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I saw a post online where a girl and her boyfriend said they needed to unlock the couple's permissions on a software.
The purpose is to help their friends of the opposite sex to defuse each other's girlfriends who are in the cold war by binding relationships with each other.
The man said that he could not accept it, and even angrily proposed to break up, the girl could not understand, thinking that he was too fussy.
Although this is only a post, it also reflects a lot of problems. Some people are too close to each other.
1. We are just friends
In reality, in fact, there are many people who already have boyfriend and girlfriend, and there will still be a large number of friends of the opposite sex around them.
These people claim the title of friends and do things that are only available to couples, but ask each other's partners not to mind.
In their view, not getting does not mean not having. They just enjoy such an irresponsible relationship.
However, their behavior has caused harm to others, and even made the other half of the other party have to choose to leave.
There has been a survey and interviews with some people who have done this kind of thing, but no one is remorseful.
Because, in their opinion, they're just doing the same thing they did when they were single, and from start to finish, they didn't put other people in their eyes.
It's just that whenever the other partner is thunderous, they will say, "Don't mind if we're just friends." ”
2. You should have your own measure
Anyone who is in love should know one thing, love is very pure, can not tolerate impurities.
If someone really treats you as a friend, he will definitely not remain ambiguous with you after you have an object.
Won't call you out for a drink late at night, won't make you give up staying with your partner in the name of being sad.
In front of your other half, you will repeatedly emphasize how close you are to you and how close you are.
Because, a true friend knows very well that you will be friends for a lifetime, and his life cannot be just you.
He will gladly witness your happiness instead of trying to break up the happiness that belongs to you. Just to achieve their own ends.
Therefore, in the process of interacting with friends, especially for friends of the opposite sex, you should know how to score inches and maintain the minimum etiquette.
3. Everyone is insecure
In the eyes of some people, friends should be intimate, and friends should insert knives into each other's ribs.
This is true, but these should also have a bottom line, not unreservedly paid.
Especially when you have a significant other, no matter what you do, you have to consider how the other person will feel.
Suppose this happened to the other person today, how would you feel if he made the same decision as you?
Many things in life are the same truth: "Do not do to others what you do not want."
If even you yourself will mind, why do you ask the other party to learn to be sensible, tolerant, and considerate of you?
In love, everyone lacks a sense of security. And the minimum sense of security is obtained from the respect given by the lover.
4. Love, there must be a bottom line
People always say that when they fall in love with a person: "See the deer when the forest is deep, see the whale when the sea is blue, and see you when you wake up in the dream." “
However, the person who will only hurt you will tell you with actions: "When the forest is deep, you see fog, when the sea is blue, when you wake up, you continue to sleep." “
You can forgive someone who no longer loves you, but you can't forgive someone who constantly hurts you with 'I love you'.
If the other person doesn't know what 'keeping a distance' is, then please keep your distance from them.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.