Lao Tzu wrote in the Tao Te Ching: "Water is good for all things without dispute, and it is evil to all, so it is more than the Tao." ”
Water, although it benefits all things, has not competed with others for anything, and is always at a low position that is looked down upon by others, so it is particularly close to the road of this world.
Water has a quality, that is, know how to "converge" their own sharp edges, rather than low-key, rather than do eye-catching things at will, so as to be able to save themselves, fine water and long flow.
If we can, then we still have to learn the way of "water" in the world. Don't think that the water is too low, perhaps, the surface is calm, but in fact it can crash on the shore, that is its real strength.
In this complex human world, the relationship between people is not as simple as we think, so how do we deal with this sinister world?
The best way to do it is to "be low-key and humble." It is better to be a person, or to keep a low profile, otherwise you will end up with the sad result of "wood shows in the forest, and the wind will destroy it".
If people in the jianghu always like to "show" these things, then he will often provoke countless villains and disasters.
01
People in the jianghu, less exposed to the secrets related to "money".
Money, in fact, has two sides, one side is an angel, one side is a demon, one side is a sharp knife to defeat others, and the other side is a sharp blade that hurts oneself. It can be said that money is not as simple as we think.
Money is an angel because it can help us solve ninety-nine percent of the world's problems. At least, the gap between having money in hand and not having money in hand is not a star and a half.
The reason why money is a demon is because it will eventually cause us countless rights and wrongs and contradictions. All disputes in this world stem from monetary gain.
People who can really grasp the "knife" of money, in addition to being able to shrewdly calculate the use of money, will also control money in a low-key manner, and will not tell secrets related to money.
In ancient times, there was a hunter who hung his flesh on a tree in front of the door to dry it. Who knows, this piece of meat actually attracted countless evil wolves and tigers and leopards, making him feel a great threat.
In the same way, in real life, if we go around showing off our money and telling others how much money we have made, isn't that "self-inflicted trouble"?
For money, we must not be careless, but only cautious and careful.
02
People in the rivers and lakes, less show the achievements of fame.
There is a saying in "Dream of the Red Chamber": "Too high people are jealous, and they are the same as the world." ”
Your achievements and honors are too high to be particularly jealous. You are too clean and self-righteous, without any stains, and believe that everyone around you will regard you as an enemy.
If you don't achieve it, you will be laughed at. If you achieve too high, you will be hostile to others. Why is there such a contradictory situation?
Actually, there is no contradiction. What is human nature? It is the nature of worshipping high and stepping low, and seeing no good nature. You are strong, although others will admire you, but do not want you to live well, then they will make trouble.
For example, if you do things in the workplace and have done several projects that make your boss particularly happy, then your situation is very dangerous. Because you make your boss happy, your colleague can only see you as an enemy.
To be honest, in the workplace, it is more important to have a good relationship with colleagues than to have a good relationship with the boss.
Do things, can not be too high-profile, even if they are famous, strong ability, extraordinary achievements, you must pretend to be confused in time, play tai chi, then you can better protect yourself.
03
People in the jianghu, less show their past experience.
There is an old folk saying: "A good man does not mention the courage of the year." ”
When I was young, I was particularly puzzled, since I was a good man, why couldn't I mention my experience in those years? Later, I summed up two reasons.
First of all, to be human, you need to look forward. If we care too much about past achievements, then we are likely to lack self-motivation and be easily satisfied, which is not conducive to future development.
Secondly, there are many good men's past, which cannot be known. For example, some bosses who have made a fortune, don't look at his mouth full of benevolence and morality, it is possible that he has a belly full of male thieves and female prostitutes.
I know that there is a saying that is particularly good, compared with getting face, living longer is the king.
We might as well look at Sima Yi to see this. No matter what he did or what experience he had, he would not easily say it, but let the secret rot in his heart.
Therefore, people like Sima Yi can finally protect themselves, and finally seize the opportunity to become a success, a blockbuster.
04
People in the jianghu, less show family-related matters.
There is one place in this world that will extremely involve our nerves, and that is our family.
Family this place, although it is particularly ordinary, but it is our weakness. As long as there is any big contradiction in the family, I believe that we will not live happily in the second half of our lives.
For example, if some people stir up discord in the family, so that the relationship between husband and wife, father and son, mother-in-law or brothers and sisters becomes chaotic, then isn't there a problem in the family?
Modern people rarely pay attention to this, and always tell outsiders about family conflicts and problems between relatives, which is irrational behavior.
Especially to tell relatives, that is a self-inflicted practice. You know, no one wants our families to get better and better, except for ourselves.
For the family, we still have to be cautious, some things, can not be displayed, do not show the display. Keep it low, that's the long-term solution.
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