There are data showing that now more and more people choose to be single, many people are unwilling to get married or even when it comes to the topic of marriage, they will feel inexplicable fear, and everyone will choose to avoid this topic.
There are also some people who have been in love for a long time and feel that they are suitable for each other, but when it comes to discussing the topic of marriage, they will show excessive tension and fear, in fact, this situation is what we often call premarital phobia.
Why does premarital phobia occur? These 5 factors are "mixed with a foot"
1, afraid of not handling family relations well
Life after marriage is completely different from before marriage, after marriage is not only living with their lovers, but also with each other's parents and relatives, everyone's personality is different, everyone needs a run-in period to live together, not to mention that since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the most difficult relationship to get along with.
When encountering problems, after all, they are not their own biological parents, they are certainly not so tolerant of themselves, and they will be biased towards their own children, which will lead to many people being afraid of marriage, after all, everyone is the baby held by their parents in the palm of their hands, and no one wants to go to other people's homes to be angry;
At this time, it is necessary to give each other a time to spend with their families, so as to better avoid the nervousness of entering a new family after marriage, thus affecting each other's feelings.
2, the friends around you who are married are complaining about marriage
Since ancient times, people's fantasies of love have always been sweet and beautiful, and they also hope that they can meet sweet love, but as they grow older, the circle of friends is constantly expanding, and there are more and more friends who are married around.
At this time, we sadly found that all the friends who are married, talking to you about their marriage, complaining mostly, many times will tell you that if you can choose again, absolutely not to get married, you will also tell you some of the misfortunes in the marriage, the lover's incomprehension, different ideas, three days of quarrels at both ends and so on.
Listening to these words more, your expectations for love will slowly decrease, you will not want to get married, and premarital phobia will appear.
3. Differences of opinion before marriage
Some couples who are about to get married will always encounter some differences before marriage, after all, the wedding involves a lot of things, then there will be a situation of disagreement, even if it is just a small thing, just like taking wedding photos, two people will also have different ideas, always feel that their ideas are right, have their own reasons to insist.
At this time, if you let this disagreement continue, you will make each other tired of marriage, although marriage may only be once in many people's lives, but this boredom will make you start to wonder whether marriage is the right choice, which is also a factor in suffering from marriage phobia.
4, afraid of not being free
People who are accustomed to being single, after suddenly getting married, will not adapt, for example, when they were alone before, they wanted to go anywhere, and they could play until they wanted, but after marriage, it was different, at this time, they had to consider the other half's ideas, it seemed that they were not as free as before marriage.
After all, marriage is not to talk about love, love is not suitable can also break up, but marriage can not always say that the separation, many times, many people because of the excessive yearning for freedom, resulting in these people have premarital phobia, afraid that after marriage will be constrained.
5, do not believe that love will last
It is said that marriage is the graveyard of love, and everyone in life is looking forward to beautiful love at the beginning, but with the development of society, it will be found that this is a fast-paced era, and people's feelings are also coming and going fast.
So this gives people a kind of love in this world without a long time, since two people are together, they will eventually be separated, so why start, it is better not to be together at the beginning, so that they can save a lot of trouble, do not waste each other's time and life, it is because of this extreme distrust of feelings, it will make more and more people have premarital phobia.
The above 5 factors are the main reasons for people's premarital phobia, in fact, in the strict sense, premarital phobia is caused by people's fear of unknown married life, uneasiness, lack of trust and understanding of each other, to alleviate this premarital phobia, you need to communicate with others more, of course, if premarital phobia is very serious, it is still recommended to consult a professional psychologist.