01
There is a saying that "the good helps the good, and the evil hinders it." ”
In this world, since there are many good people, they will come to your aid, and naturally there will be many evil people, and they will hinder your development process.
Many people will think, why do we have to meet the evil? Can't you meet it?
In fact, there is not only a bright side in the human world, but also a dark side. That being the case, there will be noble people who help you, as well as some villains who harm you.
We must be humble and respectful to your nobles and never offend them. You know, fate arranged for them to come to our side to help us.
For villains, we must maintain a vigilant attitude and must not relax. You know, being too kind and trusting others too much often won't have any good results.
People in the jianghu must not only know who is a man, but also know who is a wolf. Otherwise, we become a plate of food that we don't know.
In fact, these types of people come to you, destined to "restrain" you, you must be careful and guarded.
02
The person who deliberately praises you is coming to keg you.
For thousands of years, human strategies and strategies have often emerged in an endless stream, from the initial fist and foot fighting to today's scheming, often making people invincible.
In your opinion, what should you do to defeat someone, or to make someone fall?
Professor Zeng Shiqiang said that in a company, when you look at a person who is not pleasing to the eye, then you push him, let him rise higher and higher, and finally come down.
In short, killing is the classic trick of this era.
The so-called "killing" is to hold you to a relatively high place, and then make you proud and arrogant, then you will naturally fall down. The bigger the drop, the worse the fall.
We have to know which one is the villain and which is the evil person, just need to see if he always likes to "hold" us. Those who deliberately exalt us are, in general, either flatterers or old foxes.
All appearances are not as simple as we think.
03
The person who treats you well for no reason is coming to you.
Ji Xiaolan wrote in the "Notes on Reading Wei Caotang": "There will be demons when things go wrong. ”
A man, a thing, if it is excessively abnormal, then he is naturally problematic. There is no unprovoked anomaly in this world, only a purpose for a reason.
Just like others deliberately approach you, even give you a little sweetness, inexplicably good to you, then how will you feel?
If you think that if someone else treats you as a good friend, then you are wrong. You know, everyone has their own goals and pursuits, and who will waste time being good to you?
The ancestors said it well, there is nothing to offer, and it is either adultery or theft.
Others are good to you for no reason, there must be a plot, either you have the interests that the other party needs, or the other party wants to lower your defenses and then calculate you. So, who can guess?
04
The people who always overpower you come to you, and it is to come to you.
In the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Zhou Yu, Zhuge Liang, and Sima Yi, these three people are mutually restrained beings.
Zhou Yu met Zhuge Liang, marveled at "Both Shengyu, He Shengliang", and finally ended up with hatred. Zhuge Liang met Sima Yi and learned that there was no hope for the revival of the Han Dynasty, and finally ran out of oil and fell to Wuzhangyuan.
This is what we often call "one thing and one thing".
Whether it's a thing or a species, it's very common for you to restrain me and I to restrain your behavior. In everyone's lifetime, at least one regularly suppresses your competitors.
For example, if you are in business, you will meet some peers who often suppress you; for example, if you work in the workplace, you will often meet some villains that give you headaches. This is something we cannot avoid.
However, for those who "restrain" us, we must have such a concept, if we can put death and come back to life, it is a kind of growth. If we are willing to be defeated, it is the misfortune of life.
05
Bad partners come to you, it's to come to you.
After talking about outsiders, then we may as well talk about family members. Sometimes, the people in the family are likely to be more terrible than the outsiders.
A military scientist once said that fortresses are often breached from within.
Striking a fortress from the outside is actually a very small chance of breaking through. However, if there are people in the fortress who are fighting in the nest, I believe that this fortress will be conquered.
In the same way, some members of the family, if they have any bad thoughts, then in the end, it is still us who are unlucky.
Just like the partner, if he is very good and knows how to help us, then the family will not be worse. However, if he is not good, he will only drag his feet, and even have other people in his heart, then our situation is dangerous.
Therefore, the bad pillow person is like a hidden knife. If we are not careful, it is still us who are hurt.
06
Write to the end
People in the jianghu, originally I calculated you, you routine me, no big deal. And we just need to protect ourselves, that's it.
There is a way that "the heart of defense against others must not be without, and the heart of harming people must not be absent." ”
Since no one knows who is kind and who is malicious, we cannot take it lightly. Again, don't underestimate human nature, don't overestimate people's hearts.
That's all.
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