Text/Tang Tang, Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
As the saying goes: "Eating is seven points full, and being a person is eight points good." ”
In real life, there are always some people who like to be full of everything and are reluctant to leave vacancies. But everything should pay attention to leaving blank, too late, it is useless.
Truly intelligent people know how to seek eight points in life and two points to seek lack.
Eight points are spoken of, not silent; only eight points are revealed, not ostentatious; eight points are contested for profits, and no calculations are made.
When you understand the wisdom of the eight points, you understand the true meaning of life and become a truly intelligent person.
01. Talk only eight points, don't say anything
The writer Hemingway once said:
"It takes two years for people to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to shut up."
Yes, for people to deal with the world, it is said that eight points and two points are to leave space for others, but also to accumulate blessings for themselves. Otherwise, talking nonsense will only cause trouble.
During the Song Dynasty, there was a Li Langzhong who opened a Chinese medicine shop.
One day, a man fell ill and came to see him. Li Langzhong, with his superb medical skills, helped him cure his illness.
The patient was very grateful, and everyone praised Li Langzhong's superb medical skills, and prepared gifts to come to the door to thank him.
So Li Langzhong also prepared good wine and good dishes and warmly welcomed him.
Halfway through the drink, the two talked happily. The patient mentioned an acquaintance of Li Langzhong, who happened to be his childhood neighbor, and now he was an official in the court, and he knew that the neighbor had many unknown troubles, and through wine, Li Langzhong shook all these out.
Although Li Langzhong was a little drunk, he felt that if he helped him cure his illness, that person should be grateful to himself, and he would certainly not tell the outside world what he said.
However, not long after, Li Langzhong's Chinese medicine shop was closed by the government.
It turned out that after the patient returned, he told the people around him about the neighbor's troubles that Li Lang had told. Ten, ten, ten,
The neighbor was particularly angry, so he took an opportunity and directly closed li Langzhong's medicine shop.
Li Langzhong is dumb and eats Huang Lian, and there is bitterness that cannot be said. He only hated himself for talking nonsense and destroying the drug store that had been in business for many years.
As a human being, we must know how to say something and not to say something.
Knowing how to be silent at the right time and keeping your mouth shut is a respect for others and the embodiment of a person's cultivation.
Leaving room for talking, doing things in a measured manner, is the mature way of dealing with the world.
The words are full, and nothing is said. Not only for others, but also for yourself.
Those who want to achieve things must first manage their mouths and guard their hearts, so that they can go wider and wider in life.
02. Only eight points, not everywhere to show off
Ancient Cloud:
"A gentleman must be clever and talented."
A person is talented, which is originally a good thing. But if you show off everywhere, it will attract resentment and even cause trouble.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Yang Xiu worked as a strategist under Cao Cao. He was brilliant and could often figure out Cao Cao's thoughts.
Cao Cao ordered people to build a garden, and he wrote a "living" character on the door. No one else knows what they mean. Yang Xiu said: "The door is added to the word "living", which is "wide", and the door of the garden is too wide. Cao Cao heard about it and was "very jealous" of Yang Xiu.
Cao Cao was often worried about being murdered, so he said that he would kill people in his dreams. Soon after, Cao Cao killed an internal servant in his sleep. Yang Xiu said, "The minister is not in the dream, but the jun is in the dream." After Cao Cao listened, he "became more and more evil" to Yang Xiu.
Later, Cao Cao led his troops to fight unfavorably, and the army was temporarily caught in a dilemma. One evening, his subordinates asked Cao Cao what the nocturnal password was, and Cao Cao casually replied with "chicken ribs."
When Yang Xiu heard this, he immediately advised the generals to pack their bags and prepare to retreat. He said, "Chicken ribs, this thing, eat tasteless, throw away a pity." The prime minister used this as a password to indicate that he intended to withdraw his troops. ”
When Cao Cao learned of this, he was furious and executed Yang Xiu for disturbing the hearts of the army.
Although Yang Xiu was intelligent, he did not understand Tibetan wisdom, and he also loved to show off everywhere, and eventually suffered the disaster of killing himself.
Compared with Yang Xiu's misfortune coming out of his mouth, Sima Yi in the late Three Kingdoms period was well versed in the principle of hiding the feng and defending it.
Although Sima Yi was full of talent, he was very good at hiding clumsiness.
In order to reassure Cao Cao, he was busy with work and forgot to eat, and even the small things of cutting grass and herding horses were personally done. Even, he did not care about his dignity at all, and was willing to kneel down to make Cao Cao a horse bench, in order to eliminate Cao Cao's suspicions.
After Cao Rui's death, Cao Shuang began to monopolize power alone, and he went to great lengths to exclude Sima Yi. In the face of Cao Shuang, who was in the limelight, Sima Yi also adopted the method of Taoguang and obscurity, pretending to be seriously ill.
In order to find out the truth and falsehood, Cao Shuang sent Li Sheng to visit the patient. Sima Yi pretended to be sick in bed, and even needed the help of a mane to get up. When Li Sheng saw this, he left with confidence.
After Cao Shuang heard about this, he gradually let go of his guard against Sima Yi.
Later, Sima Yi seized the opportunity to seize the military power in one fell swoop, completely emptying the Cao Wei regime. Eventually, Sima Yi became the founder of a 155-year empire.
There's a saying that goes something like this:
"Those who have talent will be hidden, such as hun jin pu jade, dark but the sun zhang also."
Truly intelligent people not only have superior intelligence, but also have the foresight to be human. They know how to hide the front and wait for the opportunity. And will not be exposed, showing off everywhere, bringing unnecessary harm to themselves.
Those who achieve great things are wise and foolish, and they are careful in their words and deeds. Only in this way can we achieve ourselves and make a difference.
03. Profit only fights for eight points, and calculates from time to time
Sima Qian said in the Records of History:
"The world is bustling, all for profit, the world is bustling, all are for profit."
Whether it is to be a person or to do business, only by knowing how to benefit others can we seek longer-term development for ourselves.
Teacher Liu Run once told such a story.
Hans Brewery, a subsidiary of Tsingtao Brewery, lost money for 9 consecutive years. Jin Zhiguo, who was working as an assistant to the factory director at the head office at the time, was ordered to take over this arduous task.
After Jin Zhiguo took office, in order to solve the marketing problem, he promised the distributors: "No matter how the beer ends up selling, I promise that I will never let you lose money." If you make money, count yours, lose money, count mine. ”
A year later, Hans Brewery successfully turned a profit, not only filling in the loss of 38 million yuan in previous years, but also making more than 12 million profits.
Jin Zhiguo immediately held a dealer meeting to fulfill his original promise.
Among these dealers, for those who lose money, Jin Zhiguo does not say a word, helping them to make up for the loss; for those who make money, he also gives heavy rewards, and the more they earn, the more rewards they will receive.
In the end, Jin Zhiguo gave 10 million yuan to the dealer, leaving only 2 million profits for the company.
Jin Zhiguo's words and letters have greatly encouraged the dealers. They firmly believe that if they follow Jin Zhiguogan, they will definitely gain greater benefits and development.
Since then, dealers have worked harder. Two years later, the profit of the Hans Brewery exceeded 100 million yuan.
People who are good at calculation seem to win the moment, but in fact they lose the pattern;
People who know how to make profits seem to suffer losses and damages, but in fact they have won the future.
The ancients said: "Profit can be shared but not alone." ”
Working with people, if you are calculating everywhere, it will only make the road narrower and narrower; if you can believe what you say and share, you can achieve win-win cooperation.
People who are really smart have a longer-term vision and a broader heart. They will not stick to the immediate interests, but know how to make trade-offs and benefit others, so that they can also harvest broader prospects.
04. Mei Niang said
Zeng Guofan once said:
"There is room for words not to be said, there is room for not doing things, and there is no afterglow for emotions to be scattered."
In this world, no one's life is perfect, but there are always people who can live easily and comfortably.
It is not because of luck, but because they know how to leave room for people everywhere and stop at the right time.
Words are full of words, with good intentions, and do not say anything;
Only to show eight points high, great wisdom is foolish, not to show off everywhere;
Eight points of profit, sharing a win-win situation, calculating from time to time.
Eight full lives, just right. There are degrees of progress and retreat, and it is always appropriate to be thick and light.
In the days to come, may you and I be smart people who understand the "law of two and eight", even if they can't achieve much, but at least they can harvest a full happiness.
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