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There is a saying: "What a person's pattern is, his end is the same." ”
Deeply believed, if people have a large pattern, they will have far-reaching vision, a broad heart, and the road of life will naturally be smooth and smooth; and if a person's pattern is small, they will be short-sighted and narrow-minded, and they will make the road of life narrower and narrower.
We all want to be people with big patterns, but the pattern is not your mood, not your wisdom, it is a supernatural ability, a hidden power.
"Ghost Valley" says: "The transformation of heaven and earth is in the high and deep; the rule of the saints is hidden and hidden." ”
People with a really big pattern will not sell their skills along the street, but will not reveal their abilities and manage their lives with a rigorous attitude.
01. Never show off your cleverness
During the Three Kingdoms period, Cao Cao had a scholar, Yang Xiu, who was very intelligent and learned. However, he likes to play small tricks and show off his knowledge, which makes Cao Cao very disgusted.
Once, Cao Cao was resting in the pavilion, and there were several followers next to him, including Yang Xiu. At this time, a Foreign friend brought a box of snacks.
Cao Cao was happy and his poetry was so happy that he wrote the three words "One He Crisp" on the gift box with a pen. After that, Cao Cao walked out of the pavilion and went back to rest.
After Cao Cao left, Yang Xiu opened the dim sum box and ate the pastries and several of his entourage. The retinue asked Yang Xiu, "What if Cao Cao is angry?" And Yang Xiu said: "One crisp" is "one person and one bite of crisp".
Everyone was relieved and no longer frightened. After this matter was known to Cao Cao, he was very angry. Later, Yang Xiu played a little clever in front of Cao Cao several times, and Cao Cao began to hate Yang Xiu to the bone.
Finally, when Cao Cao sent troops to fight with the foreigners, because of his bad mood and overwork, he blurted out: "Chicken ribs... Chicken ribs..."
After Yang Xiu heard this, he ordered all the soldiers of the army to pack their bags and retreat, saying that the lord said: "Chicken ribs... Chicken...... It is a pity to abandon it, and it is tasteless to eat it", which is a signal to the soldiers of the whole army to lose the battle.
Therefore, before the Battle of Cao Cao, the whole army began to retreat, but he himself did not have this intention. Knowing that it was Yang Xiu's cleverness, he was furious and ordered Yang Xiu to be dragged out and beheaded.
Yang Xiu died, but he was only old enough to stand up, all because he loved to show his little wisdom.
People who are really smart are praised by others. Showing off your cleverness will only make more people hate you. Because you flaunt your cleverness for no reason, in a way you despise others.
In this world, except for your parents who are willing to accept your ostentatious capital, no one likes to listen to your boastfulness. Even siblings will stay away from you because of your pride.
Therefore, the sharp and flamboyant will not only bring you benefits, but also cause you unnecessary trouble, and it is better to keep a low profile.
If everything you see is humility and gentleness, then what your heart feels must be fraternity and tolerance, so that everyone will have admiration for you.
02. Never show off your achievements
Psychologist Adler said in "Inferiority and Transcendence": "The essence of showing off is inferiority, so people who like to show off too much usually have a strong sense of inferiority." ”
People who like to show off too much, seemingly they are amazing, but in fact, they are a manifestation of their inner vulnerability. And the truly accomplished people do not show off themselves, the ultimate in their thinking is plain and simple.
There was a doctor who made a contribution in the fight against the epidemic, and he returned home so tired that he lay in bed and slept soundly. At this time, Dad, because of his happiness, posted a few pictures of him on the wall of his bedroom.
When the doctor woke up, he removed his picture from the wall. And inexplicably asked dad, "Why are you posting my picture on the wall?" ”
Dad said: "They all say you are a hero, the newspapers, the news have reported it, what is wrong with us posting a few photos?" ”
The doctor said, "What kind of hero I am, and my colleagues who sacrificed their lives, that is the hero!" ”
The Tao Te Ching says, "The way of the saints is not to argue." This means that noble people do not compete for credit.
The really powerful people know that they are sharp and introverted, and Taoguang is obscure.
In their work, they know how to distinguish between public and private; in the world, they know how to do things in a low-key manner and behave in a high-profile manner. They are not chased by fame and fortune, and treat anyone with a humble and easy-going attitude.
And those who are jealous of their grades, who preach themselves everywhere, who are arrogant and arrogant. Because of narrow thinking, if we give up the near and seek the far, we will lose more because of small losses, and we will gain more than we lose.
There is a saying called "the latecomer comes first". A person who loves to show off his achievements, only when his state of mind is calm, will know that all the ostentation is a weapon that causes him to lag behind, and humility and introspection are the force that urges people to forge ahead.
Therefore, life filters out the show off, will precipitate the real self.
03. Never flaunt your strengths
People with wide knowledge, even if they have more advantages, will choose to hide, and short-sighted people will show their advantages without worry. In fact, relying on your own show off can not determine the size of your strength, the real strength of people in life, often do not show the mountain, do not dew.
Zhao Liying's ex-boyfriend Feng Shaofeng became popular because of his cooperation with Yang Mi in "Palace". With the rise of his reputation, Feng Shaofeng's family lineage has also been pulled out.
It turned out that Feng Shaofeng's parents were ordinary people, who made a fortune by their own diligent and sincere work, and there were mansions and luxury cars at home...
And all this was not known to people before Feng Shaofeng was red.
Feng Shaofeng has a low-key personality and never shows off his family advantages. If it weren't for the popularity of filming, we might never have known he was a rich aristocrat.
He and Zhao Liying became acquainted because of the drama, married and had children, and were blessed by countless people, and the news of Zhao Liying marrying into the rich was noisy for a while. But unfortunately, the two people later ended up divorced and did not go to the end.
Now, Feng Shaofeng also does not shoot dramas, in fact, he did not take filming as a profession, and filming is purely a personal hobby.
Truly powerful people will not show their advantages, let alone show off their identity and status... Because their strength is really powerful, it does not need to be proved by showing off.
They know in their hearts that being deliberate and hollowing out their minds will not improve their abilities a little. And putting down the body and the shelf, down-to-earth efforts, is really powerful.
People who really have an advantage in life have already lowered their posture and worked hard. Only in this way will we be able to go far.
Life, weakness and ignorance are not enough to constitute your regression, only arrogance will make you defend yourself on the way forward.
04. True pattern people never show off themselves
Bacon said, "The people who show off are despised by the wise, admired by the foolish, flattered by the deluded, and at the same time they are slaves to the words they boast of." ”
The earth is low into the sea, and the people are low into kings. Therefore, if people have a humble character, it is the best way to deal with the world.
This will not only make your network wider, but also allow yourself to continue to improve. All the pride-based actions in the world are against us, and they are pushing themselves step by step to the brink of failure. And modesty and prudence can help you succeed in your career.
There is a word called Great Wisdom, which means that it looks stupid, but it is very wise. Such a person is not stupid, but can be clear in whitewashing and disguise, and his thinking is not vain.
They do not show off themselves, they will show their merits in a timely and measured manner, but they are not unique; they can be open-minded and will not be arrogant to others; they can know that there is a depth of learning, but there is no distinction between noble and inferior.
In life, the biggest advantage is that there is talent but not revealed, and there is personality but not publicity. Only in this way will life go smoothly.