should follow us to retire together, let us both be filial to you, this is what we should do as sons and daughters-in-law. Hope you can think about it and don't rush to reject us. ”
After listening to my son's words, my heart slowly shook. If it's for any other reason, then I certainly can't stick to it. But the couple said they needed my help, so I couldn't be like I didn't see it, so eventually I went back to their house with my son and daughter-in-law.
In the first six months of living in my son's house, my life was still quite delicious. First of all, with the company of their family, my life is indeed not so lonely, and I am slowly getting out of the pain of my wife's death. Secondly, the couple is also very filial to me, usually do not let me do much housework, and often take me out to dinner when I have time, I really feel the filial piety of my son and daughter-in-law to me.
Some of my old friends around me think I have a good son and envy my life. At first, I thought the same thing, but then I found out that the filial piety of my son and daughter-in-law could not stand the scrutiny of time. After living in my son's house for a long time, I found out the true face of the two of them, and the reason why they were so good to me was that they had no intentions.
For a while, my daughter-in-law often talked to me about the pressure of life, the couple's salary is not high, but the monthly mortgage and car loan are more than 7,000 yuan, and the cost of children going to kindergarten is also very large, they are overwhelmed by the burden of life. Hearing my daughter-in-law say this, I, as a father, also have to perform, so I give them 5,000 yuan a month, hoping to share some for them.
My monthly pension is 6,000 yuan, after taking 5,000 out, I only have 1,000 left, but I usually have no expenses, 1,000 yuan is enough. But I didn't expect that this was just the beginning, and when they found that I was easily soft-hearted, they often found reasons to borrow money from me.
Later, even the tuition fees of the grandson are paid by me, and the kindergarten that the grandson goes to is relatively good, and it costs nearly 20,000 yuan a semester, and all this money is from me. And all the expenses of the grandson are also responsible for me alone, and the couple usually wants to buy anything they want to buy.
At the beginning, I thought that I was such a son, and my money was all his in the future, so when the couple asked me for money, I did not stingy and met their requirements every time. In the more than four years that my son lived in the family, I spent more than 300,000 yuan for them, and now I only have 130,000 savings left.
I don't think I can go on like this anymore, and if I continue like this, then I won't have any money left, and if there are any three long and two short, I don't know where to get the money. So I didn't want to spend money on them anymore, and since I didn't want to take the money, their attitude towards me has changed dramatically.
There is no filial piety at all, and sometimes when I am in a bad mood, I will lose my temper. Especially my daughter-in-law, now she pushes me to do the housework at home, and if I don't make her satisfied, then she will keep talking about me, and some words are really unsightly.
I never thought that the couple were such people, I thought I was still quite accurate, but I couldn't see my son and daughter-in-law as a person, and I thought it was really a failure. Although they are not very good to me now, they are still very filial when they are outside, and they do a very good job of superficial work.
In fact, in private, my life was really miserable, I really regretted it, and my son's companionship and filial piety made my old age miserable. I really don't want to spend my future life like this, so in the last week I left my son's house, I still have some savings, and I still have a pension of 6,000 yuan per month, plus I am still in better health, I usually save money and use a little, I still have no problem with my own pension, there is no need to be angry with their husband and wife at my son's house.
Write at the end
The most important thing for people is to learn to be grateful, not to ask for their parents to live a particularly good life, but to be filial to their parents, and to take more care of their parents' lives after their parents are old. And the elderly's pension is mostly still dependent on themselves, do not always think of letting their children give pensions, save more money when they are young, so that they can give themselves pensions after they are old, do not need to look at the faces of their children, and life is not to mention how comfortable it is.