Life, rarely confused
In a lifetime, there is no need to be too shrewd, and people who are too shrewd are actually tired of themselves.
Being too shrewd will actually keep yourself away from the circle of relationships.
No one wants to have a searchlight by their side that can visit their depths. Make yourself transparent to nothing.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Cao Cao had a wise man by his side, named Yang Xiu.
Once when Cao Cao was blocked during a battle, he thought hard and could not get the point.
While he was eating chicken soup, a guard came in and asked what was the password for that night?
His gaze fell on the chicken's ribs and he casually said "chicken ribs." The guards conveyed the password, and when the counselor Yang Xiu heard Cao Cao convey the password, he said to the soldiers around him: "Chicken ribs, the food is tasteless, it is a pity to abandon it, the minister will soon retire, it is better for you to make plans earlier." ”
Cao Cao found it very strange for the soldiers to pack their luggage, because he did not issue an order to withdraw his troops at all, asked why, and was furious. Ordered Yang Xiu to be put to death. Because he published "false information" and disturbed the hearts and minds of the military.
In fact, he hated Yang Xiu's "self-made cleverness", and he repeatedly guessed what Cao Cao was thinking. But this time, he committed a big taboo, violated the law, and lost his life. It's really clever to be mistaken by cleverness.
Really smart people are all seeing through and not saying it through. Only three points are spoken for people, and the remaining seven points are played in the world.
In the process of getting along with people, talking more, listening more, and arguing more can only plunge yourself into the black hole of interpersonal crisis and cannot extricate yourself.
Only "seeing through and not saying thoroughly" and "pretending to be deaf and dumb" is the wisdom of life that is as wise as a fool.
If you observe carefully, the people around you who talk about it and talk a lot will not be respected by people.
More words will be lost, and more words will hurt people.
Only by not gossiping and not manipulating right and wrong can we get the respect of others.
Wang Xiaobo said: "One of the main reasons why I chose silence: from words, you rarely learn human nature, but from silence you can, if you want to get more, then you must continue to be silent." ”
Lao Tzu said: He who strengthens the beam must not die. The victor will meet his enemy.
Don't think that your strong words will convince people. In fact, people just don't care to argue with you.
Once, Zhang Daqian held a painting exhibition abroad, and Zhang Daqian exerted his superb painting skills and painted a peony painting on the spot.
When closing the pen, Zhang Daqian mouth contains water and sprays it evenly onto the picture, and after such "processing", the peony picture becomes vivid and vivid.
At the time when people were clapping their hands and applauding, at this time, a mangy man rushed out of the crowd and questioned Zhang Daqian: "The master's so-called superb painting skills were originally spitting tea and smearing indiscriminately, which was inevitably too ridiculous!" ”
People think that Zhang Daqian will give this "mangy man" a good idea, or argue with him on the basis of reason.
But Zhang Daqian sorted out the canvas, smiled and left.
Afterwards, someone asked Daqian why he didn't explain and tell him, this is a technique of Chinese painting.
Zhang Daqian said calmly: "If this person is really interested in Chinese painting, he will naturally understand the painting technique of this kind of Chinese painting." If he's not interested, it's pointless to explain it to him, and it's still himself who ends up hurting himself. ”
Not explaining, not arguing, is a kind of wisdom. Instead of arguing, be silent.
Rockefeller said, "People who are smart are fools, and people who know how to pretend to be stupid are really smart." ”
When the water is clear, there is no fish, and when people are aware, there is no vain.
People are rarely confused, a little confused, maybe faster. If you are a little confused, you will be relaxed.